Joan shares how to maintain your sexuality, comfort, and dignity in older age sexuality. From being sexual with a spouse you’ve been with for years to engaging with a new partner. It’s liberating to be able to communicate that what worked in the past is no longer working, and sharing your curiosity to try something new to stay connected and find pleasurable intimacy. Recapturing your sexuality after losing your beloved is rarely touched on but holds potential to rediscover how you want sex to look like: from how you want to explore your own self pleasure and the ways in which you want to be sexual with another person. Joan reminds us that grief isn’t something you get over, but is something that you move through. How has sex changed for you recently? . Connect with Joan at https://www.joanprice.comWatch Joan’s 2-minute video at https://youtu.be/qELUR509SdMAuthor of 4 senior sex books including Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality after Losing Your Beloved, winner 2019 best self-help book, ASJA (American Society of Journalists and Authors): https://www.amazon.com/Sex-After-Grief-Navigating-Sexuality/dp/164250033XCo-creator of “Jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Senior Sex,” winner 2019 AV award, AASECT (American Assn. of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists)Resident Senior Sexpert for Hot Octopuss Senior Sex HubFor news, views, and events related to senior sex, subscribe to Joan’s newsletter here: http://eepurl.com/cx2Nab .  Questions you want to ask, options you want to sort through, or deciding on what you should do? Schedule time to chat with me: https://drsusieg.com/pelvic-pain-specialist-15-minute-call Pelvic Pain Relief Program: learn about your body and concerns in the comfort and privacy of your own home. With video demonstrations of hands-on treatment techniques, lessons on the science behind why you hurt, and exercises that will help you navigate out of pelvic pain: https://drsusieg.com/pelvic-pain-in-men-online-programThis information is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of a healthcare professional with any questions you may have regarding treatment, medications/supplements, or any medical diagnoses. This information is intended for educational purposes only and is in no way to substitute the advice of a licensed healthcare professional.

Dr. Murray uncovers how and when the shift happens when men say they don’t feel “as much as a man as I used to,” and worry if their partner is thinking the same thing. Delving into the challenges of how men can be authentic in expressing their sexual desires when the chasm of expectations and standards keeps them hiding their true sexual health and concerns. Her favorite finding from the research was discovering how deeply men wanted to feel sexually desired, physically cared for, close to someone, and romantically wanted, despite being part of a culture that minimizes these sexual experiences, vulnerabilities, and intimate desires. Remembering that sex can be much more than penetration can open up that trust, emotional connection, and broader conversation to shift your sexual encounter into the experience you truly crave.2:00 Pivotal moments that sparked Dr. Murray research male sexual desire

About the guest: Dr. Sarah Hunter Murray is a Registered Marriage & Family Therapist. She obtained her PhD in Human Sexuality from the University of Guelph (GWELF). Sarah is a regularly sought after sex and relationship expert and has been featured in numerous media outlets including Slate, Men’s Health, HuffPo, and Cosmopolitan. She authors the popular Psychology Today blog: “Myths of Desire” and is also the author of the book “Not Always in the Mood: The new science of men, sex, & relationships.”Stay in touch and get in the know: https://drsusieg.com/stay-in-the-know-down-below https://www.instagram.com/dr.susieg/So, what’s next:  Questions you want to ask, options you want to sort through, or deciding on what you should do? Schedule time to chat with me: https://drsusieg.com/pelvic-pain-specialist-15-minute-call Pelvic Pain Relief Program: learn about your body and concerns in the comfort and privacy of your own home. With video demonstrations of hands-on treatment techniques, lessons on the science behind why you hurt, and exercises that will help you navigate out of pelvic pain: https://drsusieg.com/pelvic-pain-in-men-online-programThis information is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of a healthcare professional with any questions you may have regarding treatment, medications/supplements, or any medical diagnoses. This information is intended for educational purposes only and is in no way to substitute the advice of a licensed healthcare professional.

I really appreciated Dr. Lee’s perspective on mindful dating and red flags to watch out for  , tips for partners, and the gap between sexual health and medical care for disability and chronic illness.Dr. Lee Phillips specializes in couples sex therapy and lectures on topics including sexuality, chronic pain, anxiety and stress management, caregiving stress, depression in the elderly, mindfulness and cognitive strategies for chronic pain, reclaiming sexuality for couples with chronic illness, ethical decision making, the assessment of mental disorders, and exploring sexual communication, freedom, and pleasure for gender minorities with chronic illness, pain, and other disabilities.Discover your mental fluidity through the process and what makes you and your partner comfortable. Dr. Lee shares how you can have those deep conversations that define what pleasure means to you and what it means to your partner. Remember: slow down and let the process take its course. Get curious about your partner and get creative with sex!More on men’s sexual and pelvic health www.drsusieg.com and connect with Dr. Lee Phillips at www.drleephillips

What happened when British author Tim Parks wrote down his personal experience with pelvic pain? A major US publisher said nobody wants to read about prostate and bladder concerns. They were wrong: Teach Us to Sit Still by Tim Parks was one of the first books I read on male pelvic pain and has empowered others to make their own journey out of pain. Tim shares his own struggles, triumphs, and gems in this episode. He’ll encourage you to drop the worry, be open to new possibilities for what can change pain, and to enjoy the journey out of pain.

Your bladder, bowel, digestive system, and genitals all hang together; and just like the muscles and organs down there aren’t in isolation, neither is your brain. The digestive system changes in how it functions when under stress and anxiety, and these psychological challenges come in all shapes and sizes. . I chatted with Dr. Alyse Bedell a GI Health Psychologist and Assistant Professor at the University of Chicago. She received her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine where she pursued a research and clinical specialization in psychogastroenterology. . If you love the science behind the gut-brain axis, get jazzed to discover the intersection of psychology and gastroenterology  . Connect with Dr. Bedell on Twitter @DrAlyseBedell or via email at [email protected] . ️ Grab a digital coffee with me in a 15-minute call and have your questions answered: https://drsusieg.com/pelvic-pain-specialist-15-minute-call Dive in and get started with a 6-week DIY Pelvic Pain Relief Program. Learn about your body and concerns in the comfort and privacy of your own home. With video demonstrations of hands-on treatment techniques, lessons on the science behind why you hurt, and exercises that will help you navigate out of pelvic pain: https://drsusieg.com/pelvic-pain-in-men-online-program

Pooping, peeing, and sex (our body’s basic physiological functions!) are just as important for our well-being as good nutrition and daily movement are for a healthy body Everything’s connected: nerves from the spinal cord and lower back connect with the pelvic floor and impact the penis, bladder, and bowel. Addressing our basic physiological functions allow the nervous system to dial down, and allow us to feel confident and safe: just like eating a chunk of broccoli nourishes our body with essential nutrients. We uncover the research that links lumbar spine conditions together with pelvic pain syndrome. Di Wu and I uncover what you really need to feel better.Di Wu, also known as Woody, obtained his medical degree at the China Medical University. After graduating, he completed his post-graduate training in Orthopedic surgery at Beijing Tiantan Hospital. He worked as an attending orthopedic surgeon at Fuxin Central Hospital caring for trauma and spine injuries. Di offers multiple approaches to help patients eliminate pain and heal from an injury that go beyond a surgical approach and rely upon the human body’s incredible capacity to heal. 

What’s toxic for a vagina is toxic for your rectum! Iso-osmotic lubricants (like those formulated by Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO Good Clean Love,) prevent transmission of sexually transmitted diseases, don’t damage vaginal and anal tissues, and increases arousal.  Getting lube savvy includes learning about the vaginal microbiome, helping you better show up for intimate partners with awareness and support, and by nature learn about your own absorptive and delicate anal microbiome. . Wendy is an award-winning entrepreneur, author, loveologist, and sex educator whose work has helped thousands of people reclaim their passion and heal their relationships. Tune into her newest project: the podcast “Dear Sex,” where she facilitates conversations with experts, researchers, and practioners that explore the human relationship to sex and answer letters from listeners.

There’s a dilemma between what you want to happen, and the anticipatory fear of pain during sex. The protective mechanism is always there to protect you: it’s automatic and anticipatory, but you’re still able to define your values around sex and communicate your needs and concerns as a man experiencing pain during sex. The context of painful sex is interconnected with social, cultural, and relationships values. How do you define your values in the lens of the biopsychosocial approach? Get a worksheet in the show notes at drsusieg.com to rediscover sexual intimacy and pleasure after pain. . Talli Rosenbaum is an individual and couple therapist and is certified as a sex therapist by The American Association for Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT), as well as the Israeli Society for Sex Therapy (ISST). She co-hosts the Intimate Judaism podcast and is co-author of the book “I am For My Beloved: A Guide to Enhanced Intimacy for Married Couples.” and co-edited the Springer textbook entitled “The Overactive Pelvic Floor.” Talli is the academic advisor for Yahel: The Center for Jewish Intimacy.

A spinal cord injury can result in loss of function, feeling and mobility. This can also include changes in sexual function, bladder and bowel control. Natalia shares why neurological concerns can impact the bladder and bowel, cauda equina red flags to recognize, actionable tips for health professionals to use in their clinic with patients who have a spinal cord injury, how to use TENS for hyperactive bladders, and tips on catheter use. We also review a special spina bifida case study.

Discovering pleasure and joy beyond penetrative sex can help alleviate genital pain in men. In my conversation with Heather Edwards, we dive into redefining sex, strategies to ease pain in and out of the bedroom, and how clinicians can make their practice more gender inclusive and positive.