Ill Advised with Stefani & Ray

It’s Thanksgiving and the BiFFs are in the holiday spirit. Let’s serve up a side of unhelpful in-laws, with a little Black-Friday shopping poured over top. Who needs turkey when you can serve politics on a silver platter. Set a plate for Dad’s little secret. She’s coming to dinner, and she ain’t keeping quiet. [Sail to Trail Malbec, 2016]

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The BiFFs celebrate forty episodes with an audience of family and friends. Listen on as they tackle Reddit's Am I The Assh*ole thread. Join Stefani, Ray, and friends as they address a deadbeat fiancé, a live-in mom’s disrespect, a house-stealing brother, and a woman who chooses her partner via credit check and bank info. [Sterling Chardonnay, 2019 (White Sangria)]

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The BiFFs warm up with Gawking Gary and Sterile Steve, who hasn't put out for ten years. Oh, bee-tee-dubz, your mother puts out. [Old Soul Chardonnay, 2020]

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Stefani and Ray turn to the Slate's "How to Do It" for content this week. Where does Chelsea put her Cherry Chapstick? Mother and son - a bond to be undone. How hot is your cousin? Hot enough to...? It ain't a wine night. [Chateau Bel Air Bordeaux, 2019 & Bonfante & Chiarle 2015 Barolo, 2015]

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This week, Stefani and Ray reflect on Little Village Mag's Dear Kiki. A boyfriend falls victim to his girlfriend's trap when he accepts her invitation to rifle through her text messages. Rambunctious sexual responses from her partner leave a girlfriend's neighbors flustered. A friendly female finds herself dodging the advances of older men. [Château La Commanderie du Bardelet Sauvignon Blanc, 2018]

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Emily Yoffe of tried-and-true Dear Prudie fame takes center stage as the topic of conversation with Stefani and Ray. A live-in girlfriend takes it upon herself to surveil the kids. A husband's dead wife gets credit for making way for happiness in his new marriage. A trans woman keeps her transition a secret from her new partner. [Chateau de Roques Puisseguin St Emilion, 2015]

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The BiFFs hit another Facebook Community this week with entries on AITA (Am I The A-Hole). One troll wonders if she can send her partner's child to her grandparents because she looks like his late wife. Another poster gets a worker fired for being too pretty at her wedding. The last question involves a boyfriend meeting up with his ex- in a vacant home and it's complicated. Who's the assh*le, now? [Cooper & Thief Red Blend, 2019]

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The BiFFs jump around between advice columnists this week. Amy of Ask Amy publishes a question from someone who evokes talk of "girl code" when a guy connects with a friend of a woman who ghosted him. A Miss Manners writer questions the intentions of their partner's need to constantly correct them. Carolyn Hax's question deals with commitment when a writer dates in wait for the next best thing. [19-Crimes Sauvignon Blanc, 2021]

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In this episode, Stefani & Ray circle back to classic columnist, Carolyn Hax. A reader once highly criticized is now lavishly praised by her parents and can't find middle ground. Another is too busy waiting for a relapse than enjoying her partner's victories. The final reader questions loyalty when asked to have her untruthful partner's back. [19-Crimes Shiraz, 2021]

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This week, the BiFFs go back to basics with a 2010 Dear Abby column. A mature married man crushes on a younger colleague thirty-two years his junior. A husband who works part time asks his fully employed wife to take on a second job to secure their family financially. Mother dearest finds out daughter's boyfriend isn't Jewish because of what's in his pants. [19-Crimes Cabernet Sauvignon, 2020]

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