How To Be Queer

How To Be Queer

By Chris, Kellum, & SamEducationHow To
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How To Be Queer episodes

  • episode 13 - polypan panic with taryn! (part i)

    This week, we are coming to you in an all new format! This week we bring you part 1 of our intimate conversation with the one and only TARYN (she/her)!!!

    On this episode, Sam and Chris get to the bottom of Taryn. What makes her tick? Is it that charm, smile, humour? What is it!!!

    (spoiler alert: she is pansexual and wants everyone to know.)

    Taryn is a pan poly hawtie and we are ready to pull up a seat and listen to what she has to say. Get some dating advice, get some queer understandings, get some vine references. You literally name it, it's probably in this episode.

    Make sure to catch part 2 of this conversation, coming October 26!!

    PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday.

    C U Next Time on HTBQ!!!!!!!!

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    follow Taryn!! @tarynleigh.w

    follow Sam!! @gh0stbr3ath

    follow Chris!! @mx.fee

    follow us!! @howtobequeerpodcast

    visit our website howtobequeer.ca!!

    22 min
  • episode 12 - queer chaos!

    This week we wanted to get back to our roots and do an episode with ~*~jUsT tHe tWo Of uS~*~, bring you some more chaos but this time on a new level (queer chaos hunni). 

    On this episode, Sam and Chris answer some questions that they found in the Queeriosity card game (gifted from Melanie - check out episode 11 - distanced dating with Melanie! if you haven't already, luv u Melanie <3). Guided by these cards, Sam and Chris explore their journeys to/through and understandings of their own queerness. 

    PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday, with our next episode hitting your earphones on October 12 - AND we are planning another special guest, and YES YOU GUESSED IT THEY WORKED AT DAVID'S TEA TOO!!

    C U Next Time on HTBQ!!!!!!!!

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    follow Sam!! @gh0stbr3ath

    follow Chris!! @mx.fee

    follow us!! @howtobequeerpodcast

    visit our website howtobequeer.ca!!

    44 min
  • episode 11 - distanced dating with Melanie!

    WE'RE BAAAAACKKK!

    Did u miss us???

    WE MISSED YOU!!

    Okay so today we dive right back into the podcast game with a beautiful special guest, the one-and-only, htbq infamous, Melanie (she/her)!!

    We worked with Melanie at the Queerest Place on Earth ™, David's Tea, and we asked her to join us today and give us an insight into her dating life in Toronto. The pandemic has rocked all of our socks, but Melanie teaches us that it's a matter of rolling with the punches, getting your distanced date on even though you can't come within 6 feet of your potential suitor. Plus, Melanie tells us about herself claiming her queer identity and what dating a woman is like from her perspective!

    Wow what a jam-packed episode! Coming in HAWT!

    PS: We will be attempting a biweekly schedule, so you can look for us again in your podcast feeds every other Tuesday, with our next episode hitting your earphones on September 28!

    Ugh, so good to be BACK!!

    C U Next Time on HTBQ!!!!!!!!

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    follow Melanie!! @melaniegrace92

    follow Sam!! @gh0stbr3ath

    follow Chris!! @mx.fee

    follow us!! @howtobequeerpodcast

    visit our website howtobequeer.ca!!

    51 min
  • episode 10 - chosen families with kellum jaymes!

    Hey our beautiful cultivated family!!!!!

    We know it has been like, a month, and what a month it has been. Sincerely, it has been whild. We thought it would be a weekly podcast but 2021 was like HAHAHAHAHA no.

    But we are back in ur feed to give you YET ANOTHER BEAUTIFUL GUEST STAR EPISODE!

    THAT'S RIGHT

    On this episode we are talking about what chosen family means with none other than the magnificent Kellum Jaymes (they/them)! We thought this episode would rock your socks since this past Monday was Chosen Family Day, and the one and only Ilona Verley even mentioned it in their Insta feed. A chosen family is so so so so so important to queer people, and in this episode we discuss the beautiful nuances of that concept.

    So, your task today is to think about what makes a family. Who is your family? Why?

    Once you have done this, talk to your beautiful chosen family and make sure that you let them know that you love them - they need it right now more than ever. Winter is almost over hunnis, we have almost made it thru!! 23 more days!!!

    Have a very chaotic (but make it gender-neutral) day, aaaaaand

    C U Next Time on HTBQ!!!!!!!!

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    follow Kellum!! @kellum__

    follow us!! @howtobequeerpodcast

    visit our website howtobequeer.ca!!

    42 min
  • episode 9 - bisexual bedlam with carling fee!

    You thought we would come into season 2 with exciting stuff, we can tell. But I bet u NEVER thot we would come in with another guest speaker for episode 2 of season 2 on february 2 and something else 2, etc. 2!!!!

    THAT'S RIGHT

    Today we go from the tippity top to the tippity bottom and everything in between of bisexuality, and we grill none other than the magnificent and magical bisexual Carling Fee (she/her) with questions about her experiences being a bisexual!!

    Get ready for frogs and cuffed pants, because here we come talking about bisexuality and the latest from bisexual tiktok.

    Have a very bisexual day, aaaaaand

    C U Next Time on HTBQ!!!!!!!!

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    follow Carling!! @carlingfee

    follow us!! @howtobequeerpodcast

    visit our website howtobequeer.ca!!

    59 min
  • queerent events: episode 1 - Birdie & Gottmik!

    Welcome to our very first episode of a new series we are doing called ~*~qUeErEnT eVeNtS ~*~*~!!!!

    This series will be similar to our minisodes 'in queer terms', but will be more directed at queer current events, as the title doesn't imply it at all and it would be very hard to figure out on your own.

    This week we are talking about our queer sibs Birdie Silverstein (child of Busy Phillips) and Kade Gottlieb aka Gottmik!

    Quick CW: we mention abortion, so please be aware that it could bring up some feelings. Reach out if you need anything, we got u!

    C U Next Tuesday (actually probably Friday tbh, just thought it would be fun to say that)!

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    follow us on instagram: @howtobequeerpodcast

    check out our website: How to be Queer

    gia gunn's line of tucking panties: shopgiagunn.com

    15 min
  • episode 8 - queer coding commotion

    HAPPY SAM'S CHAMPAGNE BDAY!!!

    You guessed right - it's the 24th and it is Sam's 24th Bday!

    Also welcome to Season 2 of How to be Queer! We are starting off with bangs! I mean with a bang!

    Sam and Chris are explicit in their queerness, but we all know that some characters are not quite as explicit in their queerness. Those subtle glances between your fave wamyn, those lusty looks between the boi hero and his boi villain counterpart, the thing where you are like 'what gender is this character trying to be here?' but it goes unsaid. Yeah. That's queer coding. And Sam and Chris use expletives to describe their issues with making characters queer but not saying it.

    Welcome back our beautiful fam, we have missed you! Look for our next short episode in ur feeds TOMORROW!!

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    follow us on instagram (and wish Sam a v happy bday!!):  @howtobequeerpodcast

    check out our new website: How to be Queer

    46 min
  • episode 7 - wow 2020 thx!

    This one is for the girls the gays and the theys. Out here doin hot girl sh*t. We see u.

    2020 was a ride and we definitely were on that ride, felt every damn bump. But you know what, we are here in 2021, bruised and battered as a species but we are certainly not knocked down permanently. 

    In a personal sense, Sam and Chris also went through it. You may have noticed an extended absence - you can thank 2020 for that. But just like the rest of humanity, we are resilient and we have bounced back up and aren't going anywhere.

    THE QUEERS ARE HERE TO STAY. We show it time and again, you can't keep us down.

    Anyway, enjoy this last episode of season 1, a 2020-is-finished-so-let's-get-down-with-our-bad-selves special. 

    See you on Sam's champagne birthday!

    Until then, Sam and Chris wish you a blessed Time of Renewal (Happy New Year, Happy Kwanzaa, Blessed Yule, Happy Solstice; ie, enjoy yourself however you are celebrating the festival of lights!)

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    follow us on instagram: @howtobequeerpodcast

    check out our new website: How to be Queer

    31 min
  • in queer terms: episode 3 - stargender

    They're coming out ... again!!

    Chris has something to share with the world that helps define the way he experiences life. In just 10 minutes, come along with Sam and Chris as they break down Chris' journey of discovering their stargender identity.

    Hope you stayed ready!!!

    XOXO

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    Follow us on Instagram: @howtobequeerpodcast

    Information from:

    https://gender.wikia.org/wiki/Stargender

    https://www.reddit.com/r/AskLGBT/comments/iml1jx/could_somebody_help_me_to_understand_xenogenders/

    12 min
  • episode 6 - guest: wally/jackelynne ouvall traydes

    GUEST WHAT?? We have a brand new episode for u, a real treat because it's our very first guest episode! Keeping this in mind, please bear with sound quality because we are gay and can't help it. Zoom mixed with the unregulated vocal decibel levels of the queers is not always a great combination, but it makes for a fun time, and a couple of jolts to the nervous system if you are wearing airpods (be warned). Who needs coffee? The gays, that's who. Iced pls.

    Wally tells us stuff about his family life, some things about their drag, some lived experiences of racism and homophobia, her understandings on the definition of drag, and she tells it like it is. He exudes pure energy, even through the tinny Z00m call. Follow Wally's journey of self discovery in and out of drag through the channels below.

    PS: This is Wally's first of probably like three or seven episodes, with the next one being a full definition of drag and another getting deeper into their understanding of themselves.

    PPS: Enya Dreams, a local queen mentioned in the episode, is also linked below.

    Enjoy! See you soon! (Maybe next Tuesday? Whom knows. At this point, the episodes will be coming out on a semi-regular basis because it's 2020 and there is a lot of sh*t going on rn. Anyway love u all!!)

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    Follow Wally: @ifoundwally

    Follow Jackelynne: @jackelynneo.t

    See Wally's blog here!

    Enya Dreams: @imenyadreams

    Drag Brunch to (pending approval) be performed at: @commongoodcafe, website here.

    Follow Us: @howtobequeerpodcast

    52 min

About How To Be Queer

From the publisher's feed

Did that gender-neutral barista put your head in a tailspin because they had a rainbow pin and another purple and yellow one you didn't recognize strategically placed upon the lapel or their forest green apron? Do you not even know what the G in 2SLGBTQPNIA+ stands for? Does this acronym literally make you bury your head in the sand or scream out loud?