We're going to jump right into one of the most exhausting things that queer people have to deal with: being asked to explain ourselves all the time. This can come from homophobic uncles at family gatherings or random strangers.

This one's for all the queer Africans who were told to tone it down so they could fit in. This one is also for everyone who hid pictures of themselves, changed their voice, and didn't talk at family gatherings because they thought that would keep them safe. Respectability politics are control, not protection. They don't stop violence, rejection, or gossip; they just make it easier to erase you. They will still call you an abomination even if you follow their rules.

This is meant for LGBTQIA+ Africans, who have been told that their existence is unimportant and that it comes from the West. It is for people who know what their rights are and won't give in any more. African governments, religious groups, and traditional gatekeepers don't dislike queer people because they think we are immoral; they dislike us because we can't be controlled, don't apologize, and can't be governed.

This one is for all the queer people who were told to be quiet, turn down their light, or wait for permission to shine. This is for people who have been through enough pain and finally chose joy as a way to fight back.

This episode is for all queer Africans and queer people of African descent who have been told that being silent equates to being respectful and that your presence, your love, and your life must be “private” to be accepted.Silence is not culture; it is control; it is shame masquerading as tradition; and it is erasing us.

This episode is for all queer individuals who have been told that they are a disgrace to their lineage, as well as for those who are being silenced, mocked, or erased for simply existing. This is also intended for individuals who have heard that homosexuality is not African.

This is for all queer individuals who have been told that their pain is too loud, their truth is too inconvenient, or their presence is too much. It is also for those who have witnessed fake "allies" disappear when the hate begins to creep in. Your silence when queer people are being harassed, deleted, misrepresented, or taken down says a lot. You can't be a part of our culture, style, and brilliance and then shut up when we're being attacked. There is no shame in this conversation; it is about the truth. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, that's because it should.#YourSilenceIsViolence #QueerAndNigerian #GayAndUnbothered #AfroQueerVoices #LGBTQNigeria #CallOutTheSilence #VisibleAndVulnerable #UnapologeticallyQueer #NigerianAlliesWhereAreYou #PerformativeAllyship #SoftnessIsPower #BlackQueerResistance #CishetAccountability #SpeakUpOrStepBack #RadicalQueerHonesty #QueerLiberationNow #MyOwnKindOfRunway #ProtectYourPeace

We discuss the experience of losing the first home one has ever known, and the subsequent need to rebuild oneself from the ground up. This episode is not about pity; it is about presence. It is about demonstrating one's full presence in the face of loss, in a stylish, wounded, tender, and proud manner.#GriefAndQueerness #QueerAndUnbothered #GayIgboVoices #BlackQueerHealing #UnspokenFunerals

#AfroQueerLegacy #BeautyAsResistance #ChosenFamilyHeals #QueerAndNigerian #VisibleAndVulnerable

#SoftnessIsPower #StyleAndSurvival #QueerLiberation #MyMotherMyStyle #UnapologeticallyQueer

#FashionAsLanguage #ReclaimGrief #QueerBirthright #TendernessIsRadical #MyOwnKindOfRunway

This episode is for people who have felt bad about slowing down, who have been physically worn out by survival, and who are ready to see ease as a right instead of a reward. To rest is not to be lazy. Rest is what they never wanted us to have. It's about what it's like for queer people when everyone expects them to perform, prove, and produce just to be tolerated. We're told we need to be quiet to be safe, strong to be respected, and exceptional to be accepted. If you've ever been scared to stop, say no, or just be still, this episode is as well for you.#QueerAndUnbothered #RestIsReparations #SoftnessIsPower #LGBTQHealing #AfroQueerVoices #RadicalRest #UnapologeticallyQueer #RestAsResistance #QueerLiberation #ProtectYourPeace #BlackQueerJoy #ReclaimEase #QueerBirthright #MyOwnKindOfRunway #SlowDownToSurvive

This is about the experience queer people have when those who raised them, prayed for them, or told them they loved them also make them feel unsafe. We are taught that family is vital, even if it means we have to shrink to fit in. If you've ever had to make emotional exits, rethink what home means, or remember that love should never need you to be quiet, this episode is for you.#QueerAndUnfiltered #LGBTQIANigeria #AfroQueerVoices #ChosenFamily #QueerBoundaries #FamilyIsNotAlwaysSafe #UnapologeticallyQueer #ProtectYourPeace #BlackQueerHealing #ComingHomeToYourself #EmotionalSafety #SoftnessIsPower #SurvivalAndResistance #QueerLiberation #QueerHealing