how to twenty-something

In this episode of "How to Twenty-Something," I introduce the sneakiest fear of all: the fear of success, also known as achievemephobia. I further explain where the anxiety around success comes from which is usually accompanied with additional changes, responsibilities, and unknowns that freak your brain out. This fear is relevant in any area of your life, which I identify throughout the episode from your career, to personal relationships, to your health. You need to create a plan to manage future challenges and seek support from a coach (me) to navigate these fears and reach your full potential.

Key Takeaways:

• Your fear of success involves anxiety about achieving goals and the potential changes that success might bring
• Fear of success can manifest as imposter syndrome, fear of additional responsibilities, losing free time, or fear of failure after achieving success.
• How to use four simple steps to help out your fear of success
• Challenges and mistakes are part of the journey to up-leveling

Helpful Resources: 

Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success 

Email me: [email protected]

Asses your adulting skills: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/assess/ 

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WARNING: MENTION OF DEATH AND SUICIDE, please consult a mental health specialist before listening to this episode if you suffer with any mental illnesses. 

I took a week at the end of July to volunteer my time with Experience Camps, a nonprofit organization that sends kids who have lost a parent, sibling, or primary caregiver to a one-week free overnight camp. This episode is to bring to light my experience as a counselor at Experience Camps, my reason behind volunteering, how you can get involved, and what grief looks like as you age. Justin was the director on the boys side and first invited me to apply to be counselor, so I brought him back on to ask me about how this week went for me!

Key Takeaways:

• The different types of activities that are included in this kind of camp
• Unexpected realizations I had about my own grief and loss
• What Experience Camps is, represents, and offers
• The importance of vulnerability, acceptance, and finding your community

Helpful Resources: 

Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success 

Email Me: [email protected]

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Experience Camps Info: 

Experience Camps: https://experiencecamps.org/

• It costs $2,500 to send 1 camper to our week long camp programs.

Justin’s Marathon: Fundraiser: https://give.experiencecamps.org/fundraiser/5419196

Programs: https://experiencecamps.org/our-programs

Volunteer Link: https://experiencecamps.org/volunteer (Apps open 11/1)

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In this episode of "How to Twenty-Something," I dive into the dynamic between introverts and extroverts in a world largely designed for extroverts. I discuss the unique challenges we introverts face in social and professional settings, offering strategies for navigating an extroverted world while honoring our needs. Key topics include understanding the core differences between introverts and extroverts, managing social interactions, and finding ways to recharge. I also emphasize the importance of building meaningful 1:1 relationships and adjusting our personal standards for social activities.

Key Takeaways:

• Normalizing introverted tendencies so you don’t feel like an outcast
• How to recognize where the world highlights extroverts
• Ways to take care of yourself and your energy needs
• Recognizing if you’re an introvert or extrovert
• Characteristics of an introvert vs extrovert

Helpful Resources: 

Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success 

Email me: [email protected]

Confidence PDF:  https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/confidence/ 

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You’re probably going to buy your first home in your twenties, if not early thirties, so you might as well become familiar with the process earlier rather than later. This episode of How To Twenty-Something invites Julia Watkins, Realtor, to break down what exactly goes into buying your first home. We discuss what to look out for, how to handle the inspection, how much money you should have going into this journey, and when the right time to buy is. 

Key Takeaways

• Why you don’t want to be “house poor”
• Ways to go about finding a lender and a realtor and when to start this conversation
• Renting vs Owning
• Closing costs, inspections, mortgages, and what you need in your bank account to begin this process
• What is due diligence and how does it play a role in negotiations
• What not to do when you’re about to buy a house

Helpful Resources: 

Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success 

Email Me: [email protected]

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Contact Julia: 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/juliawatkins.realtor/ 

Website: https://juliawatkins.bhhscarolinas.com/ 

Email: [email protected] 

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This episode of How To Twenty-Something sheds light on the concept of Groundhog Day, a phenomenon often feels like being on a conveyor belt, where weekdays are monotonous and weekends are a desperate attempt to break free. Throughout this episode I share my personal experiences, provide you with tips to get yourself out of these monotonous feelings, and explain why this is a universal adulting experience.

Key Takeaways:

• Setting Goals: Break the year into fiscal quarters and set 3-month goals to create a sense of progress and accomplishment.
• Creating a Routine: Establish a consistent daily routine that includes morning workouts and meal prepping to manage time effectively.
• Exploring New Interests: Introduce new activities or hobbies once a week to keep life interesting and prevent burnout.
• Finding Success in Small Wins: Identify moments in your day that signify success to shift your perspective positively.

Helpful Resources: 

Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success 

Email me: [email protected]

Confidence PDF:  https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/confidence/ 

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The clothes you wear actually matters and this episode of How To Twenty-Something invites Sam Swann, who is the wardrobe queen, to discuss why you need to begin wearing your closet. Throughout this episode we define what it looks like to wear your closet, how you can get started in enhancing your style, the role clothes play in your comfort zones and self-confidence, and how to invite personality and play into your style.

Key Points:

• Ways you can begin wearing your closet
• How your clothes push the limits of your comfort zone in healthy ways
• Your outfits allow you to pour more energy into yourself and therefore your life
• Using return policies so you don’t get trapped with a closet full of unworn clothes
• How to use your clothes to highlight your personality
• Bridging the gap from your old style to the new one you want to create
• Shifting your mindset around repeating outfits

Helpful Resources: 

Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success 

Email: [email protected]

Top 5 Confidence Killing Fears (and what to do about them) https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/fear/ 

Contact Sam:

LinkedIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/samantha-swann?utm_source=share&utm_campaign=share_via&utm_content=profile&utm_medium=ios_app 

Insta: https://www.instagram.com/simba_blonde/ 

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In this episode of "How to Twenty-Something," I dive into the complex realm of online dating and share my thoughts and experiences on dating apps like Bumble, Tinder, and Hinge. This episode aims to shift the mindset around online dating, encouraging listeners to embrace it with a positive and open-minded approach while also acknowledging its challenges. I highlight the importance of self-awareness, mental health, and setting clear intentions before diving into the world of online dating. By celebrating small successes and maintaining a growth mindset, the journey of finding love or meaningful connections becomes more manageable.

Key Takeaways:

• The struggles of dating in your twenties and the challenges of finding suitable partners
• The psychological impact of having too many options on dating apps and what to do about it
• Tips for creating an effective and genuine dating profile and what to avoid
• Emphasizing safety precautions when meeting someone from a dating app

Helpful Resources: 

Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success 

Email: [email protected]

Confidence PDF:  https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/confidence/ 

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The most common question when it comes to seeking out support for your own well-being is, “Do I need a coach or a therapist?” Well, this episode of how to twenty-something, invites guest expert, Shoshana Belisle, to clear up the similarities, differences, strengths, and weaknesses between the two. Shoshana has been studying the difference between the two modalities through her dissertation and very clearly articulates any confusion someone may have when it comes to coaching or therapy.

For the purpose of this episode we are referring to talk therapy and wellness coaching.

Key Points:

• What is therapy and what is coaching?
• Where does coaching and therapy overlap?
• How do tools, techniques, and structures differ between the two?
• Tips to finding a good resource for you
• What is out of scope for a coach?
• Strengths and weaknesses of both therapy and coaching

Helpful Resources: 

Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success 

Email: [email protected]

Top 5 Confidence Killing Fears (and what to do about them) https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/fear/ 

Contact Shoshana:

Website: www.flexywellness.com  

Insta: https://www.instagram.com/flexy_wellness/ 

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In this episode of How to Twenty-Something, I discuss the significant influence of social media on modern life as a twenty-something year old, emphasizing both its benefits and drawbacks. I share personal experiences and observations about the growing trend of detachment from social media, threats to your mental health when overconsuming, and how to have a balanced relationship with all of the different forms of social media. I specifically note that social media isn’t all bad, but it is important to develop an awareness around how it’s impacting your life, thoughts, and actions.

Key Takeaways:

• Social media gives you a distorted view of reality
• Do you tie your self-worth to your view count or likes?
• Ways to begin detaching yourself from the negative influences social media possesses
• Bringing online connections to real life
• The benefits and consequences of social media
• How to set boundaries with your social media addiction

Helpful Resources: 

Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success 

Email: [email protected]

Confidence PDF:  https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/confidence/ 

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It’s time to learn how to talk so you feel heard. You don’t need to learn how to speak publicly to go on a stage, but you do need to know how to speak to advance any personal or professional relationships you will have. In this episode of how to twenty-something, Actor and Speaking Coach, Brian Lafontaine, shows how he has related his acting experience to the way he helps his clients learn how to put their best foot forward. We talk about vulnerability, storytelling, not being afraid of being the youngest, how to avoid filler words and so much more.

Key Takeaways:

• How to make your ‘talk’ not a one way conversation
• Using your vulnerable side to connect with your audience
• What happens when you’re the youngest one in the room having to speak
• Getting over stage fright or nerves
• Why you need to learn how to storytell
• The balance between providing too much detail and not enough

Helpful Resources: 

Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success 

Email: [email protected]

Top 5 Confidence Killing Fears (and what to do about them) https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/fear/ 

Contact Brian:

Website: www.brianlafontaine.com  

Insta: https://www.instagram.com/blafontaineymhs/  

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