In episode 10, the Matts discuss the do’s and don’ts of gay-dating. They talk about what to do leading up to a date, during a date, and after a date. Also, how to be PROACTIVE once you've made a connection with Mr. Right, and how retooling your dating practices can help you find a meaningful love.

-How to have fun

-Opening ourselves to men who aren’t our type

-Who pays?

-Not taking rejection personally

-FaceTiming before a date

-Good (& bad) hygiene…and Matt B’s date with a stinkeroo...

…are all on the docket for this week’s episode, “The Do’s and Don’ts of Gay Dating.”

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Get ready for $7,000 of therapy in one podcast episode. In this episode of How to Find (& Keep) a Gay Man, the Matts interview Alicia B. Bridgeland, Clinical Psychologist. They ask all of their gay relationship questions about intimacy, open marriage, the problem with a hookup culture, how to keep "novelty" in your relationship, etc. Alicia also explains the four personality "Brain Types," how this impacts our romantic relationships, which personality types are most compatible, and what it takes for a couple to stay together. Trust and believe, this episode is a master class in relationships. Do not miss it!

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In one of their most powerful episodes, the Matts tackle the issue of Shame. They break it down into 3 categories:

1. How it got there.

2. How it’s impacting our personal and romantic lives.

3. How we get rid of it.

Why does shame continue to dramatically affect our lives in negative ways? Why do we continually go back to those bearers of shame in our lives who do not accept us for who we are? (parents, family, church members, etc.) Are you looking for ways to safeguard yourself against shame messaging? Is inner self-talk part of the problem? This episode goes deep. Join us for a timely message on how to get rid of the shame…once and for all.

Also, Matt Bays' coming out story is mentioned. Read it HERE: https://mattbayswriter.com/almost-straight-a-coming-out-story/

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In Part 2: “Better Together,” The Matts discuss the benefits of looking at your partner through the lens of “unconditional positive regard.” They also dig into the difference between perpetual and solvable problems in a relationship, dealing with our egos, and how to know when a relationship has run its course. Episode 7 focuses heavily on what it takes to KEEP a gay man.

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On episode 6 of How to Find (& Keep) a Gay Man, the Matts take on the subject of “Breakups.” Matt H shares how “the four horsemen of the apocalypse” can take your relationship down, while Matt B opens up about the hardest breakup of his life. Also discussed; HOW to breakup the right way, building a breakup survival kit, and knowing when it’s time to take the relationship off of life support and let it die. This is part one of a two part series. Join us next week for part two; "Better Together."

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Episode 5: “Art Thou Ready to Receive?” The Matts discuss the inner self-saboteur and how to manage his attempts to undermine our growth. What it means when there is a pattern to our breakups and the importance of knowing “our part” in where things went wrong. The problem with always looking for “the next best thing.” And coming to a relationship with the correct posture.

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On episode 4 the Matts do a deep dive into the usual (and not so usual) things that stand in the way of finding and keeping a gay man. Lack of confidence/worthiness are discussed, as well as location, location, location. They also explore how remaining “discreet” could be keeping you stuck. And finally, how we need the support of chosen family most of all.

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On episode three of How to Find (& Keep) a Gay Man, the Matts discuss how to make your dating profile pop! They’ll be sharing what TO do and what NOT to do when building your profile; everything you need to know to lure a good man into your clutches.

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In episode 2, the Matts discuss what it actually means to be a soulmate, and their belief that beyond an act of fate (over which we have no control) is a much more direct path to our forever man. They also discuss what it takes to be ready to receive this kind of love.

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In the pilot episode of How to Find (& Keep) a Gay Man, Matt Bays and Matt Heincker make their introductions, discuss the purpose of the podcast, and tell their personal stories of how they found (& kept) their gay men.

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