How To Be Queer

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June 07, 2022 episode 31 - stonewall uprising activist martin boyce!
Wanna get the story of the Stonewall Uprising right from someone who was actually there??
Well look no further!! HTBQ has got you covered!
This week, in the first episode of our Pride Month series, we are in conversation with Martin Boyce, who was there irl on that infamous day that Stonewall was raided and kick started what we know today as Pride!
"Martin Boyce is a Stonewall Riot (Uprising) activist, sharing the story of one of the most pivotal queer/trans action in history.
The Stonewall Riots (also known as the Stonewall Uprising or the Stonewall Rebellion) were a series of spontaneous demonstrations by members of the gay community in response to a police raid that began in the early morning hours of June 28, 1969, at the Stonewall Inn in the Greenwich Village neighbourhood of New York City. Patrons of the Stonewall, other Village 2SLGBTQIA+ bars, and neighbourhood street people fought back when the police became violent. The riots are widely considered a watershed event that transformed the gay liberation movement and the twentieth-century fight for LGBT rights in Canada and the United States."
Visit International Day of Pink's Stonewall page for more!
Quick content warning: some descriptions of violence and slurs used.
An immense thank you to the International Day of Pink for arranging this conversation and sponsoring this episode alongside the Embassy of the United States!
Follow International Day of Pink on Instagram!
Extra resources from Martin:
Read Martin’s New York Times Interview
Read Martin’s interview in USA today
Read the PBS interview with Martin
Read Martin’s interview in Teen Vogue here
Listen to Martin’s story on Making Gay History’s podcast
Watch the LGBTCentre of NYC documentary of Stonewall with Martin
Watch the New York Times Documentary here
Watch Martin in the documentary (wiki page) here for free with your local library card
Watch Martin in the news clip from WCBS
Watch Martin in the mini-documentary from The Moth.
Watch Martin in the Stonewall Oral History Project.
40 min
May 31, 2022 episode 30 - kellum and chris!
Okay y'all!!
Pride month starts TOMORROW!!! And as a fun treat because we don't want to leave a random blank space for just one week, we have decided to have an intimate and flirty affair with just Kellum and Chris to get to know them even better!!
Remember back in 2020 when Sam and Chris did a cute episode where they did Buzzfeed quizzes to let you get cozy with their personalities? And Sam and Chris blew up ur eardrums when Sam go Sailor Neptune?? Well get ready because we are going back in time and blowing ur eardrums off again!!!!!!
Just kidding, we are still in 2022 and since Kellum joined us this year we thought we would do a similar pod where you get to know Kellum better by the two of Kellum and Chris taking a Buzzfeed quiz together separately. Follow their journey as they discover which Shrek characters they are by simultaneously taking the "This Is The Most Accurate "Shrek" Personality Quiz You'll Ever Take" Quiz (on Buzzfeed of course)!!
Also, take the quiz for urself and slide into our dms to let us know who you are, or if you are like Deborah Cox and thinking Absolutely Not to our results, ALSO let us know who you think we should have been.
And never forget #t4t #donkeyanddragon
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Alright, we will C U Next Tuesday! And next week, for the first time ever, we have our very first SPONSORED episode!!!!! That's right y'all, we are coming up in the world and ready for BIG THINGS and we hope you are too!!! Next week's episode is pretty rad :)
HAPPY PRIDE!!!
33 min
May 24, 2022 episode 29 - pan, queer, and nonbinary with sara!
SCIENCE FICTION DOUBLE FEATURE!!
Today is Pan Visibility Day, & as a fun treat, we are bringing you TWO PODCASTS!
That's right!! HTBQ is coming at you twice today. This particular episode is our conversation with Sara Savoia (she/they), Queer, nonbinary, disabled, white settler activist making waves in the education world in Simcoe County!!
In this episode, we discuss what being pan means to them, representation, queer and trans kids, and some other socially constructed stuff. One might say that we are socially reconstructing our own world :)
Here are the best ways to follow Sara's amazing equity work or get yourself involved with the work that they are doing (yes, they also are a part of UPlift Black - it's all in the family today!):
Twitter: @SaraSavoia_
Insta: @ssleanne
Thank you Sara for coming on the pod!!! We will absolutely have you back, as well as some other awesome cuties that may or may not have been mentioned herein :):)
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follow Kellum!! @mx.kellum
follow Sam!! @gh0stbr3ath
follow us!! @howtobequeerpodcast
visit our website howtobequeer.ca!!
26 min
May 24, 2022 episode 28 - Black, queer, femme, and pan with shelly!
Welcome back y'all!!
Today is Pan Visibility Day, and as a fun treat, we are bringing you TWO PODCASTS!
That's right!! HTBQ is coming at you twice today. This particular episode is our conversation with Shelly Skinner (she/her), Black Queer activist extraordinaire and all around bad ass femme leading the way in Simcoe County!!
This conversation has been a long time in the making, and we are SOOOOOO excited to have Shelly on the pod (you can tell by the amount of joy and laughter that is built into this episode :)
In this episode, we discuss what being pan means to her, how we can be better allies to the pan community, the intersections of Queerness and Blackness, and just love in general honestly.
It was such a thrill being able to record this episode from the UPlift Black studio with beautiful equipment. If you would also like to use the space, inquire by emailing [email protected]!
Here are the best ways to get a hold of Shelly or get yourself involved with the work that she and her wonderful team (including Chris!!) are doing at UPlift Black:
@becomingshellyann
@upliftblackorg
UPliftBlack.org
Huge thank you to Shelly and UPlift Black - we will be sure to continue this beautiful relationship and look forward to many more episodes in the future :)
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follow Chris!! @mx.fee
follow Kellum!! @mx.kellum
follow Sam!! @gh0stbr3ath
follow us!! @howtobequeerpodcast
visit our website howtobequeer.ca!!
53 min
May 17, 2022 episode 27 - asian and pacific islander heritage with michael!
Alright y'all! Welcome back to another beautiful GUEST EPISODE of HTBQ!
This month (May) is Asian Heritage Month in Canada, Asian American Pacific Islander Heritage Month in the States, and so as a result we wanted to bring on our friend Michael (he/him) to discuss! Listen to the episode to hear more of Michael's story :)
In this episode we talk about so many things, including representation of queer Asians in Canada, Asian Canadian history, current issues, Phillipines and the Filipino diaspora in Canada, the myth of the Model Minority, and so much more! The episode follows a similar (but not exactly the same) format to our regular episodes, so we aren't giving you exact times of the content. We discuss some news, and then get right into our discussion.
Also, check out our stories on Instagram coming up for the remainder of the month, because we will have so much more Asian and Pacific Islander content for your beautiful brains! Keep learning, friends!
A gigantic thank you to our new friend of HTBQ Michael for coming and chatting with us, we sincerely appreciate it and we will absolutely be having him back to discuss more in the future - stay tuned y'all!!
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A reminder that we have another brand new episode coming ONE WEEK FROM TODAY! It will be another guest episode, and we will be discussing pansexuality in honour of Pansexual Visibility Day on May 24th!
For those celebrating, happy long weekend, and we will C U Next Tuesday!
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follow Michael! @_mike.booty
follow Chris!! @mx.fee
follow Kellum!! @mx.kellum
follow Sam!! @gh0stbr3ath
follow us!! @howtobequeerpodcast
visit our website howtobequeer.ca!!
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Sources:
Significant events in history of Canadians of Asian heritage. Government of Canada.
"RuPaul’s Drag Race All Stars" Season 7 Cast Takes Over 'The View' Part 2. The View.
The Fire Island Trailer Promises the Gay Asian Rom-Com of Our Dreams. Them.
43 min
May 10, 2022 episode 26 - a quick n' queer update!
This week we are hitting your ears with a quick update for the coming weeks as well as serving you some of the best queer news stories that are out there currently!
Listen to the episode for more information.
We know that some of the current world events are heavy, so if you need help to leave the despair behind, reach out to someone. Here are some resources to help you in case you need them:
CRISIS LINES:
TRANS LIFELINE
In Canada Call: (877) 330-6366
In USA Call: (877)565-8860
THE TREVOR PROJECT (for LGBTQ Youth)
1-866-844-7386
Click here for online chat and text info
LGBT YOUTH LINE
LGBTQQ22SI peer support
1-800-268-9688
Text 647-694-4275
KIDS HELP PHONE
1-800-668-6868
Did you know the Kids Help Phone # can be found on the back of every Nestle chocolate bar? Now that’s a sweet way to get a crisis resource into the hands of someone who may need it.
GOOD2TALK POST SECONDARY CRISIS LINE
1-866-925-5454
BULLYING HOTLINE CANADA
1-877-352-4497
CRISIS SERVICES CANADA
1-833-456-4566 English
1-866-APPELLE (277-3553) French
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As mentioned in the podcast, we will C U Next Tuesday! Tune in May 17th when we talk about Asian Heritage Month and Asian American Pacific Islander Heritage Month!
Sources:
Mattea Roach's incredible Jeopardy! streak ends after 23 wins. Jeopardy.com.
NBC News includes Jeopardy! winner Mattea Roach’s sexual orientation in tweet. National Post.
'Sex Education' actor Ncuti Gatwa to be next Doctor Who. CTV News.
Janelle Monáe to Star as ‘My Hero’ Josephine Baker in Upcoming TV Series. Rolling Stone.
@itsjojosiwa - Instagram post.
President Biden Announces Karine Jean-Pierre as White House Press Secretary. The White House.
Drag Race confirms new spin-off as RuPaul’s quest for world domination continues. Pink News.
Canadian Blood Services to end blood ban for men who have sex with men. CBC News.
Risk of Exposure to HIV/AIDS. Stanford Health Care.
@gaytimes - Intragram post.
17 min
April 26, 2022 episode 25 - queer time theory!
Y'all, we are absolutely ecstatic to let you in on our next evolution: we have decided to expand HTBQ, and the one-and-only Kellum Jaymes (they/them) will be joining the hosts as a permanent member of the panel! Sam will be on leave for a little while, so while she is away, Kellum and Chris will play! This week, the theme of the episode is Queer Time!
PS: Happy Lesbian Visibility Day!
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This week on HTBQ:
S1: Life Update! 0:42
S2: Queer-ent Events! 7:06 This week, the panel talks about Jojo Siwa (as always, our queen) and the Nickelodeon controversy, and about RPDR All Stars 7!
S3: In Queer Terms! 21:09 This week, the panel explores queer time theory!
S4: Guest Q&A! No guest this week, but there will be very soon!!!
S5: Panel Discussion! 41:09 The panel discussion this week consists of a deeper dive into the question: how do Kellum and Chris queer their own timelines?!
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Alright y'all thanks so much for staying tuned! We sincerely love every single one of you!
PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday, with the next episode scheduled for May 10th! Our theme next episode: Queer Mental Health!
C U Next Time on HTBQ!!!!!!!!
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follow Sam!! @gh0stbr3ath
follow Chris!! @mx.fee
follow Kellum!! @mx.kellum
follow us!! @howtobequeerpodcast
visit our website howtobequeer.ca!!
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Sources:
‘RuPaul’s Drag Race All Stars’ to Feature All-Winner Cast for Season 7. Variety.
Jojo Siwa/Nickelodeon. Buzzfeed News.
Queer Time: The Alternative to "Adulting". JSTOR Daily.
The Comfort of Queer Time Theory. Hopkins, M. 2021.

1 hr 3 min
April 12, 2022 episode 24 - no planet no pride!
One theme for the whole episode. This week's theme? The planet! Queer people exist and are human too, and we are therefore part of this beautiful planet. If we don't have a planet, we can't have pride. Queer people have unique perspectives and a lot to add to the conversation, and so we thought we would help bring part of that conversation to you! Check it out!
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This week on HTBQ:
S1: Life Update! 0:20
S2: Queer-ent Events! 5:53 This week, the panel talks about Jojo Siwa (as always, our queen), Canada's National LGBTQ+ monument, and the Don't Say Gay bill in Florida (boo)!
S3: In Queer Terms! 18:23 This week, the panel explores the expansive definition of queer ecology!
S4: Guest Q&A! No guest this week, but there will be on the very next episode!!! And we think you are gonna love our first RETURNING GUEST!
S5: Panel Discussion! 32:58 The panel discussion this week dives into the ways and reasons that queer and other marginalized people will feel the worst of the effects of climate change (also boo)!
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Enjoy this beautiful episode friends! Hit us up on Instagram, that's the best place to find us. We respond to all messages :) Hope you enjoy the episode! OMIGOSH and Happy April!! And for those celebrating, Ramadan Mubarak, Happy Easter, Happy Sikh New Year and also Happy Anishinaabe New Year, Happy Passover, Happy Earth Day, and Happy Lesbian Visibility Day!
PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday, with the next episode scheduled for April 26th! Our theme next episode: First Panel Guest Episode Realness!
C U Next Time on HTBQ!!!!!!!!
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follow Sam!! @gh0stbr3ath
follow Chris!! @mx.fee
follow us!! @howtobequeerpodcast
visit our website howtobequeer.ca!!
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Sources:
Queer Ecology. Wikipedia.
Queer Ecology. NYU Press.
Solidarity for a Brighter Future: The Intersectionality of LGBTQ+ and Environmental Justice Movements. Clearloop.
How to Queer Ecology: One Goose at a Time. Alex Johnson. Orion Magazine.
@mattxiv
Revealed: Here's what the LGBTQ2S+ national monument will look like. Rachel Aiello. CTV News.
49 min
March 29, 2022 episode 23 - sapphic and queer women!
This week is the first episode we have tried to theme our segments to group them all together! On this episode, all of our segments have to do with women!
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This week on HTBQ:
S1: Life Update! 0:11
S2: Queer-ent Events! 3:27 This week, the panel highlights Disney and the Oscar noms we're watching (and a small update since, yes, they have happened since filming lol!
S3: In Queer Terms! 21:13 This week, the panel explores the expansive definition of sapphic!
S4: Guest Q&A! No guest this week, but there will be in the future!
S5: Panel Discussion! 35:20 The panel discussion this week goes through some quotes by queer women describing their expansive definitions of queerness, as well as a discussion of our own conceptions of the word queer for ourselves!
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Enjoy this beautiful episode friends! Hit us up on Instagram, that's the best place to find us. We respond to all messages :) Hope you enjoy the episode! We are at the end of March can you believe?!! Two more days left of Women's History Month, so just a reminder again (because it is worth saying many times): trans women are women, and nonbinary people aren't!
PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday, with the next episode scheduled for April 12th! Our theme next episode: No Planet No Pride!
C U Next Time on HTBQ!!!!!!!!
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follow Sam!! @gh0stbr3ath
follow Chris!! @mx.fee
follow us!! @howtobequeerpodcast
visit our website howtobequeer.ca!!
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Sources:
Same-Sex Kiss Restored in Pixar’s ‘Lightyear’ Following Staff Uproar Over ‘Don’t Say Gay’ Bill. Variety.
Kristen Stewart & Ariana DeBose Could Become The First Openly Queer Women To Win An Acting Oscar. In Magazine.
Pop Culture Fix: Ariana DeBose Becomes the First Queer Woman of Color to Win a SAG Award. AutoStraddle.
Jessica Chastain honors LGBTQ community with Best Actress win. Entertainment Weekly.
Why “Sapphic” Is Back In Style. AutoStraddle.
6 Women On Why They Prefer The Term 'Queer'. Women's Health.
56 min
March 15, 2022 episode 22 - bimbos, himbos, and thembos!
OMG HI AGAIN!!! Love to have you here! Pull up a chair let's chat a while, Jo Dee Messina style!!!!
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This week on HTBQ:
S1: Life Update! 0:53
S2: Queer-ent Events! 7:12 This week, the panel highlights Batman, Jojo Siwa, the Sims, Drag Race, and Amy Schneider!
S3: In Queer Terms! 12:01 This week, the panel explores the definitions of bimbo, himbo, and thembo!
S4: Guest Q&A! No guest this week, but there will be in the future!
S5: Panel Discussion! 20:23 The panel discussion this week revolves around the dangerous anti-trans and anti-queer legislation happening in the States, specifically Florida and Texas.
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Enjoy this beautiful episode friends! Hit us up on Instagram, that's the best place to find us. We respond to all messages :) Hope you enjoy the episode! We are at the halfway point of March, y'all!! This is your Women's History Month reminder: trans women are women, and nonbinary people aren't!
PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday, with the next episode scheduled for March 29th!
C U Next Time on HTBQ!!!!!!!!
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follow Sam!! @gh0stbr3ath
follow Chris!! @mx.fee
follow us!! @howtobequeerpodcast
visit our website howtobequeer.ca!!
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Sources:
Zoë Kravitz says she 'interpreted' Catwoman as bisexual in 'The Batman'. NBC News.
Instagram Post, @jeopardamy.
tweet, @WillowPillQueen.
Customizable Pronouns Coming to The Sims 4. EA Games.
TikTok, @chrissychlapecka.
In defense of himbos, the hot simple men I love to love. Mashable.
Our Smooth Brained Future: The Rise Of The New Age Bimbo. Refinery29.
Instagram post, @mattxiv
44 min

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