What if the drive you call ambition is actually your body trying to save you. People glorify ambition, but trauma driven ambition is not ambition. It is a nervous system strategy. It is the body trying to outrun a wound. Outrun rejection. Outrun abandonment. When love was unpredictable, your brain learned to earn it. Achievement became safety. Productivity became protection. Success became survival. You were conditioned to believe that if you excel, you are worthy, and if you slow down, you are replaceable. This creates an identity tied to performance instead of worth. You become the strong one. The responsible one. The overachiever who cannot rest because rest feels dangerous. Silence feels like abandonment. Slowing down feels like failure. Trauma driven ambition looks successful from the outside, but internally it costs you peace, presence, and connection. You are not chasing success. You are outrunning fear. Healing is not about losing your ambition. It is about shifting the fuel. When your nervous system is regulated, ambition becomes grounded, purposeful, and aligned. You stop running from something. You start building toward something. That is the difference between being fueled by pain and being anchored in purpose. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: phenyx.fit 📩 Email: [email protected] 📱 Instagram: @coachkate1 Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes Website: www.missionmedplus.com Text 24/7 or Call: 786-692-9775 Email: [email protected] Instagram: @MissionMed.Plus Mention "Coach Kate" for 10% off all services

For most of my life, I did not realize I was living in survival. I thought I was disciplined. I thought I was focused. I thought I was built different. But underneath all of that, my body was on alert. I woke up braced for impact. I pushed myself hard because slowing down felt unsafe. I chased excellence because I was terrified of losing control. That tension became my normal. I did not know that the exhaustion I carried was not a mindset issue. It was a survival response. It was the nervous system doing its job for far too long. This podcast comes from the years I spent confusing trauma patterns for personality traits. It comes from learning how survival hides behind achievement. How perfectionism becomes self protection. How productivity becomes avoidance. How strength becomes armor. It comes from finally understanding that you cannot outwork a body that does not feel safe. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: phenyx.fit 📩 Email: [email protected] 📱 Instagram: @coachkate1 Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes Website: www.missionmedplus.com Text 24/7 or Call: 786-692-9775 Email: [email protected] Instagram: @MissionMed.Plus Mention "Coach Kate" for 10% off all services

This episode is about the war that starts once the chaos ends. The quiet battle between who you had to be to survive and who you're being called to become. It's where peace feels uncomfortable, stillness feels unsafe, and you start to realize that strength built from pain isn't the same as strength built from peace. You'll learn how the habits that once protected you control, overworking, people-pleasing were never flaws. They were survival codes. But at some point, they stop serving the life God's asking you to build. This conversation is about laying that version of you to rest, finding safety in stillness, and learning how to live without the armor. You don't need to become someone new. You just need to remember who you were before life taught you to forget. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: phenyx.fit 📩 Email: [email protected] 📱 Instagram: @coachkate1 Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes Website: www.missionmedplus.com Text 24/7 or Call: 786-692-9775 Email: [email protected] Instagram: @MissionMed.Plus Mention "Coach Kate" for 10% off all services

This episode is about the war that happens after the trauma the quiet one inside your own head. The voice that says, "You should've known better. You should've seen it coming. You should've been stronger." "Healing the Voice That Blames You" is about learning to stop attacking yourself for how you survived. It's about understanding that self-blame isn't truth it's a survival instinct trying to protect you from pain you never deserved. I talk about how trauma rewires your brain, disconnects you from your own intuition, and how to rebuild self-trust when that inner critic gets loud. This episode will help you separate who you are from what happened to you. Because healing doesn't mean forgetting your story it means learning to finally speak to yourself like someone worth saving, protecting and loving. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: phenyx.fit 📩 Email: [email protected] 📱 Instagram: @coachkate1 Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes Website: www.missionmedplus.com Text 24/7 or Call: 786-692-9775 Email: [email protected] Instagram: @MissionMed.Plus Mention "Coach Kate" for 10% off all services

In this episode, I open up about abusive relationships and trauma. What they take from you, how they change you, and how you rebuild when survival has been your only language. I talk about growing up in dysfunction, watching addiction, and repeating the patterns that mirrored what I saw. Abuse became my blueprint for love. I confused intensity for connection and chaos for care. For years, I kept abandoning myself just to stay chosen. This episode is about how trauma lives in the body, how the nervous system adapts to danger like it's home, and how healing starts when you finally stop running from what shaped you. I share what I learned about self-abandonment, trauma bonds, and why peace feels uncomfortable when you've spent your life in survival. This isn't a conversation about pain. It's about redemption. About taking accountability for the patterns I created, learning to call abuse what it was, and grieving the childhood I never had. It's about understanding that nothing was ever wrong with me. I was just protecting myself in the only ways I knew how. If you've ever stayed when you knew you should have left, minimized what hurt, or confused dysfunction with love, this one's for you. Because healing isn't about who broke you. It's about who you choose to become after. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: phenyx.fit 📩 Email: [email protected] 📱 Instagram: @coachkate1 Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes Website: www.missionmedplus.com Text 24/7 or Call: 786-692-9775 Email: [email protected] Instagram: @MissionMed.Plus Mention "Coach Kate" for 10% off all services

Let's talk about the kind of discipline that looks impressive but doesn't hold up under pressure. Discipline without integrity is performance. Integrity without discipline is potential wasted. And character is what proves which one you live by when no one's watching. We live in a world obsessed with optics people performing consistency, performing hard work, performing virtue. But performance isn't the same as integrity. One is about how you look. The other is about who you are. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: phenyx.fit 📩 Email: [email protected] 📱 Instagram: @coachkate1 Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes Website: www.missionmedplus.com Text 24/7 or Call: 786-692-9775 Email: [email protected] Instagram: @MissionMed.Plus Mention "Coach Kate" for 10% off all services

For me, the number one strategy for success has never been waiting to feel ready. It's been learning to train and take action afraid, unfinished, and at 80 percent done. I've learned that fear doesn't go away when you grow. It just evolves with your next level. So if you're waiting for confidence before you move, you'll be waiting forever. Confidence is built through movement, not before it. This episode is all about learning to work with fear instead of against it. I talk about how to identify it, communicate with it, regulate it, and lead it. Because fear isn't a flaw. It's biological. It's the body trying to protect you from uncertainty. But when you train through it, you retrain your nervous system to see discomfort as growth instead of danger. I'll also share why accountability is what actually builds your character, discipline, and freedom and why most people avoid it because it costs them their excuses. You'll hear the one question that changed everything for me: What would happen if I just never gave up? This episode is for anyone who's tired of waiting for perfect conditions. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: phenyx.fit 📩 Email: [email protected] 📱 Instagram: @coachkate1 Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes Website: www.missionmedplus.com Text 24/7 or Call: 786-692-9775 Email: [email protected] Instagram: @MissionMed.Plus Mention "Coach Kate" for 10% off all services

For most of my life, the name of Jesus was nothing more than a curse word to me. Faith wasn't something I wanted. In fact, I ran from it. I chased everything else success, relationships, performance, even destruction thinking it would fill me. But deep down, I was empty. This podcast is my honest journey of being humbled, broken, and finally led to Christ. It's about how He met me in the places I thought were too far gone, how He healed what I thought would always stay broken, and how faith went from being my last option to my only way forward. If you've ever questioned God, felt unworthy, or wondered if healing is really possible, my story is for you. I don't have it all figured out, but I know this the moment I let go of who I thought I had to be, Jesus gave me a new life. And I want to share that hope with you. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: phenyx.fit 📩 Email: [email protected] 📱 Instagram: @coachkate1 Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes Website: www.missionmedplus.com Text 24/7 or Call: 786-692-9775 Email: [email protected] Instagram: @MissionMed.Plus Mention "Coach Kate" for 10% off all services

This podcast is about failure. The kind that builds you and the kind that breaks you. I've failed both ways, and I know what it feels like to wear failure as your identity and what it feels like to turn it into resilience. Here, we'll talk about the difference between failing forward and failing backward. Failing backward is when you let excuses run the show, when you hide behind masks, lower your standards, or quit before the lesson shows up. It is when failure becomes your story instead of your training. Failing forward is different. It is when you own it, use it, and move. You see failure as feedback. You let it sharpen your values, build your resilience, and increase your capacity. It is not about perfection. It is about refusing to quit, taking the next rep, and turning every bruise into muscle. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: phenyx.fit 📩 Email: [email protected] 📱 Instagram: @coachkate1 Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes Website: www.missionmedplus.com Text 24/7 or Call: 786-692-9775 Email: [email protected] Instagram: @MissionMed.Plus Mention "Coach Kate" for 10% off all services

Most people aren't burning out because they're doing too much. They're burning out because they're doing too much of what doesn't matter. In this episode, we dive into the psychology of "majoring in the minors" why cultural distraction, perfectionism, and ego validation keep people busy but never effective. We unpack how values, priorities, and standards work together to stop the scatter, realign focus, and build confidence. Values define your why. Priorities prove it in action. Standards keep it consistent. Without them, your energy, focus, emotions, and even identity get scattered. With them, noise fades, majors rise, and you stop diluting your strength. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: phenyx.fit 📩 Email: [email protected] 📱 Instagram: @coachkate1 Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes Website: www.missionmedplus.com Text 24/7 or Call: 786-692-9775 Email: [email protected] Instagram: @MissionMed.Plus Mention "Coach Kate" for 10% off all services