I Said What I Said

Fellow People Pleasers we are NOT leaving 2024 without learning how to boundary set. People pleasing and boundaries have been directly linked with my own self worth, self concept, sense of self, respecting my self, and STRENGTHENING my intuition, intuitive abilities and my connection to my Higher Self. Like I hear her more clearlyyyyy, come on!!!!! This is necessary work. Boundary setting is an energetic practice and bears sooo many fruits. SO LET'S DO THIS. 💥

• how to recognise toxic relationships
• What a healthy boundary is and isn’t
• Why boundaries are important 
• How loved ones should and shouldn’t treat you (re identifying toxic dynamics)
• How, ultimately, YOU have to matter to yourself

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In upcoming episodes I'm going to be building on ideas of embodiment, losing people but/because of gaining self-love, and spiritual awakening. Today's episode lays the groundwork for these themes. I discuss some of my developments in: 

• Boundaries with self
• Processing resentment through body work and dreams
• Dream interpretation 
• Friendship breakups and self respect
• Proprioception and ignoring the body’s cues

00:00 Welcome and Introduction

00:42 Why there will be “No Love is Blind DC” Reunion *sprinkles Holy Water*

03:45 Housekeeping and Patreon Updates

06:35 Discussing Boundaries

07:48 Exploring Resentment and Self-Reflection

17:06 Breathwork and Body Awareness

23:25 Friendships and Boundaries

29:00 Astrology and Relationships

29:34 The Significance of Dreams

30:40 Psychic Reading and Friendship

33:00 Interpreting Dreams and Emotional Release

38:03 Boundaries and Friendships

42:52 Evolving Friendships and Self-Respect

50:59 Guiding Questions for Self-Reflection

54:58 Final Thoughts and Farewell

In a friendship dilemma? Consider the following:

1. Think of the version of you who made this friend, are they someone you would consider trustworthy now? Did they hold standards and boundaries in a way that are useful to you now? 
2. This friend that you are unsure about, are they respectful or disrespectful? 
3. Are they comfortable with conflict? Do they leave room for disagreement? 
4. Are you inspired by them to be a more you version of yourself? What does their presence encourage or discourage in you? 
5. Are your best traits amplified by them or are your worst traits amplified by them or something in between? 
6. Who benefits the most from this relationship? Is it equally beneficial?
7. What about this friendship lights you up? What about it makes you uncomfortable and uneasy? 
8. Have you tried setting a boundary and how did they respond? 

Sorry if you hear a clicking sound - its my fidget toy oooops

References:

Love is Blind DC Tea: The horrific threesome "parenting" triangle Tyler from Love is Blind, is in - and boldly continues to lie about. For the full expose watch this https://youtu.be/94iP19qo9z8?si=N_vNpvDPXQzQPlyY and then this https://www.youtube.com/live/5eDwrzgidpQ?si=X1r_wSuov0NKZlDd (the interview with the ex wife is about half way in. TW!!). Here’s a brilliant YouTube about black women on dating shows: https://youtu.be/k84_Vj8fvlc?si=pkq_lMPadEHTFZF7 

Set Boundaries, Find Peace - Nedra Glover Tawwab

Friendship breakup episode: Ep94

Disassociation and Sex episode: Ep84 + Ep85 (exclusive to Patreon)

Flex Mami: https://www.instagram.com/flex.mami/ 

Aumji - breathwork teacher: https://www.instagram.com/aumji_kistan/?hl=en 

Bad Day by Justus Bennetts

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Episode is postponed! We'll discuss Ep12 + the reunion in one episode next week or the week after. In the meantime catch up with the Love Is Blind tea - specifically, TYLER and his 673 kids - via these links (available to all free+paid patreon members): https://www.patreon.com/posts/vol-6-114883413?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link

Patreon is closed to new subscribers from October 31 2024, until 2025. If you want to join, join now, or buy individual episodes until 2025.

References:

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Things have gone from bad to WORSE. We discuss Ep10 and 11, with no spoilers beyond Ep11 (but we do discuss a reddit theory about Tyler and his sperm donor situation). Trouble in paradise for Taylor and Garett, Tantrums and misunderstands between Tim and Alex, bullying in the air with Hannah and Nick D, and a lack of clarity between Tyler and Ashley - is the man a dad or not, come on nowwwww! The full 2hr episode is on Patreon which you can buy for a once-off fee, or become a monthly subscriber. Topics: 

• Marissa and Ramses: keeping up appearances, overemphasis on sex, do people understand marriage is a legal contract?
• Hannah and Nick D: bullying, gender norms, giving women the benefit of the doubt
• Gareth and Taylor: gaslighting, red flags and why lie by omission?!! 
• Tyler and Ashley: so was it sperm donation or a whole deadbeat dad?!!!!
• Tim and Alex: tantrums, depression, enmeshment and deadly power naps
• Feminism, gender dynamics, domestic responsibilities
• Are women easier to date than men

References:

Dating Detectives podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5EFfjKxcZ7AskDVCUcrt7a?si=185658a465774055 

Doctor who helps incels: https://youtu.be/B_5N_aDu3u0?si=U-2PWLiFQQG0dIn8 

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Have these men lost their rabbit ass minds?!!! We discuss ep 5 from when they leave for vacation, all the way through to half way through Ep9, with no spoilers beyond Ep9. Raw sex, military drama, the ick, no retirement plans - we unpack this and more on this episode. The full 2hr episode on Patreon which you can buy for a once-off fee, or become a monthly subscriber. Topics: 

• Monica and Stephen: hypogamy, tense relationship Dynamics, cheating
• Hannah and Nick D: Compatibility Issues, childishness and failure to launch
• Alex and Tim: conflict styles, poor communication and unresolved trauma
• Garrett and Taylor: is he actually into her?
• Ashley and Tyler: verbal affirmation and lies
• Marissa and Ramses: reproductive health, patriotism and politics

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This season is COOKED! Hard to get through but fun to discuss. The full 2hr episode on Patreon which you can buy for a once-off fee, or become a monthly subscriber. We discuss Ep1 all the way through to half way through Ep5. We end after the couples meet and before they go on holiday. There are no spoilers beyond Ep5. We discuss: 

• First Impressions of the Show (we hate it but are committed lol)
• Leo and Brittany: manipulation, coercion, Jewish Guilt, epigenetics
• Hannah and Nick D: 
• White beauty standards, dating as a racial minority
• Taylor and Garrett's Relationship: “secrecy” and privilege 
• Monica and Stephen: America’s relationship with blackness and the one drop rule
• Marissa and Ramses: gender dynamics, masculinity, emotional availability, and dating Trump supporters
• Marissa and Bowden: Balkan rizz, green flag military service and emotional distance
• Tim and Tyler: Boundaries, Emotional Purging and using women as therapists
• Black Love vs. Struggle Love
• Tim's Red Flags and Boundaries
• Ashley and Alexandra: not them being accessories to their men! where’s their screen time?

References:

• Ep90 on People Pleasing ft. Nyak
• Video on epigenetics: https://www.patreon.com/posts/vol-3-113233084?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link 
• Relationship true crime: Dating Detectives Podcast
• Splice movie (2009)

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Hey girls n gays! We’re BACK for October 2024 to cover the new season of Love is Blind, airing October 2nd. Watch along with us and join the chitchat about it on patreon!

Tokyo Toni - https://www.tiktok.com/@femalerapquotes/video/7285839826983652641?lang=en

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Current Patreon Members: you will NOT be charged during the hiatus.

People wanting to subscribe: Patreon will be open to new subscriptions on Sunday 8th September from 9am GMT+2 to 9pm GMT+2. New subscribers, you will be charged only once for access to the full catalogue. If you miss this window (girl damn!!) Just DM me

I'm feeling called to be quiet for a bit. I'm in a massive growth stage where I'm studying and applying knowledge in traditional western astrology and human design. I will be sharing resources on IG (both mukundwa_ and iswis_podcast, mostly the latter. the former is mostly for ridiculous memes), and will make an astrology and human design highlight where you can find everything. I wouldn't have known that I need rest + to indulge myself in INTENSE study, research and investigation if not for human design + astrology indicating the same. Therefore I cannot overemphasise the importance of following your curiosity if you are feeling a bit rudderless and in need of direction! I've been pretty bored and aimless the past 2 years and all of this has given me a new lease of life 💫 hoping the same for you 🙏🏾 Please send me stuff that's interesting you, recommend dating shows (I'm going to watch MAFS South Africa, wish me good luck!) and say hi on IG DM or Patreon group chat.

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You can buy the full episode for $3 once-off on Patreon

I discuss: 

• Catherine and white woman tears
• Sociocultural ignorance
• Tom and Maria: intellectualising vs. feeling your feelings
• Demi's Growth! She picked herself
• Steven and Sabrina’s 180: from smitten to cold and combative
• Bobby: my theory on secure attachment and a lack of financial ambition
• Madman Sam: seeking self esteem through black women

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Let’s get into it! Ep7-9 with no spoilers beyond 9. I discuss: 

• Madman Sam’s last ditch attempts to manipulate
• Nicole's Diplomatic Approach vs. Benaiah’s directness
• Ollie's ADHD as the missing context 
• How Tom and Maria could both compromise
• Catherine needs an astrologer NOW: Astrology vs. Psychology, when to use which
• Sabrina and Stephen: Irish notions
• Jasmine and Bobby: insecurities, boundaries
• Immigrant mums: enmeshment, emotional incest
• Final predictions

References:

Tik Tok on Blake Lively + White Women victimhood - https://www.tiktok.com/@the_yv_edit/video/7405648123256884526 

Zee Mills clip - https://www.instagram.com/p/C-npeiOI0_Y/ 

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