You know that thing where someone sends you a text with a period at the end and your whole day is ruined?
Yeah. We need to talk about that.
We're both therapists. We teach people how to stop overthinking for a living. And we still can't stop doing it ourselves. In this episode, we're getting honest about what overthinking actually looks like, where it comes from, and why your brain keeps doing it even when you know better.
We also share the exact tools we use with our clients (and on ourselves) that actually work when your thoughts won't shut up.
Including one trick from a random book at a spa that changed everything.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- The real difference between thinking through a problem and spiraling into a loop — and the one question that tells you which one you're doing right now
- A 20-minute technique called "worry time" that trains your brain to stop hijacking your entire day with thoughts that don't even matter
- Why most of your overthinking has nothing to do with the other person — and the deeper thing your brain is actually trying to control
Chapters:
00:00 – We're Guilty Too
00:54 – Welcome and Why We're Talking About Overthinking
03:08 – The Period That Ruined My Day
05:28 – Where Overthinking Takes the Most Energy
07:49 – When You Start Twisting Other People's Words
10:10 – Thinking vs. Overthinking — Where's the Line?
12:33 – Perspective Taking and the Million Possibilities You're Ignoring
14:57 – The Calculator vs. the Student
17:24 – The Worry Time Technique That Changed Everything
19:50 – Honoring Your Thoughts Without Letting Them Win
22:12 – Crushing the Ants: Automatic Negative Thoughts
26:50 – Why We Don't Use Our Own Tools
29:16 – Why Don't We Just Ask Instead of Assume?
33:44 – The People Pleaser Problem
35:15 – Intuition vs. Anxiety — How to Tell the Difference
39:11 – Peace Is the Tell
41:30 – Why It Takes 10 Minutes to Send a Text
43:53 – The Worry Monster and Telling Your Thoughts to Leave
46:18 – Being Okay With Uncertainty
48:45 – Faith, Control, and Letting Go