This week’s episode is a first, I’m really excited for you to listen to it! We’ve got Charlotte Faragher reading her poem ‘Not what you need’ on her experience of unrequited love as a disabled woman. Charlotte is a 32-year-old who lives in Oldham Manchester. She has lived with quadriplegic cerebral palsy since being born at 26 weeks.

About the episode:

• You can follow along and read her poem here: https://chazzda16.blogspot.com/2023/01/not-what-you-need.html
• Charlotte shares the reality of sexuality as a disabled woman and how it’s raw, messy and exciting
• Why its important to talk to people with disabilities like they’re normal people and not put them on pedestals aka calling them brave just for being out and about living their lives going dancing etc
• Society puts physical and attitudinal barriers in the way for disabled people which blocks Charlotte from experiencing her life as fully as she wants to 
• Attitudinal barriers against disabled people include pitying them and never being portrayed in a sexual way. This lack is demeaning, and means it’s less likely for disabled people to be in relationship. Those with disabilities are also more likely to experience physical abuse in relationship
• Sex educators need to do better about understanding and supporting disabled people’s sexual experiences
• Charlotte wants her poem to go further into a short, filmed piece with a disabled actress in a filmed monologue. She’s looking for people to help, so please reach out to her if you feel inspired to

More about Charlotte:
Although she is very physically disabled, her mental abilities are not affected. As a result, she became acutely aware of the prejudices and challenges that befall people who are deemed different in society. She is a keen advocate for challenging harmful assumptions about disability and differences. She also highlights to the non-disabled community that even though disabled people do have some differences; they have the same dreams, life ambitions and hunger for a full and authentic life as anyone else. She often finds it devastating when she comes up against presumptions, that because she is very physically challenged, she must be mentally challenged also. This has led to a lack of self esteem and confidence. In order to further solidify her opinions on challenging assumptions around disability and what that means; she has written several articles on subjects such as sex and loneliness. She have also spoken on several popular podcasts to help promote further discussion around these issues including Disability after Dark, Aces Interviews and CP and Me.

You can find Charlotte online here:
https://www.facebook.com/charlotte.faragher.1
https://www.instagram.com/charlottefaragher/
https://twitter.com/YOCHARLOTTEF
[email protected]

In this week's episode, I interview Sophia Babai. Sophia is a writer, embodiment worker, and climate activist. She helps people reconnect to their natural wisdom and heal their relationships with their bodies and their shadows, so they can fall wildly in love with their lives, their planet, and each other. Sophia studied embodiment at Yale University, The Somatic School in London, and the Strozzi Institute. 

In this week’s episode we covered:

✨ Organic Intelligence as a somatic practice for trauma resolution, and also for thriving and enjoying your life

✨ Sophia’s Kundalini practice, and how it works with energy in the body and heals blocks, and again how it encourages embracing love and expressing creativity

✨Sophia’s journey of being very productivity and achievement focused with 3 jobs and bodily pain to shifting instead towards being present in the moment and feeling pleasure 

✨Noticing the moment through the body, e.g. how fabric feels on your skin, stopping to smell the flowers and how that’s possible even when you’re in pain

✨How Sophia’s work supports people in letting themselves being loved, coming back to their body and back to the moment

✨How energy vampirism shows up in relationships aka when we’re giving out of obligation, we are in fact taking from people

✨How people who are martyrs, are often terrible at receiving because it doesn’t feel safe to receive

✨The power of nature when it comes to healing those who worry about taking from others

✨Why we need community for healing

Connect with Sophia at instagram.com/sophia.babai or tinyurl.com/somatic-guidance

Connect with Caoilfhionn: 
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In this week's episode, I interview Sasha Kerkmann Hood. Sasha is a Mother, Midwife, and Relationship & Sexuality coach, and teacher of intuition, and desire. She owns a business alongside her husband, Moritz, working with couples on creating partnerships that foster relationship to personal power, respect and care, deepening connection and intimacy. Sasha believes in living life guided by desire and fueled by connection purpose. In her 14 years of experience as a coach, she sees a thread of supporting women and couples who claim their power and autonomy, in Relationship to themselves, their partners, families and communities.

 In this week’s episode we covered

✨How Sasha got on the path of midwifery and what she sees it offering to mothers

✨How post partum is such a critical time for mothers

✨Why the post partum window is longer that the standard 3 month window and can in fact go as long as a few years

✨How Sasha prepared for the 40 day post birth window and what it involved and why it impacts a woman’s health for the rest of her life

✨How can we transform our culture to protect mothers and to have the option of a 40 day rest period available to all who want it

✨Why relationship coaching is not just for couples experiencing issues, it’s for all couples who want to build a strong foundation, a strong relationship

✨For couples starting a family, it’s important to have solid communication before you embark on this change

✨If you’re pregnant, prepare to need far more help and support than you expect

✨Why relationships need others to give reflection and support to each partner

✨The pattern of women looking to their partners for permission for their desire

✨The power of a desire inventory practice - to help you get in the practice of your own desire

Sasha Can be found online at awakened Intimacy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/awakened_intimacy/

And on Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@awakened_intimacy

As well as for all things birth and postpartum https://www.instagram.com/thewildrootbirth/

In this week's episode, I interview Deborah Kat. Deborah  is The Host of The Better Sex Podcast and The Better Sex for Couples Summit. As a Somatic Sexuality Coach, she works with both individuals and partners to enhance their sexual lives, and create relationships on their terms.
 
 In this week’s episode we covered

✨How Deborah and her partner have created a relationship that’s true for them that fits outside of standard gender roles
✨How everyone has masculine/feminine energy and it depends on the person on how that’s represented
✨When dating why it’s important to check in about how you feel around the person - e.g. are you grounded in the present? Are you inspired to be in your heart? Do you feel open or contracted? Is this someone you feel safe to be in your creativity?
✨Why Chemistry is amateur and limiting when looking for a long term relationship
✨How many people have the story ‘If I don’t do it, it won’t get done’ and how that can impact relationships
✨How to negotiate differences in standards and priorities in a relationship
✨Deborah shares her work with poly couples and how they work through designing their relationship configuration
✨How to cultivate fairness in a relationship without things having to be tit for tat
✨Why resentment is the relationship killer
✨Why love languages are helpful for creating connection and harmony in a relationship
✨How to treat your relationship like a practice lab using conscious practices
✨The different ways of determining success in a relationship

More About Deborah:
In addition to the Podcast she works with clients, hosts private intensives as well as leads monthly classes exploring the edges of sexuality and spirit. She combines her diverse background in Tantra, massage, and BDSM to support men and couples in clearing shame to have satisfying relationships and masterful sex. She firmly believes in the transformational power of desire and looks forward to utilizing her knowledge and experience in support of deeper surrender into bliss for all.

 Here is a link to The TurnedOn Membership: https://www.deborahkat.com/turnedon

And there is a discount for In Bed with Caoi listeners!

Follow Deborah Online:

https://www.instagram.com/deborahtantrakat/

https://www.facebook.com/deborah.tantrakat

https://www.facebook.com/askdeborahtantrakat

Connect with Caoilfhionn: 
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In this week's episode, I interview Mangala Holland. Mangala is a Women’s Empowerment and Sexuality coach, and facilitator of global group programs. She’s on a mission to help women and pussy-owners become empowered through loving themselves fiercely, celebrating their sexuality, and overcoming the fear, guilt and shame that keeps them playing small.

In this week's episode we covered:

✨What does it mean to be trauma informed
✨Why we need to go at the rate of slowest parts of ourselves
✨The importance of sexual expression coming from authentically within the practitioner instead of from copying what others are doing
✨Why True liberation is only true when it’s available for all 
✨How Mangala approaches anti-racism work in her business via working with mentors and bringing experts to teach in her programs
✨How the sexual wellness industry is becoming more mainstream
✨The harmful behaviour that Mangala has experienced and witnessed in the sexual wellness industry

More about Mangala:Having over a decade’s experience in the industry, her super power is helping women and vulva owners become deeply connected to their body, pleasure and orgasmic confidence, which is the natural birthright of everyone. 

She has a special talent in helping women in perimenopause and beyond access way more pleasure than they ever thought possible and believes that midlife is an opportunity for powerful, positive transformation.

She’s currently training the next generation of Embodied Female Pleasure facilitators and places a strong emphasis on self-love, embodiment and empowerment in her work, teaching in a no-bullshit, fluff-free, grounded, dogma-free style. 

https://mangalaholland.com/

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Instagram: @Caoilfhionn.nic.conmara
Facebook: @Caoinicc

In this week's episode, I interview Nichole London. Nichole is a mentor in the Arts of ritual healing. Bodyworker & Healer for 18 years. Founder of Ritual Academy and Sexy Cosmic Divinity. Owner of The Loving Well, (a community center for wellness)

In this week's episode we covered:
✨What is a ritual and how it can be used for integration and creating change in your life
✨Why creating new habits and patterns through the body is a faster experience of transformation
✨ How to embody your future self using ritual
✨ How to integrate and rest the child parts of you that have been leading and holding too much
✨ Sacred sex is our own experience of our own sexual energy
✨ Healing the body through being in relationship with it
✨ Why you can’t force or push the body when you are doing practices to heal it
✨ Nicole’s biggest awakening from picking up valley fever at burning man and how this lead to the awakening of her shamanic self
✨ Why nuance is critical when it comes to discussions and understanding of personal responsibility
✨ Why the void is the powerful place of creation

You can read more about Nichole's membership here:

https://nicholelondon.com/membership/?fbclid=PAAabKspYxxIzHJMohM_SJOohE68ar2h6bsGbyiMlDQ5OWWiLIxGdSR1w34Fc

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This week's episode is all about my journey of healing with the practice of Somatic Experiencing. I've found the modality to be really effective and I'm compiled this podcast to answer questions I've been asked over the years.

I cover:
✨What is Somatic Experiencing
✨What inspired me to try it out
✨What happens in a somatic experiencing session
✨The different stages of healing that I encountered 
✨What have been the gifts of the process
✨How my understanding of victim consciousness has changed 
✨How my coaching has shifted with this process

If you enjoy this episode, please rate and review it so others can find it too X

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In this week's episode, I interview Alicia Davon. Alica along with her husband Erwan, has become the go-to experts for those seeking a higher level of relationship support since 1995. They are among the most experienced relationship coaches in the world and have taught throughout the United States and abroad.

In this week's episode we covered:
✨ Alicia’s initial experience of extended orgasm with her husband Erwan
✨ Erwan studied the Deliberate Orgasm practice in More University and made modifications e.g. making it a 2 hand practice, adding in spiritual elements to change the practice to extended orgasm
✨ How Alicia helps women heal the split between the part that is ravenous for sex and the other part that has shame or feels shut down around sex
✨ The Davon Method has 4 practices: i) Meditation ii) Psychological Inquiry iii) Body Practice iv) Sensual Practice
✨ Alicia typically focuses on the Psychological Inquiry and sensual practices to help women open up and get more into her sex
✨ Pleasure as an orientation vs. Performance as an orientation when it comes to sensual practices
✨ What is an Extended Orgasm and how it’s different to a Peak Orgasm
✨ The stroking positions and movements of the Extended Orgasm Practice
✨ How to handle if you get distracted during the practice
✨ Why bearing down is helpful for the woman to do while being stroked instead of the standard practice of clenching
✨ How to practice Extended Orgasm on Men

More About Alicia & Erwan
Both have advanced degrees in Psychology and have developed a method that covers everything from sex to the mind to lifestyle design to how to get into and thrive throughout the stages of relationship from a feminine and a masculine perspective. Based in the SF Bay Area, Alicia provides a high-end boutique service that gives her clients an effective way to enhance their relationships. She and Erwan offer all of their coaching and classes in both online and in-person formats and support students all over the world.

To contact Alicia for one of the 5 free spots in the Pleasure Course you can message her at 

+1 415 308 9580

or 

https://erwandavon.com/consult/

To register for The Pleasure Course with $100 off:

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/442984577797

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www.davonmethod.com

IG & TT @davonmethod

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In this week's episode, I interview Esi Wildcat. Esi is a Somatic Practitioner and Ceremonialist, an Ordained Priestess of Isis, a Shakta initiate and yogini in the lineage of Sri Vidya, certified holistic health practitioner, and interdisciplinary healing artist with over 20 years of expertise.

In this week's episode we covered:

✨ How Esi became an Ordained Priestess of Isis

✨ Esi’s experience of various spiritual communities from 2010 to more recent times, and the issues she seen come up on the topics of race and control

✨ The power of her dance practice and how it’s helped her alchemise big emotions and express herself

✨ Some of the issues in the new age movement and the field of denial in creates

✨ Esi’s practice of making offerings to the land and the home she lives in

✨ How Esi’s childhood influenced her take on victim consciousness

✨ Esi’s practice of making offerings to the goddess and how the goddess wants to take the worst parts of ourselves to make them new

✨ The left hand path and the mystery of ourselves

✨ Esi’s training with Radical Aliveness and how she and her peers were encouraged to be totally unfiltered, to trigger each other to learn what their triggers are with the outcome that she learned how to stay with herself

✨ Esi’s offering of The Human Slop

✨ Esi’s Bodhisattva’s vow

✨ How the gift of the inner work is space and compassion for herself and therefore others

✨ How the purpose of this life is to die well

✨ How to honour Ancestors

And much more, this is such a rich episode X

You can find out more about Esi here:
http://www.wildholyhuman.com

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In this week's episode, I interview Steve Bodansky. Steve together with his wife Vera have been teachers of Sensuality for almost the past 40 years. Steve has a Doctorate at More University in Sensuality with an emphasis on female orgasm. Steve was also on the teaching faculty at More University.

In this week's episode we covered:

✨Steve’s story and how he initially joined an alternative living commune and got into stroking pussy
✨How he met his wife Vera and feel in love by becoming her favourite technician/stroker
✨Why pussy stroking was the focus instead of cock stroking in the communities Steve was in
✨Why men love to give women pleasure
✨How Steve and Vera began to teach sex and pussy stroking courses with their own group and at Mama Gena’s program
✨Steve’s self pleasure practice and how it’s evolved over the years
✨How to expand the happiness you experience and how caring for others influences that

More about Steve:
For the past 30 years Steve and Vera have been coaching students as a couple and started writing books about optimum sensual pleasure. They created the teaching unit the Welcomed Consensus in 1992, but left that group to teach on their own in 1997. They have trained many people over the past 35 years with courses and personal training and continue to do so. A number of their former students have become sensual facilitators themselves.He has written over a dozen books about love and pleasure.

You can find his latest book  Self Pleasure: Delving into Happiness and Our Selves on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3Ww9BPQ

Connect with Caoilfhionn: 
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