If you’re still complaining, you’re not processing—you’re practicing. If you’re still playing the victim, you’re not stuck—you’re staying. Let that land. This episode is a wake-up call for anyone who's been running the same emotional loop, telling the same story, and calling it healing. The truth? Most people don’t need more time—they need more ownership. What looks like “processing” is often just avoidance in disguise. What feels like “overwhelm” is usually a lack of leadership—internal and external. This isn’t about dismissing your pain. It’s about refusing to let it become your identity. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: 📩 Email: [email protected] 📱 Instagram:   Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes 🌐 Website: 📱 Text 24/7 or Call: 305-748-2517 📧 Email: [email protected] 📲 Instagram: Coach Kate for 10% off

Most people don’t fail because they lack vision. They fail because they never trained themselves to execute when the hype wears off. Clarity is cheap. Discipline is rare. The gap between what you say you want and what you actually follow through on is where most people stay stuck. Not because they can’t—but because they’re still negotiating with distraction, perfection, or public opinion. Vision doesn’t need more excitement. It needs a system that holds when motivation drops off. The people who finish aren’t the ones who feel the most—it’s the ones who move with precision, especially when no one’s watching. If you can’t execute in silence, you’ll never hold the weight of what you say you want. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: 📩 Email: [email protected] 📱 Instagram:   Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes 🌐 Website: 📱 Text 24/7 or Call: 305-748-2517 📧 Email: [email protected] 📲 Instagram: Coach Kate for 10% off

You don’t just end up in a dark place—you’re slowly trained into it. Conditioned by chaos, shaped by trauma, and wired for survival. In this episode, I’m breaking down what actually pulls us into darkness—and how to get out. We’ll talk about the nervous system, trauma identity, shame, and why pain becomes familiar—even addictive. I share the deeper psychology behind survival mode, and walk you through how to start reconditioning your life for safety, stability, and truth. You’ll hear parts of my own story: growing up with a father struggling with addiction and mental illness, developing an eating disorder as a child, staying in abusive relationships that mirrored the instability I was raised in—and what it really looked like to break free. This isn’t just a story of struggle; it’s a roadmap for healing. If you’re tired of performing strength, clinging to control, or confusing survival with purpose, this episode will show you what it takes to release the old, reclaim your identity, and rise. You’re not broken—you were trained by pain. Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: 📩 Email: [email protected] 📱 Instagram:   Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes 🌐 Website: 📱 Text 24/7 or Call: 305-748-2517 📧 Email: [email protected] 📲 Instagram: Coach Kate for 10% off

If you don’t know what you value, discipline will always feel like a grind. In this episode, we’re unpacking the deeper structure behind why most people can’t stay consistent—because they’re trying to build discipline without a foundation. Everything starts with your values. What you value shapes what you believe. And what you believe creates the need to protect it—through boundaries. Once you have clear boundaries, you can set strong standards. Those standards help you prioritize what actually matters. And when your priorities are aligned with your values, consistency becomes natural—not forced. That consistency is what reinforces identity, and identity is what makes discipline sustainable. This isn’t about hacks or hustle—it’s about building a life that runs on alignment, not anxiety.   Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: 📩 Email: [email protected] 📱 Instagram:   Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes 🌐 Website: 📱 Text 24/7 or Call: 305-748-2517 📧 Email: [email protected] 📲 Instagram: Coach Kate for 10% off

I spent years showing up for everyone but me. Keeping promises to other people. Breaking the ones I made to myself. This episode is about the truth behind that pattern—where it comes from, why we call self-abandonment “loyalty,” and how to finally cut it at the root. I break down the difference between discipline and punishment, how boundaries start with values, and why healing has to lead to something bigger than just you. Because if your growth never leaves the journal, and your “self-work” becomes your full identity—you’re not free. This is about coming home to yourself, living with integrity, and treating yourself like someone who actually matters.   Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: 📩 Email: 📱 Instagram:   Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes 🌐 Website: 📱 Text 24/7 or Call: 305-748-2517 📧 Email: 📲 Instagram: Coach Kate for 10% off

In this episode, I break down why your wins aren’t sticking, your losses feel personal, and your emotions keep running the show. I share what used to drive me—chasing achievement highs, punishing myself for every misstep, and confusing shame with discipline. It worked—until it didn’t. I walk through the actual definition of debriefing, why it’s backed by neuroscience and performance psychology, and how to use it as a tool to stop repeating emotional patterns. You’ll learn how to reflect on losses without spiraling, how to break down wins so they become repeatable, and how to process emotions so they stop owning you. This is about setting standards, pulling out one small shift, and finally leading yourself like a pro.

You don’t live what you know—you live what you believe, and if your body doesn’t feel safe with the truth, it’ll keep choosing what’s familiar, even if it’s toxic. I used to say I wanted real love, but I kept choosing chaos, not because I didn’t know better, but because I hadn’t healed enough to believe I was worthy of better. The gap between knowing and believing is where sabotage lives—because belief isn’t built on facts, it’s built on repetition, safety, and identity. Integration is when your thoughts, emotions, and actions finally agree—when you stop proving your worth and start embodying it. So ask yourself: where are you living out a lie you no longer agree with—and what would change if you started acting like the truth was already yours?   Kate Hastings/Mental Health Coach  Phenyx.fit

This episode is a wake-up call. We’re not losing because we’re incapable—we’re losing because we’re skipping the basics. Everyone’s chasing hacks, aesthetics, and highlight reels, but nobody’s mastering the stuff that actually builds a life. Today, I break down what it really means to simplify, to show up with discipline, and to stop outsourcing your power to motivation or convenience. I talk about why consistency beats intensity, why your excuses are just polished versions of avoidance, and how getting back to your standards will save you from the spiral. This is about routines, not rewards. Systems, not hype. It’s not sexy—but it’s what works. If your life feels off track, this episode will pull you back to center. This isn’t just about getting better—it’s about getting honest. If you want to build a life you’re proud of, it starts here. Not with more noise, but with a return to the fundamentals. Listen in, take notes, and then apply it—because mastering the basics is what separates the ones who talk from the ones who lead.     Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  @coachkate1  Mental Health Coach      https://missionmedus.com

You build confidence by showing up when it’s boring—and sticking around when it’s hard. You love the process by trusting what it’s building in you. Not everything has to feel exciting to be worth doing. Most people chase the high—they want passion, results, applause. But real growth? Real self-respect? That comes from doing the reps when no one’s watching. You fall in love with the process when you stop needing it to feel good and start being proud that you didn’t quit. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  @coachkate1  Mental Health Coach

Unrealistic expectations are rarely random—they're often rooted in early experiences where love, attention, or safety were earned rather than freely given. As children, we absorb the unspoken rules of approval: be perfect, achieve more, don’t mess up. These rules become internalized standards we carry into adulthood, showing up in our careers, relationships, and personal goals. We think we’re aiming high, being disciplined, or pushing for excellence—but what we’re actually doing is reenacting a belief system where worth must be proven. This pressure creates a dangerous cycle: impossible standards lead to inevitable “failure,” which leads to internalized shame and dwindling confidence. This is the subtle art of self-sabotage. It doesn’t always look like destruction—it often looks like drive. You set the bar just out of reach, and when you can’t meet it, you turn inward and question your value. The loop is brutal: you fail to hit a mark that was never realistic, and instead of questioning the standard, you question yourself. The high-achieving mask stays on, but underneath is exhaustion, burnout, and a growing disconnect from your authentic self. You don’t feel proud—you feel pressured. You don’t feel accomplished—you feel behind. And it’s all rooted in the illusion that more achievement will finally fix the feeling of not being enough.   Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  @coachkate1  Mental Health Coach      https://missionmedus.com