In Bed with Caoi

This is a great episode if you're considering polyamory! All of your tricky questions on this topic get answered. Dr. Joli Hamilton is this week's guest. She is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines. She is a research psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and AASECT certified sex educator. 

We covered...
✨ How to know if a couple is ready to explore polyamory 
✨ How to figure out and acknowledge fundamental differences in desires in what both parties want
✨ Why people find multiple love challenging and why you need to make space for it
✨ Understanding the different versions of monogamy
✨ Why you need to be specific in conversations about boundaries and desires and why it's sometimes hard to that!
✨ Why it's helpful to have differences in your relationships and to feel differently on topics, values etc to your partner/s
✨ How to handle jealousy!

More on Joli:
Joli also co-hosts the Project Relationship podcast with her anchor partner, Ken. Joli’s been featured in The New York Times, Vogue, NPR, and The Atlantic.
You can find out more and complete her quiz here: https://www.jolihamilton.com
https://www.instagram.com/drjoli_hamilton/

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This is one hot episode all about Orgasms and how to have a hot, turned on Pussy at any age! Susan Bratton is this episode's guest. Susan is "Intimacy Expert to Millions" , she is a champion and advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long.

We covered...
✨ Susan's practice of Orgasmic Meditation (OM) and the types of orgasms and intense pleasure she experiences from it
✨ The difference between an orgasm, multiple orgasms, extended orgasm and expanded orgasm
✨Susan's background and research of various clitoral stroking practices including orgasmic meditation, deliberate orgasm and expanded massive orgasm
✨ Susan's intimacy practices with her husband and boyfriend and how she's trained them to touch her pussy giving her incredible orgasms
✨The difference between male and female sexual desire
✨Susan's approach to keeping her pussy so vibrant and healthy including: diet, supplements, hormones, topical cream, exercise, lube, probiotics that are digested as well as inserted into the vaginal canal, and medical treatments

More On Susan:
She is co-founder and CEO of two corporations: Personal Life Media, Inc., a publisher of heart-connected lovemaking techniques and bedroom communication skills and The20, LLC., a manufacturer of organic and botanical supplements that enhance sexual vitality. 

A best-selling author and publisher of 34 books and programs including Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, Ravish Him, Steamy Sex Ed™, The Passion Patch, Hormone Balancing, and Hot To Trot. 

You can find The Susan Bratton Show® atBetterLover.com, her personal shares on Instagram @susanbratton, and her lust-for-life supplements, FLOW and DESIRE atThe20store.com.
https://gainswave.com/
https://femiwave.com/

In this episode I interview Jenni Rochelle. Jenni is a coach, mentor, and the go-to expert on love and relationships for women who don’t want to give up on love.  Inspired by her clients and informed by her own journey, Jenni teaches women how to move through trauma and break old patterns so they can stop the cycle of toxic relationships and create the happiest and healthiest intimate connections of their lives.

We had such a fun time recording this week's episode! We covered:

✨What is betrayal trauma and what are circumstances that cause it
✨The different phases involved in healing this trauma
✨Why 'co-dependency' as a term is not helpful and derogatory towards women
✨The 5 negative beliefs about sex that show up in most women
✨Why it's not wrong to want a relationship 
✨The negative impacts of growing up in a religion dominated culture
✨How to make a big sexy comeback after betrayal!
✨Why you need to connect with your body and pussy to reawaken your sexuality

More about Jenni Rochelle:
Jenni’s approach to healing, dating, and love creates a hopeful, joyful, and safe space for women to land through her online com- munities, group programs, and private coaching sessions.

Jenni is a thought leader specifically in the field of betrayal trauma. Her podcast, Beauty After Betrayal TM, has helped thousands of women heal with hope and rise up to become their best selves. You can find out more here: https://jennirochelle.com/  &  https://www.instagram.com/thejennirochelle/

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In this episode I interviewed, Brianna Carey. Brianna has been in the sexual health field for over 14 years and is a Relationship & Intimacy Coach. In 2008, she began her journey into sexual health education after attending an in-home party where she learned more about sex and relationships than she did in school. She was inspired to learn more to share with others!

What we covered:
✨ Brianna's journey through painful sex with vulvar pain and vaginismus post partum and how she was on the receiving end of misinformation from her midwife
✨ Why every pregnant woman should have a pelvic floor therapist supporting her in pregnancy and in the post partum period
✨ Brianna's practice of self massage on her vulva which helped her vulva heal and to feel safe again after feeling pain
✨ How women's hormones shift during pregnancy which can often lessen their desire for sex and how to manage than in a partnership
✨ The under-reported experience of daddy post-partum depression
✨ Why we're each responsible for our pleasure and why it's important to have a self pleasure practice
✨ The power of erotic blueprints and how they help partners communicate better in the bedroom
✨ Why it's so helpful to have a regular relationship board meeting and to schedule sex with your long term partner
✨ How to move from monogamy to monogamish in a long term relationship

Find out more about Brianna here: 
https://www.instagram.com/_brianna_carey_/
https://brianna-carey.square.site/

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In this week's episode I interviewed Roy Biancalana. Roy is a certified relationship coach and a nationally-recognized expert in the field of attraction and conscious relationships. He is the author of three #1 best-selling books, the latest of which is Relationship Bootcamp: Hard-Core Training for Life, Love & the Pursuit of Intimacy.

We covered:
✨ How holding onto past pain is the biggest block to love
✨The negative impact of having unconscious expectations or stories about potential partners
✨How we can self sabotage from finding love and the way through that
✨Why technique isn't important when it comes to being good in bed
✨ Why presence, radiance, being emotionally aware and good at communicating are what make for great, heart to heart, soul to soul experiences of sex
✨The importance of doing inner work to understand why we're getting into bad relationships

And lots more! Check it out.

More info on Roy:
For the past 15 years, Roy has been supporting single people in the art of attracting healthy, sustainable, intimate relationships. His experience has taught him that getting in “relationship shape” is the key to attracting lasting love.

Roy works privately with individuals, but he also offers 6-week group-coaching programs that provide many of the benefits of private coaching for a fraction of the cost.
You can find out more here: www.coachingwithroy.com
https://www.facebook.com/roybiancalana

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In this week’s episode I interviewed Jane Mann. Jane is a Somatic Practitioner. She specialises in coaching people to come home to their bodies. She’s a wisdom holder for how to live a life in tune with nature’s cycles and our bodies’ cycles too.  She practices 1:1 & group coaching, yoga, bodywork, menstrual love, workshops, retreats & deep beautiful journeys.

We covered:
✨Why it’s important to connect with the body instead of going straight to the mind
✨Why it’s helpful to have language to describe and name the sensations in the body
✨How societies’ focus on productivity and busyness, makes it hard to connect with the body
✨The effectiveness of the practice of orienting and how it works
✨If you’re experiencing depression or freeze, why taking small steps is far more helpful than pushing yourself to do something big
✨How somatic practices are helpful for dealing with intense sensations like anger or shifting the body out of freeze and dissociation
✨Why we need to be around others to co-regulate and why they don’t need to be the perfect person
✨The power of gentle work over intense, catharsis led approaches


You can find out more about her work here:
https://www.instagram.com/janemannsoma/
https://www.facebook.com/jane.mann.796

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In this week's episode I interviewed Alexandra Harbushka. Alexandra is the founder of, Life With Herpes, an online community consisting of a podcast, a website, Youtube channel, wellness products to support those with the skin condition and an online community that provides support, all dedicated to shattering the stigma of living with herpes.

We covered
✨ De-bunking the misconceptions about Herpes
✨ The stigma connected with Herpes and why it's down to sex being considered taboo
✨ How to protect partners from contracting Herpes
✨ How to disclose your Herpes status to new partners
✨ Medical and supplemental solutions to Herpes
✨ Alexandra's journey to becoming an advocate for those living with Herpes

You can find out more about Alexandra here:
https://www.lifewithherpes.com/
https://www.instagram.com/lifewithherpes/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCw-XqkVAvdl4QFGUzDcZEZg
https://www.tiktok.com/@lifewithherpes

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I'm all about pleasure this week and the journey I took to experience more of it in my life. This episode is a great one to listen to if you want to begin your pleasure journey!

This episode covers

✨ How our  culture is very focused on productivity and status which means disconnection from our bodies, each other, nature and pleasure
✨ Why it's radical to experience pleasure in a culture that celebrates burnout and a dismissal of our bodies limits
✨Why pleasure can feel scary, or we can feel unworthy of it because if we believe that it needs to be earned
✨ That experiencing more pleasure requires your devotion, practice and time
✨Pleasure isn't limited to  s/exual experiences it's possible to experience it in the mundane moments of our lives
✨ Why we often self sabotage ourselves when we're experiencing more pleasure than we're used to
✨Pleasure and stress hormones can't run at the same time in the body, so when we feel pleasure we're expanding our resilience for life's stress and our capacity for joy

and much more X

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This week is one of my favourite topics to cover and that's how to stay in your body during sex. I historically struggled with this, I did some work to resolve it, which worked for a few years only for it to get very bad during the pandemic. In this episode I share the practical steps I took to resolve it again!

You will leave this episode understanding

✨ the power of your breath for keeping you present
✨how noise helps to support sensation in sex
✨ why it's a practice to stay in your body, much like any other meditation you may practice
✨ why approval is helpful as a starting point when you're experiencing a lot of mental chatter in sex
✨why it's helpful to start from the outside and work your way in for a woman's body to feel safe and to become aroused

and much more X

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In this week's episode I interviewed  Dr.  Alexandra Stockwell. Known as “The Intimacy Doctor,” Alexandra Stockwell, MD is an Intimate Marriage Expert who specializes in coaching couples to build beautiful, long-lasting, passionate relationships. She is the bestselling author of “Uncompromising Intimacy,” host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast and creator of the Aligned & Hot Marriage program. 

We covered
✨ How Alexandra listened to the whisper of her desire to shift from her life working as a doctor to become a coach
✨ The practice of discrete eroticism (bringing the erotic to how you to connect with your partner all throughout the day) and how it brought out her sexuality as a woman 
✨ How cultivating curiosity in your relationship enhances intimacy and revives those early day feelings of falling in love with your partner
✨How you can give your partner a manual for how to be successful with you
✨Why compromise is bad relationship advice and why uncompromising intimacy is a far better approach. 
✨Why it's important to start small when making changes to your relationship

More About Alexandra:
For over 20 years she has shown men and women how to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life-- from the daily grind of running a household to intimate communication and ecstatic experiences in the bedroom. 

A wife of 26 years and a mother of 4, Dr. Alexandra believes the key to passion, fulfillment, intimacy and success, isn’t compromise--it’s being unwilling to compromise. Because when both people feel free to be themselves, the relationship becomes juicy, nourishing, and deeply satisfying. 

Dr. Alexandra has been featured in the Huffington Post, Rolling Stone, USAToday, Cosmopolitan, Business Insider, thriveglobal, mindbodygreen, FOX NEWS NYC, and Disruptors Magazine recently named her one of “30 Inspiring Women to Watch in 2022.”

You can find out more here: www.alexandrastockwell.com

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