I Choose Life

In this episode, Mellisa and Genean talk about saving money. Genean is a mother, works for the airline industry, and lives in New York which is one of the most expensive cities to live in. In this uncut and raw episode, Genean makes references about apps she uses to save money along with tips to save the most money. She also has different ways to make money and pay for obnoxious bills that can just pop up out of nowhere. They also talk about attitude and mental health in regards to finances. This is a great episode for anyone that wants to save. Here are some links and ways to make money: Come save money on Fetch with me! Sign up w/ code UB5R8C & get 2,000 pts: https://fetchrewards.onelink.me/vvv3/referraltext?code=UB5R8C. See you there! Ways To Earn Extra Money: Amazon Flex Uber Eats Instacart

This week Becky talks with her childhood best friend, Mary Jo, about the music that they’ve enjoyed throughout their lives. They discuss the music that they grew up with, how it impacted them, and how their musical tastes have evolved over the years. Listen and consider how music has shaped your life as well.

On today’s episode, Becky interviews her favorite singer-songwriter and the other half of a very exclusive book club, Treye Hall. They discuss Treye’s process as a creative person, how she became creative, and how anyone can be creative in their own way. They also talk about how to find inspiration as well as the right environment and space for thinking creatively. Whether or not you consider yourself to be a creative person, anyone can gain new insight from this conversation, and maybe even find some creativity within yourself.

In this episode Becky and Mellisa study and research bonding in different situations. Why we bond, what we bond over, and is it healthy bonding.

Bonding: the establishment of a relationship or link with someone based on shared feelings, interests, or experiences.

"we were friendly to each other, but there was no bonding"

Here are a few questions to ask yourself:

1. Why does this relationship draw me in?

2. How am I feeling?

3.Are you tired of yesterday’s tired?

Have you ever noticed when you have synergy in a group and pray to keep it? Have you experienced struggles in synergy? Becky and Mellisa have noticed both in personal and work projects. They talk about how to foster it and keep it. They specifically talk about: 1.) Setting values and goals. 2.) Having transparent communication. 3.) Having structure and clarity. 4.) Having individual meaning.

5.) Working on cadence. 6.) Psychological Safety.

7.) Dependable.

8.) Contributing Impact. Lastly, they go over building your team.

Key components are: 1.) Know peoples strengths.

2.)Assign Roles & Accountabilities.

3.) Celebrate Milestones. ~Favorite Mantra: To Be Clear, Is To Be Kind~

Synergy is an interaction or cooperation giving rise to a whole that is greater than the simple sum of its parts. The term synergy comes from the Attic Greek word συνεργία synergia[1] from synergos, συνεργός, meaning "working together".

Correction: Becky mentioned a verse & thought it was Nehemiah, it is from Philippians 2:5 “In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus.”

Becky and Mellisa talk about how to know when you are triggered or someone else is possibly triggered verses you trying to control a situation or someone trying to control you. Like usual…we define our subject which is control and triggered. Definition of Control:

1. the power to influence or direct people's behavior or the course of events.

2. a group or individual used as a standard of comparison for checking the results of a survey or experiment.

Definition of Triggered:

1. Adjective (of a mechanism) activated by a trigger.

2. (of a response) caused by particular action, process, or situation.

Control and being triggered have two different feelings. This is how you can know the difference.

There are some ways to remedy and heal from being triggered or controlled.

Welcome, today Becky & Mellisa talk over Protecting Your Peace on I Choose Life. As you can imagine this is something we don’t always get right & we will learn as we go. Why you should & how to. We hope you will enjoy this episode & share it with a friend. Thank you for following along.

Here are the Verses:

Psalm 73:16-17 “when I tried to understand all this, it troubled me deeply till I entered the sanctuary of God; and I understood their final destiny.”

Psalm 94:19 “ when anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought me joy.”

Pets can be a great addition to your life and family. If you are thinking about getting a pet or another pet, you don’t want to miss this episode. The hosts are well experienced with having different pets and want to share what they have learned. The first consideration is the why and the goal of getting a pet. The next things to consider is do your have enough time and money. Lastly, what is your lifestyle and personality. Will your energy and personality match the pets energy. AKC website: https://www.akc.org/

Gratitude is the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. Becky and Mel share some personal and even funny stories about how they learned and continue to learn about gratitude. Gratitude is a constant practice with hills and valleys. There are many benefits to having an ongoing practice of gratitude. They talk about having gratitude even during hardships and lay the “why” out. Lastly, they explain some ways to cultivate gratitude such as being present, breaking down your day and doing some gratitude writing.

Need a new book to read? This question gets asked on social media all of the time. Books can change how you see people and your world. Becky and Mellisa are going to go over some books that have been life changing for them.

Becky

1. “The Body keeps the score” by Bessel Van Der Kolk.

2. “Get Your Life Back” by John Eldridge

3. “The Last Arrow” by Erwin McManu

4. “The Secret Adversary” by Agatha Christie

Mellisa

1. “The Whole Brain Child” by Daniel J Siegel, MD & Tina Payne Bryson, PHD

2. “Atomic Habits” by James Clear

3. “Financial Peace & Total Money Makeover” by Dave Ramsey

4. “Discerning the Voice of God”by Priscilla Shirer (Anything Priscilla 💜)

5. “The Dance of Anger” By Harriet Lerner