I spent years showing up for everyone but me. Keeping promises to other people. Breaking the ones I made to myself. This episode is about the truth behind that pattern—where it comes from, why we call self-abandonment “loyalty,” and how to finally cut it at the root. I break down the difference between discipline and punishment, how boundaries start with values, and why healing has to lead to something bigger than just you. Because if your growth never leaves the journal, and your “self-work” becomes your full identity—you’re not free. This is about coming home to yourself, living with integrity, and treating yourself like someone who actually matters.   Kate Hastings | Mental Health Coach 🌐 Website: 📩 Email: 📱 Instagram:   Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes 🌐 Website: 📱 Text 24/7 or Call: 305-748-2517 📧 Email: 📲 Instagram: Coach Kate for 10% off