Connected Families Podcast

How to Love Your Stepchildren Well with Ron Deal


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In this bonus episode, Jim Jackson and Ron Deal discuss the unique challenges and opportunities of blended families through the lens of the Connected Families Framework. Ron, a bestselling author and host of the Family Life Blended podcast, shares his 30+ years of expertise in step-family dynamics. The conversation explores how step-parents can build emotional safety with children who may be resistant to new relationships. Ron emphasizes that safety must precede love, explaining that children often bristle against a step-parent’s affection due to grief, loyalty conflicts, or simply not being ready for that relationship.

Key insights include:
  • The importance of “pacing” with children at their readiness level
  • How step-parents can acknowledge their role without trying to replace biological parents
  • Practical approaches to discipline and household rules when facing resistance
  • Building respectful relationships with biological parents in the other household
  • Mentioned in this podcast:
    • Galatians 6:1
    • Romans 12
    • The Smart Step Family – Ron’s comprehensive book on blended family dynamics
    • Building Love Together in Blended Families – Ron co-authored with Gary Chapman, integrating love languages with step-family principles
    • FamilyLife Blended Podcast
    • The Smart Step Family video curriculum – Email [email protected] for free online access
    • The Mindful Marriage
    • Certificate in Blended Family Ministry – online training through FamilyLife
    • Check out our website for more resources to support your parenting!

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      Guest Bio:

      Ron is the bestselling author of more than a dozen books and resources, a licensed marriage and family therapist, podcast host, and a Senior Director for the ministry of FamilyLife®. In addition, Ron is one of the most widely read and referenced authors on blended families. His latest #1 Amazon bestselling book, The Mindful Marriage, coauthored with his wife Nan and Terry and Sharon Hargrave brings the proven principles of Restoration Therapy to a mass audience. The Deals live in Little Rock, Arkansas. Learn more at RonDeal.org.

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