Ill Advised with Stefani & Ray

It’s Pride Month and what better way to kick it off than with Metrosource’s Ask Daddy, an advice column for LGBTQ readers. A man struggles to reassure his partner, despite his unconditional support as she navigates her gender identity. Another contemplates the future after catching his man having intimate conversations with his ex. And finally, a writer asks for a definition of “masculinity” in the face of bigotry. [Château Moncontour Chenin Blanc, 2017]

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The BiFFs are joined by lifelong bestie, Shorty (Chantay), to help answer one of life's long-pondered questions: Am I the Assh*le? Join them as they go through the Reddit thread to tackle some interesting scenarios, such as: when your boyfriend gets mad at you for being in a bathing suit, laughing at your sister-in-law when she asks for help with her weight, and being a secret to your partner's homophobic friends. [D’Autrefois Chardonnay, 2022]

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This week, the BiFFs revisit Carloyn Hax and her column. A friendship faces uncertainty when a reader is labeled as ‘no fun’ by her best-friend when her focus is evading the husband’s advances. A Mother-in-Law with manipulative side-eye rocks another reader’s peace. And a boyfriend faces-off with his girlfriend’s mastermind cat. [Lobster Reef Sauvignon Blanc, 2022]

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Tried and tested, the Slate's "How To Do It" column takes up the conversation between the BiFFs this week. A man discovers he likes to be watched when his neighbor goes looking for her missing cat. Another's constant attempts at consoling his wife makes for an alright-sex-life. A writer's budding new fetish is threatened by his very livelihood. And Stefani's sister has a question for the BiFFs. [Borrasca Prosecco Rosé]

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This week, the BiFFs are joined by Philasophikal & J. Ecko, hosts of the Let’s Rap Podcast. The group has an open and honest conversation about the emotional dynamics of men and women ; how love is given, perceived, and received; and communicating specific needs to your partner . It’s a special episode you won’t want to miss. [Amici Cabernet Sauvignon, 2019]

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This BiFFs are all over the relationship map this week with Sex Column (Metro.co.uk), including: the age old story of son meets wife, wife sleeps with step-dad; keeping the baby based on a ghosting baby daddy; a real life application of attachment theory; and a chauvinist man who thinks of his wife’s friend during sex. [Ruggero di Bardo Susumaniello, 2019]

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The BiFFs love Meredith’s column so much, that it’s back to Love Letters this week with: a ‘tricked ya’ proposal, an immature silent-treatment-loving husband, and yearning for an ex- in the middle of a pregnancy. [Carnivore Cabernet Sauvignon, 2019]

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This week, the BiFFs take on Meredith of the Boston Globe's, Love Letters. It's a series of relationship woes, including a man who hardly acknowledges his son, a wife whose husband's kissing skills are lacking, and fourth-time's-the-charm break-up remorse. [Aix Rosé, 2021]

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Stefani & Ray talk Harriette Cole’s column, “Sense & Sensitivity.” A woman feels betrayed when her man reveals her deepest secret to his mother. A writer blames their mentor for missed opportunities. Another’s vulnerability with their partner leaves them yearning for a different reaction. A high school bully tries to make amends, but her now adult victim isn’t buying it. [Viña Las Perdices Cabernet Sauvignon, 2018]

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The BiFFs take on Susan Writer’s “Ask Someone Else’s Mom” column this week. From a liquor motivated preteen and classic-construction-wrecking-millennials, to cautious parents and in-laws - don’t miss these interesting discussions. [Arrogant Frog ‘Lily Pad White’ Chardonnay, 2019]

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