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Season 4, episode 20 is here!
Ryan Maxwell and I have been having deep conversations for the best part of a year now, so it was about time we did one on the record. Ryan writes Chasing Maximus, and his whole journey is about working out how you became who you are and what comes next.
He built everything he thought he was supposed to want, watched it start to crumble, and has spent years since then digging into why. This was an honest, thoughtful conversation (as it always is with Ryan).
What we covered:
- The realisation midway through his corporate career that changed the whole direction of his life.
- What Ryan calls his two-by-four moments, and how to spot the warning signs long before life knocks you flat.
- Why the pressure he felt for years was never actually coming from where he thought it was.
- The difference between fitting in and belonging, and why sanding down your edges attracts the wrong people.
- What it really takes to tell someone a hard truth without crushing them, and why nice is not the same as kind.
- The line Ryan draws on how much of himself to share, summed up in one phrase about scars and open wounds.
- His golden nugget on why we mistake our adaptations for our personality, and the software update most of us never install.
Go and subscribe to Ryan’s publication, Chasing Maximus, and if you ever get the chance to have a proper conversation with him, take it.
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