I Saw Him First

Ever been told your standards are too high or that you are too quick to walk away? Here is why being “too picky” is actually the secret to finding the right guy, and why you should absolutely refuse to settle. Many people stay in unhappy situations because they fear being alone or worry about how things look on social media.

This discussion is for anyone ready to prioritize their mental peace over a performative connection. By setting firm relationship boundaries, you create a clear path for what you will and will not tolerate. It is so easy to get caught up in the illusion of "Instagram relationship goals," but true happiness means protecting your peace and walking away when your needs aren't being met.

Today, I’m getting real about my own dating history, why the flashy, confident guys are usually a trap, and why overlooking the genuine "good guys" is the biggest mistake we make. We are leaving the situationships, red flags, and bare-minimum relationships behind!

I want to hear from you: What is your absolute, non-negotiable dealbreaker in a relationship?

Let me know in the comments down below! 👇If you enjoy honest chats about life, love, and navigating adulthood, make sure to hit that subscribe button! ✨

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TIMESTAMPS

[00:00] - the hook: if i'm not happy, i'm leaving

[00:21] - intro: what "relationship goals" actually means to me

[01:46] - dating is like shopping at tj maxx

[03:10] - why the flashy, confident guys are usually a trap[04:51] - why the "good guys" are so easy to overlook

[06:33] - the first date with my man

[08:26] - why you NEED a non-negotiable dealbreaker list

[10:09] - stop giving men 3rd and 4th chances (be quick with the exit!)[13:01] - the "bikini model" debate & bare minimum men

[14:48] - final thoughts: being alone is better than a bad relationship

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Dating in 2026 feels exhausting… and honestly? A lot of people are losing hope in modern dating.In this episode, I talk about situationships, noncommittal men, dating culture, and why finding “the one” can sometimes feel more like luck than strategy.

I also share the biggest signs of an unserious man early on, so you can protect your peace, avoid wasting time, and stop ignoring red flags.If you’ve ever:

• Been stuck in a situationship

• Felt emotionally drained by dating apps

• Wondered why commitment feels rare now

• Struggled with mixed signals and inconsistency

• Questioned whether modern dating is getting worse… this conversation is for you.

This is an honest, unfiltered conversation about love, relationships, self-worth, and navigating dating in today’s world.💬

COMMENT BELOW: Do you think dating has gotten worse over the years?

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Taylor Swift is finally engaged, and the internet lost its mind. But why do engagements, weddings, and “being chosen” hit us so hard?In this video, I break down the cultural obsession with love stories, why engagement posts dominate Instagram, how society glamorizes weddings over marriage, and why Taylor Swift’s engagement feels like a collective win for her fans and beyond.This isn’t just about Taylor Swift — it’s about us, our craving for love, validation, and the fairytale ending.💍 Let’s talk about why engagements are the ultimate internet currency.If you enjoy this video, don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more cultural deep dives.#TaylorSwift #TaylorSwiftEngaged #traviskelce #traviskelceandtaylorswift #EngagementCulture #CelebrityEngagement #TaylorSwiftNews #Swifties #WeddingCulture #PopCultureAnalysis

Would you ask about saving and investing on a first date? I do, and here’s why.In this video, I share my experience telling my co-workers about my first-date money question, why I think the saying “money doesn’t make you happy” is flawed, and how talking about finances early can actually save you a lot of heartache later.

I dive into:- Why conversations about saving, investing, and financial goals matter in relationships.- The things money really buys you (beyond just “stuff”).- Why you shouldn’t feel guilty for being ambitious or caring about financial stability.- My thoughts on the stock market and real estate investing as tools for freedom.

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You don’t need to be perfect to be loved... seriously.

In this video, I’m sharing something deeply personal. How I used to obsess over every little flaw, always trying to be “put together” and “attractive” ... until I started liking someone who didn’t fit any of my old ideas of “perfection.” That experience completely changed the way I saw love, dating, and most importantly, myself.

From K-dramas to real-life crushes, I realised something... maybe it’s not about being flawless. Maybe the quirks, the messy bits, the clumsy parts — are exactly what make us magnetic.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re not pretty enough, successful enough, or perfect enough to find love… this one’s for you.👉

Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share if this resonates. Your support helps me grow this channel and keep sharing real talk like this.

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Modern dating is a mess, and if you’ve ever felt like all the good men are gone, you’re not alone. In this brutally honest podcast episode, I dive deep into the real struggles of dating in 2025, from the death of genuine connection to the overwhelming pressure of dating apps and situationships.Why is it so hard to find a nice guy who’s actually emotionally available and attractive? Why do so many of us feel like we’re constantly told to settle for less than we desire? Is dating even worth it anymore?If you're tired of scrolling, swiping, and endlessly hoping for someone decent to come along, this episode is for you.I discussed:- Why modern dating feels so hopeless- How the standards have shifted- The rarity of truly good men- How to date without feeling burnt outWhether you're single, dating, or just over it — this is your safe space. Raw, real, and unfiltered.🧠 Share your experience in the comments — do you agree that dating has gotten worse?🫶 Subscribe for more honest conversations about dating, love, and self-worth.🎧 Also available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and wherever you get your pods!FIND ME HERE 🎤📹YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/@ThinkingOutLoudWithAnjy?sub_confirmation=1Tiktok - tiktok.com/@ThinkingoutloudwithAnjy✉Contactfor business inquiries, please email: [email protected]#NiceGuys #DatingPodcast #Singles #DatingIn2025 #WhereAreTheGoodMen #SingleLife #DatingStruggles #ToxicDatingCulture #NiceGuysFinishLast #Situationships #HonestConversations #SlimPickins

Are you afraid of love? Scared to open your heart because it feels like true love might not last? In this deeply personal video, I share my fears about relationships and why I’ve been single for over two years. From the fear of waking up to a partner who no longer loves me to the anxiety of being stuck in an unhappy relationship with kids, I open up about the emotional struggles that have shaped my love life.

Let’s have a heart-to-heart, girls. Let's get into the girl chat! 💕 Whether you're a teenager navigating your first crush or a young woman figuring out modern dating, this video is packed with real, relatable, and empowering advice. From decoding lies from boys, to setting boundaries and figuring out who you are, I’m here to help you navigate the sometimes messy but exciting world of dating 🌸✨

Grab a cup of tea (and your favorite snack), get comfy, and join me as we chat about everything from red flags 🚩 to knowing your worth and not settling for boys you're not attracted to.

This is the dating advice every young woman needs to hear! 💌💖 Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more girl talk and advice on life, love, and leveling up!

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Hiya, I'm Anjy. My goal is to inspire curiosity and elevate the quality of our lives beyond manifestations and self affirmations. I intend to challenge 'popular beliefs' through thought-provoking discussions and provide practical insights grounded in NEUROSCIENCE and PSYCHOLOGY.

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Navigating Insecurities in Relationships | Love Is Blind UK & Sabrina Carpenter's New Album.

In this episode of the podcast, we dive deep into the first and latest season of Love Is Blind UK, focusing on the emotional journey of two standout characters - Catherine & Freddie. We explore how insecurities can impact relationships, using the case of Catherine who loses her chance with a great guy due to self-doubt, lack of trust and past relationship trauma. We discuss how past experiences with toxic relationships can make it difficult to trust new, potentially healthy ones.

Connecting these themes to Sabrina Carpenter's new album - Short n' Sweet, we highlight three songs that perfectly relate to what we see a lot on Love is Blind, and capture the struggles many women face when it comes to love and trust. We also talk about how we, as women, often doubt when things seem too good to be true, and why it's crucial to work on our insecurities before entering a new relationship.

Ultimately, I want to remind everyone that we're all human, we're all doing our best, and it's okay to feel vulnerable.If you've ever questioned your self-worth in a relationship or wondered how to overcome past hurts to embrace a better future, this episode is for you. Join us as we find solace in shared experiences and learn to navigate the complexities of love with a bit more compassion for ourselves and eachother.

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LOVE ISLAND IS HEREEEE! In this podcast, we're diving deep into the latest Love Island season with a comprehensive cast breakdown. From the hottest new islanders to the juiciest fights and gossip, I've got all the deets you need to stay in the loop. Whether you're a die-hard fan or just tuning in, this breakdown will give you all the insights into this summer's Love Island UK cast members and predictions for this season's drama, romance, celebrity appearances and much more.