Ill Advised with Stefani & Ray

The BiFFs veer from the traditional columnists and turn to the Relationship Rules page on Facebook. A man becomes upset with his girlfriend when she refuses to give up her bank account info for a game console. A woman scorned kicks her beau to the curb and wants to rush the healing process. Finally, how do you deal when your husband laughs at you every time you try to initiate intimacy? [19 Crimes Cali Rosé, 2020]

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When Advice Goddess Amy Alkon speaks, the BiFFs suck up the scientific evidence. A business man’s penchant for dating models comes into question when it’s used as a measure for success. An independent individual insists on living their life while their needy counterpart sulks. A snooping boyfriend reads his girlfriend’s journal, realizing she has feelings for another man. [Ashbourne Sauvignon Blanc-Chardonnay Blend, 2018]

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Freak in the sheets, #MeToo in the streets. Heather can’t see why her boyfriend needs to have sex in the dark. Peggy Sue and Lyle Jones wonder if their vanilla’s still hitting the spot. [Vallate Prosecco Rosé, 2020]

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This week the BiFFs travel through time. Ann Landers and her vintage posts commandeer this weeks’ topics. Stay-at-home-wife or sex worker? Sure. But what about cat-fish fiancé? [Cartlidge & Browne Chardonnay, 2013]

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The BiFFs find a new column this week in Simply Oloni. The Rap Whisperer makes a cameo in Missionary. Herpes on deck. What now? And Young Wild & Free wonders if her previous zest for sex defines what’s next. [Josh Rose Prosecco]

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This week, Stefani and Ray read questions for Paging Dr. NerdLove of doctornerdlove.com. A love-sick pup dwells when his ex- elects the nuclear option following their break. Platonic tactics, a gym membership, and a new wardrobe have a reader questioning why they’re regularly friend-zoned. A thirty-year-old aromantic virgin worries she’ll find her feels whilst living in her parent’s basement. Send us your tan-lines. [Devils Backbone Vodka Mules]

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This week's questions come from Thrillist's "In Bed with Gigi Engle." When a girl runs hot-and-cold, a man in denial worries he's hit the friend-zone. One reader worries that her kinks with her new beau might make her too 'whorey.' Another reader tortures themselves about their relationship status with a person who's more interested in their friend. [Allan Scott Sauvignon Blanc, 2020]

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Dan Savage's "Savage Love" give the BiFFs some food for thought when a 19 year old girl asks for advice after a sexual partner insults her physique in bed. Can a hall pass go wrong if a hall pass don't pass hall? [Ninety Plus Cellars Cotes de Provence Rosé, 2020]

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The BiFFs take on Logan Hill of Cosmopolitan.com. Do boys talk in the potty? Cheating Chastity ponders a bachelorette party despite her boyfriend's concerns. Red Flag Rhonda's rose colored glasses render elusive second date. Taxi Tara's hook-ups leave her wondering if the problem is her boyfriend. [Chateau Haut Peyruguet Sauvignon]

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The BiFFs revisit a favorite - Slate Magazine's Dear Prudence. A sex addict's partner questions her nieces motives with her new breasts. A sexless marriage entices one writer to ask how to have an affair. Meanwhile, a self proclaimed cuck-for-hire tells her mom about her side-hustle only for her professional life to be affected. [Indomita Pinot Noir Rosé, 2019]

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