We all long for love—but what if much of what we call love is actually attachment?
What if the “I can’t live without you” kind of passion, the clingy parenting, or the twin flame obsession we’ve been taught to see as the highest form of love… is really a form of suffering disguised as devotion?
In this episode, Kiran, Leela, and Cami unpack one of Kiran’s most transformative teachings: Red Love vs Blue Love.
Red Love: the clingy, attached, agenda-driven kind of love we’ve been taught to celebrate—where romance, parenting, or even friendship becomes about ownership, exclusivity, and identity.
Blue Love: a radically different way of loving—cool, spacious, free, and without agenda. This non-attached love opens us to Source, to truth, and to the ability to meet others as they are without carrying them or needing them to define us. Through stories, examples, and lived experience, we explore:
Why we confuse attachment for real love
The hidden suffering inside exclusivity & twin flame myths
The difference between “Hollywood romance” and Source love
How Blue Love brings more compassion, intimacy, and freedom into parenting, friendships, and romantic partnerships
What it feels like to live in a field of love that doesn’t begin or end with another person
This is Part 1 of the Red Love/Blue Love teaching. Next week, in Part 2, we’ll go even deeper into what it means to embody true love that is unconditional, ever-present, and limitless.
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Show Notes:
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Timestamps00:00 – Intro: Why talk about love & attachment
02:10 – Red Love vs Blue Love explained
06:45 – Kiran’s teaching origin story (Ilsa & the “cool” kind of love)
12:30 – What makes attached love (Red Love) toxic
18:20 – Why Blue Love feels so different from Hollywood romance
23:45 – Leela’s personal story: Red Love, loss, and choosing God
31:15 – Exclusive vs inclusive love (and the twin flame trap) 38:20 – The shift into unconditional Source love 43:00 – How Blue Love transforms parenting & relationships
47:50 – Healthy detachment: caring without carrying
50:15 – Closing reflections + Fall class registration
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