In Sanity: A piece of mind

In Nonviolent Communication (NVC), the "Jackal" represents a communication style that is often aggressive and judgmental and tends to reflect a mindset focused on blame, criticism, or demands. Here are some key characteristics of the Jackal mode of communication:

In contrast, the "Giraffe" symbolizes a more compassionate form of communication in NVC. It focuses on expressing feelings and needs while fostering understanding and connection. NVC aims to shift from Jackal to Giraffe communication for healthier and more constructive interactions.

Observation

Feelings

Needs

Request

Listen to my NVC expression with myself.

Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication (NVC) framework emphasizes compassionate communication and understanding. Within this framework, life-serving and life-alienating concepts guide how we interact with ourselves and others.

Life-Serving Concepts:

Life-Alienating Concepts:

Nonviolent Communication aims to enhance understanding, connection, and cooperation among individuals by focusing on life-serving interactions and avoiding life-alienating behaviors.

⁠An Introduction to Nonviolent Communication⁠ (p. 3)

Nonviolent Communication supports reframing how we express ourselves, hear others, and resolve conflict by bringing our observations, feelings, needs, and requests to our consciousness.

It's pragmatic and straightforward, challenging our deeply held practices of judging, labeling, criticizing, and comparing. With practice, this tool helps us transform blame and judgment within ourselves into mutual awareness of human needs.

What is the difference between feelings and evaluations? Join me this week, and I can answer that question for you - nonviolent communication style.

Evaluations are judgments. They unconsciously elicit defensiveness and justification from the person who is feeling judged. Feelings are identifiers of how you are experiencing something internal to you.

Listen to this week's podcast and check out the link below to see the subtle shift in language needed to practice nonviolent communication.

Feelings vs. Evaluations Masquerading as Feelings

Continuing with emotional myths, Christian (Regan's boyfriend) joins me to discuss #2 and #3. His personal experiences and history contribute to his understanding of these particular myths.

He talks about his experience showing emotion and how, depending on their intensity, emotions can actually be destructive.

It's a good listen.

This short and informative podcast explains some of the benefits of nonviolent communication. I will give it a shot and would love to share my experiences with you all along the way.

Lindsay recently finished reading "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Compassion." Join us as she discusses her thoughts and impressions and shares her excitement about this new paradigm shift.

Feelings Versus Evaluations Masquerading as Feelings

Human beings have nine or ten basic needs. These include peace, autonomy, spiritual communion, physical nourishment, and interdependence.

Additionally, when our needs are met, we feel certain pleasurable emotions; when our needs are not met, we feel various unpleasant emotions.

This podcast serves as a comprehensive guide to the vocabulary of feelings and needs, educating you about the intricacies of human emotions and needs.

Feelings and Needs Reference Guide

This episode provides a quick overview of all the Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) podcasts and a quick reminder of its core components, such as interpersonal effectiveness, emotion regulation, mindfulness, and distress tolerance. I hope you have been able to practice these skills in daily life to enhance emotional well-being and improve interpersonal relationships. The podcasts on DBT include practical strategies and insights drawn from several DBT skills manuals. Have you been able to work on your skills daily? 

Here are some DBT takeaways. Listen again. You won’t be disappointed. 

DBT is a structured approach to improving emotional regulation.

Interpersonal effectiveness skills help clarify goals in relationships.

Mindfulness is crucial for reducing emotional vulnerability.

Practicing DBT skills can lead to better emotional well-being.

Understanding emotions is key to effective regulation.

Distress tolerance skills are essential for crisis management.

Encouragement and positive affirmations can improve moments.

Both rational and emotional perspectives are valid in discussions.

Practicing mindfulness can enhance self-awareness and presence.

DBT skills can be integrated into daily life for lasting change.