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Philippe Tahon is a London-based psychotherapist, coach, and author who specialises in transforming people’s relationship with food, body image, and self-worth. Originally from Belgium, Philippe made a bold career shift from running restaurants to becoming one of Europe’s most sought-after therapists, following his own deeply personal journey with weight and self-image. 

With over two decades of experience, he’s developed a unique, psychology-led approach to weight loss that goes far beyond diets—helping clients address the emotional patterns behind their habits and create lasting change. 

As the author of Shrink: The Diet for the Mind and host of “Shrink: The Podcast for the Mind,” Philippe blends insight, honesty, and compassion to challenge conventional thinking and help people feel better not just in their bodies—but in their lives. 

Key points of the episode:

• The most common problem his clients are experiencing.
• When he thinks it all began.
• How he helps people with their anxieties. (Small things)
• Looking for safety and comfort in all the wrong places.
• Why is it so important to know the answer to "Who Am I?"
• His thoughts on AI.
• Should we play so safe?

Reach out online :www.philippetahon.com

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Jennie Young returns to the podcast for a second time. Jennie is a professor of rhetoric, writer and cultural critic known for her sharp, witty take on modern dating and communication. She’s the creator of the “Burned Haystack Dating Method,” a bold approach that helps people cut through the chaos of dating apps by recognising the hidden signals in language and behaviour. 

She’s also the author of the new book Burn the Haystack, which turns that method into a smart, practical guide for navigating dating, spotting manipulation, and trusting your instincts in the modern relationship jungle.

Key points of the episode:

• The new book and it's release date in the UK.
• How the book came about.
• How her academic specialism lends itself beautifully to dating.
• "Rhetorical patterns", what are they?
• The definition of "drama" - the correct one.
• How she became mystified, confused and eventually angry on the dating apps.
• How all the apps are "gameified"
• Her "rules" in Burned Haystack - and why.
• The common dating patterns to avoid and how they are broken down in the book.
• An example......
• Partner in crime? Yay? Nay?
• Walk and a pint in the pub... acceptable?
• It's a numbers game... is it?
• Her own experience with her own method.
• "Thinslicing"- what it is.
• Her coping mechanism for criticism.

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Louise Chunn is a British journalist, author and former magazine editor best known for her influential career in women’s media. She served as editor of Cosmopolitan UK during the late 1990s, helping shape the magazine’s modern voice around careers, relationships and independence for young women.

After leaving mainstream publishing, Chunn founded Welldoing, a platform connecting people with therapists and promoting accessible mental-health support. She has also written several books exploring midlife, identity and modern womanhood, including Welcome to the Jungle, which examines how women navigate the opportunities and challenges of midlife.

Today, Chunn is a writer, speaker and advocate for mental health and positive ageing, known for combining sharp journalism with thoughtful commentary on life beyond the traditional career and life milestones.

Key points of the episode:

• Welldoing. What is it?
• The biggest change therapy underwent and when.
• What clients are wanting more and more of at the moment.
• How working life can be amazing, and sometimes can be too much.
• A new attitude from young people towards work.
• Her thoughts on later working life and some ideas of great things to do.
• Her trip to Silicon Valley, and what it taught her.
• The astounding amount of people that have found a therapist through Welldoing.
• Some musings on the future.

Reach out to learn more on Welldoing.

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• Evelyn Scott is based in Surrey, UK and works as an academic and women’s health advocate. 
• She has described enduring painful periods and debilitating symptoms since her teens, yet for many years was told such pain was “normal”. 
• She was finally diagnosed with severe endometriosis around age 30. 
• Her diagnosis came after roughly 15 years of mis- or under-diagnosis and medical dismissal of her symptoms. 

Advocacy, writing & mission

• Evelyn is the author of A Bloody Scandal, which explores gynaecological disease, the medical treatment of women’s pain, and systemic failures in women’s health care.
• She appears in media outlets (e.g., the UK press, podcasts) to speak about endometriosis and the lived experience of chronic gynaecological conditions.
• Her mission is to challenge the narrative that severe period pain is “just something women have to deal with”, and to improve recognition, diagnosis and support for endometriosis sufferers.

Why she’s notable

• Endometriosis affects around 1 in 10 women of reproductive age, and its diagnosis is often delayed. Evelyn’s story puts a human face on the issue.
• By combining her personal experience, academic background and advocacy, she helps raise awareness about the intersection of pain, gender, and medicine.
• Her forthcoming book and media presence make her a voice of change in women's health.

Key message & takeaway

• If you’re experiencing severe period pain, it might not be “normal” — as Evelyn emphasises: persistent pain, repeated crises, or life-limiting symptoms deserve investigation.
• Endometriosis is not just physical pain — it often impacts mental health, work, relationships and daily life. Evelyn’s journey reflects that broader impact.
• Raising awareness -changing medical and societal attitudes is essential — Evelyn’s advocacy reminds us of that.

Book Summary

The book is described by its publisher as:

“A blistering and explosive investigation into modern day gynaecological neglect and medical misogyny.” 

Endometriosis Fact- it affects 10% of women.

• How it suffers from being a “Womens Health Issue”
• The narrative that “To be a woman is to feel pain”
• The rebuffs she got from doctors and the frustration it causes
• The failings of current sex education.
• How the pill is not an effective treatment
• Her list of symptoms.
• The lack of research into the histology of the disease
• How she got diagnosed.
• Her difficult healing process
• Why the traditional treatment does not appeal to many.
• How Spain is more understanding about issues like this
• How she began to think she was the problem.
• How she would be hard on herself, but recognises now the value of self care and support.

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Annalisa Barbieri is a British journalist, columnist, and podcaster best known for her long-running Guardian Saturday magazine advice column, where she offers thoughtful, compassionate responses to readers’ personal dilemmas. Known for her warmth, wit, and insight, Barbieri’s writing explores the complexities of family life, relationships, and emotional wellbeing with honesty and humanity.

Alongside her advice work, she was for many years the Observer’s “Chocolate Correspondent,” writing engagingly about the craft, ethics, and culture of chocolate. She also hosts the podcast Conversations with Annalisa Barbieri, in which she interviews psychologists, therapists, and subject experts on topics ranging from communication and boundaries to grief and resilience.

Annalisa is widely admired for her ability to combine empathy with clarity, helping readers and listeners make sense of life’s emotional puzzles. More of her work can be found on her website, annalisabarbieri.com
, and on her podcast platforms.

• How she likes children
• Time “Ins” rather then “Time Outs”
• How she discarded the aspects of her own parenting to create her own
• How she has a completely rehashed version of parenting
• Why women take the blame for a lot of things in the past
• How it’s never too late to say sorry. And how healing it can be.
• APPROPRIATE behaviour not obedience
• Why restricting social media access was one of the best things she did for her kids
• Why its necessary to be careful how to talk to children if we want them to know and trust themselves.
• What her children have taught her.

You can see more in..

 Guardian Column- Weekend Supplement

And also from wherever you get your podcasts - search “Conversations with Annalisa Barbieri”

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Viv Groskop is an award-winning writer, broadcaster and stand-up comedian, best known for blending sharp wit with smart cultural insight. She is the author of the bestselling books How to Own the Room and Lift As You Climb, which explore confidence, communication and female leadership through the lens of performance and storytelling.

A familiar voice on BBC Radio 4 and a regular contributor to major publications, Viv brings comedy, feminism and fearless honesty together in a way that makes big ideas feel brilliantly human. Whether she’s on stage, on air or on the page, she champions women finding their voice and owning it unapologetically.

Key points of the episode:

• Her definition of an extraordinary relationship.
• How there are so many varieties of public speaking, and the many things people benefit from and relate to it.
• How even the most confident people have their "moments"
• How "ego" gets in the way.
• How Michelle Obama was the inspiration and momentum for her first book!
• Michelle Obamas fascinating journey.
• Why Viv decided to become a stand up comedian....
• The craft of stand up comedy.
• The art of not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less!
• Her experience of interviewing Hilary Clinton.
• The genius definition of "Happy High Status"
• Her own measures of success.
• How to use her teachings from a perspective of self nourishment.
• Can connection be achieved in a different language?

See her on Instagram here: www.instagram.com/vivgroskop

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Lucy Sewill is a British portrait and editorial photographer whose work bridges celebrity portraiture, equine imagery, and deeply personal visual storytelling. 
  
 Early Life & Health Struggles

Lucy was born prematurely, spending early life in an incubator. 

At age 12, she suffered a serious heart infection and a stroke, which caused months of hospitalization and required her to re-learn how to walk. 

Over the years she experienced repeated health challenges that remained unexplained until later in life. 

Photography Career

Sewill’s artistic voice is rooted in honest, relational portraiture—she aims to reveal something true about her subjects. 

 She is particularly known for one-on-one informal portraits of public figures (actors, musicians, broadcasters, politicians) as well as deeply felt projects pairing people with animals.
 
 Her images have been exhibited internationally and she has work in the collection of the National Portrait Gallery (UK).She has also published several books, including Horses & Humans.

Another of her interests has been photographing the relationship between people and their pets, such as her Dogs & Their Humans work.
 
In more recent years, she launched Visible Women, an exhibition and project highlighting representation of women in acting and the entertainment industry. 
She also contributes to mentoring, judging, and portfolio reviews for emerging photographers. 
 
 

Health & Personal Life

After years of medical uncertainty, Lucy eventually self-diagnosed (via noticing parallels between her own symptoms and those of a horse she was riding) that she had Cushing’s disease. 

She underwent pituitary surgery but ended up developing Addison’s disease, requiring lifelong hormone treatment. 
  

Lucy lives in rural England with her family, her horses, and other animals.

Horses are a continuing passion and a recurring subject in her work, often serving as a metaphorical or emotional anchor in her visual storytelling.

Key points of the episode: 

• How she was photographing famous people and realised only 10 per cent were women and there were only two women out of 30 in British musicians project.
• How, then she is fighting inequality and invisibility,
• The relationship she has with her photographic subjects, and why she gravitates towards famous people.
• How imposter syndrome helped her!
• Her ongoing health struggles and how her GP described her as "The unluckiest person he knew"
• How synchroniscitally, she found out she had Cushings disease...
• ...and how animals healed her.

Want to learn more? www.lucysewill.com

Insta: https://www.instagram.com/lucysewill

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Sophie Ziegler is the founder and creative force behind The OTTO Connection, a real-world social community designed to reconnect single people through relaxed, fun, low-pressure events and friendships. After finding traditional dating scenes uninspiring, Sophie launched OTTO in 2022 to build a welcoming space where being single feels vibrant and where people can expand their lives alongside like-minded friends rather than swiping through apps. Today, OTTO thrives as a growing community that champions genuine connection, shared experiences, and joyful socialising beyond the digital dating treadmill. 

• The Otto project, and why it was set up.
• Why being single can be a good thing!
• Later life love. What is it?
• The 80 year olds that fell in love!
• The odd pressure to be part of a couple.
• Why accomodating the baggage is difficult.
• How we can be sideswiped by our hurt young feelings.
• Drawing for freedom. What is it?
• Can we make a decicion to love?
• Self love and self validation.

http://www.theottoconnection.com

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A subject that has caught the imagination of the nation.

Fat Jabs!

A special episode with Sarah Vine and Lucy Cavendish, with role reversal - Sarah interviewing Lucy!

A fascinating, relatable and insightful conversation.

Hello and welcome to the podcast where we talk honestly about weight loss, body image, and everything that comes with it, emotionally, socially, and psychologically.

Two brilliant voices: journalist and author Lucy Cavendish, and columnist and commentator Sarah Vine.

Together, we’ll be exploring the realities behind the headlines, from the rise of weight loss injections to the lifelong mental load of being overweight, and what it really means to change your body in a world that never stops having an opinion.

This is a conversation about more than pounds and calories. It’s about confidence, shame, freedom, identity… and the complicated journey of feeling at home in yourself.

Let’s begin.

Key points of the episode:

• The wrongness of fat shaming, including fat shaming of people on jabs.
• Lucy's theory on when her weight problem started.
• How people are put on the pill for virtually every reason, and it's connection to weight loss.
• How modern fashion does not cater for women with shapes.
• "The only thing you can control"
• How the root of the problem can have started at a really early age.
• The revelation from her Dr that led her to the fat jabs.
• The transformations experienced by both of them.
• An important message from Lucy about this subject.
• Possible reasons from an evolutionary point of view.
• How society has changed, but we haven't.
• How our bodys hormones are very strong drugs.
• How partly it was an identity shift for Lucy.
• Lucy's "Sliding Doors" wonderings, if I had found this earlier, would my life have been better?
• How being overweight can be a kind of "suit of armour"
• How Lucy's world changed when her doctor recommended Mounjaro.
• The Webinar Lucy is doing on this - ATTEND HERE

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Eve Simmons is an award-winning journalist, author, and broadcaster known for making complex topics feel human, practical, and refreshingly honest. As co-author of What to Do When Life Fcks Up*, she draws on years of reporting on health, psychology, and wellbeing to offer clear-eyed guidance for navigating life’s messier moments. Alongside her writing, Eve is a familiar media voice, regularly contributing expert insight on mental health and resilience, with a style that blends compassion, credibility, and straight-talk reassurance. 

Key points of the episode:

• The book and how it came about.
• How she lost everything in the space of 2 months.
• The overwhelming amount of women that had had the same experience.
• A phenomenon that divorce lawyers are familiar with.
• How everything fell apart and she had to rebuild over again.
• Her spontaneous trip to New York and what it did for her.
• Her experience with anorexia.
• The benefits of her experiences and what she does now to help others.
• Her experience of healing.
• Her explorations of loads of different ways of being.
• HINT: Choose one that brings the most joy!

 Her book: What She Did Next- What to Do When The Life You Planned is F**ked Up

 CLICK HERE

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