You don't just end up in a dark place—you're slowly trained into it. Conditioned by chaos, shaped by trauma, and wired for survival. In this episode, I'm breaking down what actually pulls us into darkness—and how to get out. We'll talk about the nervous system, trauma identity, shame, and why pain becomes familiar—even addictive. I share the deeper psychology behind survival mode, and walk you through how to start reconditioning your life for safety, stability, and truth. You'll hear parts of my own story: growing up with a father struggling with addiction and mental illness, developing an eating disorder as a child, staying in abusive relationships that mirrored the instability I was raised in—and what it really looked like to break free. This isn't just a story of struggle; it's a roadmap for healing. If you're tired of performing strength, clinging to control, or confusing survival with purpose, this episode will show you what it takes to release the old, reclaim your identity, and rise. You're not broken—you were trained by pain. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: phenyx.fit 📩 Email: [email protected] 📱 Instagram: @coachkate1 Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes 🌐 Website: missionmedus.com 📱 Text 24/7 or Call: 305-748-2517 📧 Email: [email protected] 📲 Instagram: @MissionMed.Plus Coach Kate for 10% off