Ill Advised with Stefani & Ray

This weeks questions come from Ask E. Jean’s column of Elle Magazine. A spouse pits her future with her internet influencer counterpart against her biological clock. Another writer is ghosted and can’t accept that his decision is set in stone. Finally, how do you tell your children that they were at one point cryogenically stored? [Tenshen White Blend, 2017]

In honor of Pride month, the BiFFs take on S. Bear Bergman's "Ask Bear." A straight-identifying man looks for advice when he starts having feelings for his bro. Another writer worries that their friends are right and that they take themselves too seriously. The BiFFs also follow through with their promise for a wine tasting challenge. Winner asks the other BiFF whatever question they want. [Oyster Bay vs. White Haven - Sauvignon Blanc, 2021]

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The BiFFs talk sex this week with Little Village Mag's Dear Kiki. Stefani redefines pegging when a reader asks about the prospect of penetrating her male partner. A swinging couple wants to broach the topic of having a mutual friend join them in bed. A man with a monthly hall pass can't quit what he hit. [Mezza Di Mezzacorona Extra Dry Rosé]

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The BiFFs take a stand against plastic surgery to please one's partner. A one night fling results in a pregnancy and a slew of unsupportive family members. Finally, should you drug your Mom, even when it's to her benefit, without her knowing? [White Haven Sauvignon Blanc, 2021]

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In the last episode in the Mental Health series, the BiFFs look back at how untreated mental health issues affected their families growing up, the influence that it has now being parents themselves, and how they plan to navigate that dynamic with their own children. [Sebastiani Chardonnay, 2017]

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The BiFFs are reeling from a long, emotionally arduous day in the third episode of the mental health series. A series of events prior to recording guide an otherwise aloof pair in discussing their current mental states, their coping mechanisms, and how exhausting tending to your mental health can been. [Z Alexander Brown Sauvignon Blanc, 2020]

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In the second of four episodes in the mental health series, the BiFFs delve deeper into their mental health struggles. They go over what their anxieties and depression look like, how they've been affected by them, and how that's played out in their relationships. [Clos du Gaimont Vouvray, 2019]

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May is Mental Health Awareness Month and Stefani and Ray kick off the month discussing their own personal mental health struggles. The first in a series of four episodes, the BiFFs get candid about their diagnosed conditions and their ever-evolving journeys in their quest to remove the stigma to promote safe and open discussions in the realm of mental health. Let's breach the topic over a glass of a Simi Chardonnay, 2019.

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A story of internet love and first-time physical intimacy cause the BiFFs to relive a dual-cat-fishing. In spite of her orgasms, a question of impotency drives a woman to ask for outside help. A man's tryst with his best friends ex, blinds him to her personal agenda.  Serve up a double sausage pizza, pour a glass of your favorite Ashanti (Le Bocce Chianti Classico, 2016), and join the BiFFs as they go through Thillist.com's In Bed with Gigi Engle.

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How do you feel about your fiance seeing other naked bodies at a strip club? Does your sober sibling have the right to dictate how you live your life? Is the quality of your friendships dependent on the material things that you own? The BiFFs put their advice up against Elle Magazine's Ask Jean. #WhatTheElle [Casillero del Diablo Malbec, 2019]

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