How to Parent Peacefully. With the Hand in Hand Parenting approach.

On today’s show I am interviewing online child safety expert and founder of Not My Kid, Jen Hoey.

Jen has personal experience of how vulnerable our children can be online so just a word of warning that this episode might not be appropriate for any little ears that may be listening. You might want to put your ear buds in as we discuss online predators and themes around sex education and adult content online.

This episode is full of great advice and practical ways you can keep your child safe online if, like me, this is something you just haven’t had time to think fully about.

In this episode we talk about:

Jen shares her recommendations around screen use and internet access with us based on her extensive knowledge and experience. I deeply trust how each of us chooses to parent our children - there are a 1000 ways to raise a child - so I invite you to take what information works for you and leave anything that doesn’t. This isn’t about making anyone feel guilty or lesser than for any of their parenting choices, especially around screen time. I know that each of us does our very best with the information we have at the time. I hope this episode gives you the information you need so you can make informed decisions in a way that works best for you and your family.

I hope you enjoy the episode

Read about Jen’s story on her website https://www.notmykid.com.au/

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How can we can teach our children about consent and bodily autonomy?

How we can teach our children that they are in control of their own bodies and also how to be respectful of other people’s boundaries?

It’s never too young to start teaching our kids about consent. From the time our children are young babies we can start laying the foundations of helping our children to be aware of themselves and others.

Why is this important?

We want our children to have a strong sense of themselves, to be in control of what happens to them and to be able to speak out against injustice whenever they see it.

We want our children to be able to advocate for themselves when their boundaries are breached and to be aware and respectful of other people’s boundaries.

In this episode I talk about:

I hope you enjoy the episode.

If you would like a copy of my free guide Solving Parenting Challenges Through Play so you don’t have to overpower your child and enter into standoffs and power struggles, then all you need to do is leave a review or share this podcast with a friend or on your social media. Let me know and I will send you a copy of the guide.

Also, if you would like to learn more about putting these principles into action then come along to my next Why Your Kids Won’t Listen Masterclass taking place on 19th July.

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So much parenting advice centres on our children. What we should do or say to make things go more smoothly, tools we can employ to get our kids cooperating or behaving in a way that will make life easier for us.

In this episode I talk about a much overlooked parenting tool - taking care of ourselves.

By focusing on ourselves, noticing what we need and finding ways to meet our needs, we can transform our parenting.

The thing is, we know how to parent well when we are feeling well rested, fulfilled and unstressed.

So how about starting with ourselves. Taking care of our own needs so we can show up for our kids as the calm and confident leaders they need.

In this episode I talk about:

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Hands up who has a battle on their hands when it comes to ending screen time?

So how can you turn this time of conflict into a time of connection?

I have put together a wonderful cheat sheet of ideas to solve a whole host of parenting challenges.

I’m very excited because today I am sharing with you my magic formula for overcoming parenting standoffs using laughter and play. Specifically I’m going to be looking at teeth brushing, but this applies to many different power struggles we have with our kids.

I’ll help you understand what is going on with the power struggle dynamic, what emotions are behind it and what you can do about it.

This is one of my favourite things to talk about.

Once you understand the basics and practice a bit - you can use these principles to solve any and every standoff and power struggle you have with your kids.

And at the same time you are investing in your relationship, connecting, having fun. You will both feel all warm and fuzzy inside after connecting through laughter - guaranteed!!

I share five play ideas for teeth-brushing (but make sure you listen in to learn the basic principles and common pitfalls).

1. Confused Toothbrush - I’ve forgotten who I am

Pretend the toothbrush is talking “I can’t remember what I’m supposed to do/ who I am, am I a hairbrush? No, maybe I'm a nail clippers”

2. Where’s the dentist?

“Hmmm, I do not want to brush my teeth today, I hope there isn’t a dentist around here who is going to make me!”

Give your child an inviting playful look and allow them to be in charge of brushing your teeth.

3. Out of control toothbrush

“Toothbrush is out of control, help!!!”

Toothbrush flies around the bathroom, whooshes past them.

4. What is this thing? (you could do in robot voice, or pretend to be an alien)

Look at toothbrush like you’ve never seen it before. “What is it for? Must be for brushing nose hairs!”

For removing belly button fluff.

A fairy detector.

5. I’ve lost my teeth

“I can’t remember where your teeth are. Are they in your armpit. That’s funny, I was sure they were there! Must be behind your ears.”

I have put together a wonderful cheat sheet of ideas (using these principles) to solve a whole host of parenting challenges.

If you would like your copy, I am inviting you to leave an Apple podcast review OR share my podcast on your favourite Facebook/WhatsApp parenting group (as long as it doesn’t go against group rules) or share on your profile.

Screen shot your review/share and email it to me [email protected] and I will send you my cheat sheet.

There are 12 common parenting standoff scenarios on there including sharing, sibling battles, picky eating, getting out the door in time, clingy kids and hair washing battles.

It can be upsetting to deal with a child who pushes you away or prefers one parent over another. 

Maybe your child has a meltdown when it's their Dad's turn to put them to bed so you end up doing bedtime every night just to keep the peace.

Or your child is in great form all day at school or childcare but their behaviour becomes unmanageable as soon as you walk through the door.

Perhaps you are a step-parent and nothing you do is good enough, you are rejected at every turn.

In this episode I talk about:

I have my popular "Why Your Kids Won't Listen" Masterclass coming up next week. You can register your free place here.

For more parenting ideas and support, don't forget to follow me on social media. You can find me mainly on Instagram and on Facebook @PamParentCoach. 

You can also join my free Facebook group Peacefully Parenting 4-8 year olds.  

Parenting stress is so normal in our society.

And then on top of that we tell ourselves “If only I do more, be more patient, try harder, be a better parent”.

The truth is that parenting is under-valued and under-supported.

We are so often parenting within small nuclear families instead of the supportive communities we need to meet our needs and thrive.

In this bonus episode taken from a Facebook Live I did for Hand in Hand Parenting, I talk about:

I also mention my upcoming Masterclass.

You can sign up here.

This week I am talking about all things bedtime and sleep.

Would you like bedtime to run more smoothly without battling to get PJs on?

Maybe you want to support your child to fall asleep more easily or without you right there in the room?

Or you are looking for gentle ways to support your child to sleep all night in their own bed?

In this episode I talk about what children need to sleep well and how you can build those essential elements into your bedtime routine.

Back in episode #003 I talk about in more detail about how physical play can help with bedtime - you might like to check out that episode here.

You might also like to check out the work of Marion Rose, Aware Parenting Instructor, who has great resources and info about sleep in younger babies and toddlers.

If you would like to learn more about my parenting approach and the Hand in Hand Parenting tools, join my next free, online Masterclass: Why Your Kids Won't Listen. You can sign up here.

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What expectations should we have of our kids?

Should a 4 year old be able to tidy up themselves after an activity?

Should a 10 year old be able to shower and get dressed by themselves?

Should your 8 year old know better than to lie?

Is it helpful to have expectations at all?

This week I talk about why high expectations aren't that helpful in parenting and what you can do instead!

A child may be physically capable of dressing themselves or brushing their teeth, but you also have to consider whether they are mentally and emotionally able to complete these tasks without your support. This can change from day to day and even moment to moment.

It's time to get curious - is your child struggling? If so, they need your help, not the weight of your expectations. 

Listen in to find out how you can support them to be cooperative and independent in a realistic way. 

Thanks for joining me. If you’re ready to put these big ideas into action and learn the strategies to parent in a peaceful and respectful way, then get signed up to my next virtual Why Your Kids Won't Listen Masterclass.

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Maybe it hasn't happened yet and you want to be prepared, or maybe your child has started saying "I hate myself" or similar.

Thanks for joining me. If you’re ready to put these big ideas into action and learn the strategies to parent in a peaceful and respectful way, then get signed up to my next virtual Peaceful Parenting Masterclass.

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