Behind every high achiever lies a story most people never see—a narrative woven from unprocessed trauma and relentless pursuit. For years, I was fueled by a dark motivation: a survival instinct honed by childhood wounds that pushed me to perform, to prove, and to control every aspect of my life. I tracked every calorie, trained until exhaustion, and rebranded my eating disorder as discipline and wellness. On the surface, I had it all together. But beneath that polished exterior, I wasn’t thriving—I was merely performing. I wasn’t grounded; I was surviving. I realized that the fuel I was using—pain, fear, and the need to prove my worth—was slowly killing me. That dark drive, while it carried me through countless challenges, never allowed me to rest. It kept me in a constant state of chase, a relentless cycle of proving that I was enough, even when deep down I felt anything but. I had mistaken destruction for transformation, chaos for clarity, and performance for true growth. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  @coachkate1  Mental Health Coach

Discipline wasn’t saving me. It was silently destroying me. Have you ever been praised for how hard you push—while breaking inside? I used to be the woman who “had it all together.” Disciplined. Reliable. High-performing. But under the surface? I was a storm in a perfectly tailored outfit. I never missed a workout—even when I was sick. I tracked every calorie like my life depended on it. I said yes when I meant no. I showed up for others when I was falling apart. I confused exhaustion with impact. I called obsession “excellence.” But what I didn’t know was this: My “discipline” was a trauma response. My “drive” was dysregulation. My “success” was self-abandonment in disguise. I didn’t believe I was allowed to rest. Because deep down, I didn’t believe I was worthy unless I earned it. Society clapped for my grind. But I was building a life on the edge of a breakdown. Let’s stop glorifying the grind that’s killing us. Redefine discipline. Not as destruction—but as devotion.   Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  @coachkate1  Mental Health Coach

I know what it’s like to feel trapped—in your body, your mind, and the patterns you don’t know how to escape. For years, I chased extremes—bingeing, purging, over-exercising, partying—searching for control, validation, and worth. But what I didn’t realize was that food, fitness, and discipline weren’t the real problem. They were just symptoms of a deeper wound. This podcast is about breaking free—from self-sabotage, destructive habits, and the false beliefs that keep us small. Through raw storytelling, deep insights, and conversations that challenge everything you think you know, I’m here to help you heal at the root. If you’re ready to stop just surviving and start leading—this is for you. Listen on Apple Podcasts & Spotify. Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  @coachkate1  Mental Health Coach

The Reality of Emotional Numbness Most people don’t even realize they’re in it until someone puts it into words. You wake up, go through the motions, handle responsibilities, maybe even accomplish big things, but inside, there’s nothing. No spark, no deep emotion. The things that used to excite you don’t anymore, and the things that should hurt barely register. You laugh, but it’s hollow. You succeed, but it feels empty. Life happens, but you’re watching from a distance. It’s not just exhaustion or a rough patch—it’s emotional shutdown. It happens slowly, the result of years spent suppressing emotions, avoiding pain, and pushing forward without processing life. At first, it feels like self-preservation, but over time, it costs you your ability to truly feel. The truth is, emotional numbness doesn’t just happen. It’s a survival response. Maybe it started with unresolved pain—childhood trauma, heartbreak, rejection, or loss—where shutting down felt safer than feeling everything. Maybe you’ve spent years in survival mode, constantly overwhelmed by stress, pressure, or responsibility, and your nervous system adapted by numbing out. Or maybe you’ve lost yourself entirely, molding your identity to meet expectations, suppressing your real thoughts and emotions until the version of you that exists isn’t even real anymore. Eventually, you don’t just numb the pain—you numb everything. If this resonates, listen to Episode 245 of The Kate Hastings Podcast on Apple iTunes and Spotify.     Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  @coachkate1  Mental Health Coach      https://missionmedus.com

What if I told you that every time you allow someone to cross your boundaries, you’re teaching them that it’s okay to disrespect you? Think about it. That friend who constantly asks for favors but never shows up for you. The coworker who dumps extra work on your plate, knowing you won’t say no. The relationship that drains you because you’re always the one compromising. Hard Truth: This isn’t about them—it’s about YOU. Because people will always push as far as you let them. But today? That changes.   Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  @coachkate1  Mental Health Coach

Ever catch yourself over-explaining or justifying your decisions? Welcome to The Kate Hastings Podcast, where I break down the truth about rejection, abandonment, and judgment—without the fluff. I dive into why we feel the need to explain ourselves, how to break the habit, and what it takes to speak with confidence and authority. Expect raw insights, practical strategies, and direct coaching to help you stop seeking approval and start standing in your power. It’s time to own your voice and speak unapologetically.     Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  @coachkate1  Mental Health Coach      Mission Med Plus

Comparison is a thief. It steals your joy, your confidence, your momentum. It convinces you that you’re behind, that you’re missing something, that your worth is measured against someone else’s success. But here’s the truth: you’re on your own path. You are not behind. You are not lacking. The second you stop looking sideways and start focusing on your mission, you take back your power. Every moment spent comparing is a moment wasted. The people you envy? They have struggles too. The ones winning? They’re too busy working to waste time worrying about someone else’s progress. Winners don’t compare, they execute.So ask yourself—what if today was the day you stopped waiting for permission and started living like the person you were meant to be? One day, you’ll wish you had started sooner. So don’t waste another second. No more watching. No more measuring. No more waiting. The world doesn’t need another version of someone else—it needs you, fully owning who you are. So go. Build. Become.      Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  @coachkate1  Mental Health Coach    https://missionmedus.com

Failure doesn’t happen overnight—it creeps in when you justify excuses, tolerate low standards, and let hesitation win. Success isn’t talent, luck, or motivation—it’s discipline, execution, and refusing to negotiate with weakness. If you don’t control your time, distractions will. If you don’t audit your environment, mediocrity will feel normal. The people who win aren’t the ones who feel ready; they’re the ones who move anyway, track their progress, and outwork their old selves daily. Every decision either starves failure or feeds it—there is no neutral. Half-effort guarantees failure a front-row seat, but full execution suffocates it before it takes root. So ask yourself: Are you feeding success, or are you feeding failure? Because at the end of the day, you don’t get what you want—you get what you demand. Now move.   Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  @coachkate1  Mental Health Coach

Standards, values and boundaries on their own, are just ideas. They don’t define you—your actions do. Saying you value discipline, honesty, or respect is meaningless unless you have the structure to back it up. That structure comes from principles, standards, and boundaries. Principles are the internal rules that guide your decisions, especially when motivation fades or external pressure builds. Standards are the actions that prove your values in real life, holding you accountable to what you claim to stand for. Boundaries protect those standards, ensuring that distractions, people, or excuses don’t pull you off course. Take discipline as an example. If you say you value discipline, then your principle might be: “I do what needs to be done, no matter how I feel.” Your standard would be showing up, training, working, and executing, even when you’re tired or uninspired. Your boundary would be refusing to let external distractions—social events, late nights, negativity—interfere with your set priorities. Most people claim to have values, but their actions tell a different story. The real question is: Are you proving yours?   Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  @coachkate1  Mental Health Coach

Every single interaction you have sends a message about how you expect to be treated. Whether you realize it or not, you’re always teaching people how to treat you. People will only treat you the way you allow them to. Boundaries aren’t just something you set—they’re the blueprint for how people engage with you. Every interaction is a lesson in what you accept, what you challenge, and what you refuse to tolerate. If you tolerate mistreatment, disrespect, or inconsistency, guess what? You just taught them that it’s okay. Silence is dangerous—if you don’t speak up, you’re sending the message that you’re fine with whatever’s happening. People will push as far as you let them, and if you’re inconsistent with your standards, they’ll test those limits over and over again. Self-respect is the foundation—if you don’t respect yourself, don’t expect anyone else to either. Saying “no” but giving in teaches people your boundaries are flexible, and once they see a crack, they’ll keep pushing. The way you handle conflict tells people exactly how far they can go with you. At the end of the day, you don’t demand respect—you show people how to give it by what you tolerate, what you walk away from, and how you hold the line.   Phenyx Fit Kate Hastings Podcast  @coachkate1  Mental Health Coach