On this episode I speak with Dave and Gary, two cis men who cohabitate and have navigated the sex positive communities together to learn new things about themselves.

Dave and Gary speak about their entry into the sex positive communities, their experiences navigating different aspects of these communities and how they have learned, broadened their perspectives, and experimented to discover what felt right for them. We get Gary’s perspective as a monogamous person on his understanding of polyamory and the people he’s met in the community, what it has helped him learn, and why monogamy works for him. Dave opens up about his feelings, and how he discovered new sexual horizons by exploring and experimenting with an open mind. Together, they paint an interesting picture on what it’s like to enter the sex positive communities as cis men, and what can be learned by navigating these communities respectfully.

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On this episode I speak with Lewis, a fellow academic and professor, who opens up about how he navigates polyamory, kink and bdsm, with some academic nuances.

Lewis discusses how he discovered non-monogamy fairly late in his life despite a persisting notion that monogamy never truly captured his way of being, dating back to high school. He dives deeply into his experiences, feelings, and pivotal moments that have shaped the way he now understands relationships, sex, and most of all himself. Lewis also challenges some of the ideas often taken for granted in the sex positive communities and gives us a chance to think about how we engage relationships, and others.

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On this episode I talk with Eugene and Alexis, a married couple from Toronto, about what it's like to have a marriage and participate in the poly and kink communities, and how to navigate relationship communication about sex with others.

Eugene and Alexis open up about their first sexual experiences, how they met, and eventually got married, and how their sluttiness developed communally as an activity that brought them even closer together. They discuss what it’s like to be married and play with others, how they handle jealousy and communication about group play, separate individual dates, and even dating other couples. They allow us insight into how love works between two people who are able to share it with others, along with some very steamy sex.

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On this episode I speak with Greg and Edith about their relationship as polyamorists, their former marriages, and how they envision a future for poly folks.

Greg and Edith open up about their former relationships, having been married and monogamous, and how their divorces led them to seek other opportunities in the sex positive and poly communities. They discuss their first date at Oasis Aqualounge, and how that first experience led them to form a relationship where they seek to explore their hedonism together. They examine what happiness means for them, what constitutes love and good sex in their relationship, and what they’re looking for in building a future together. Finally, they provide some insight into the sociopolitical issues faced by some poly folk and how the future might look brighter given certain changes.

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IG: @edendeplume

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On this episode I chat with Lilly, a Swedish ballerina, who emigrated to Toronto and discovered her kinks and fetishes in the process. She takes us through her experiences and how she navigates all her intersecting dynamics.

Lilly discusses how she became a “kinky, polyamorous, slut” after a Tinder date in Toronto. How a kink/fetish test awakened her interest in BDSM and moved her interests away from vanilla sex. She captures the nuances of polyamoury from her experiences and relationships, and gives us insight into the dynamics she’s experienced—what she liked and hasn’t liked. Lilly also describes the intricacies of rope bondage, being submissive, receiving pain, and dealing with the bruises in the aftermath and at work.

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On this episode I speak with Nick about monogamy, and why it sometimes fails, how he discovered polyamory and came out, and we discuss some issues of consent.

Nick gives us the lowdown on having been married for 17 years, having a child, and then realizing that monogamy did not work for him. He opens up about the difficulties of transitioning from monogamy to polyamory and the sense of relief at having discovered a space to feel good, physically and emotionally. He talks about his experience coming out as pansexual, and how this liberating experience has led him to a happier, more authentic life, and improved his sex life enormously. Finally, he talks about some matters of consent, and how consensual, intimate sex far outweighs the alternatives, for him.

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On this episode I speak with Cupcake, a human from Toronto who shares some insights on the experiences, dynamics, and politics of being in polyamorous relationships.

Cupcake delivers a very well versed understanding of polyamorous relationships, from her experiences, readings, and having been around a diverse array of poly folks. She displays some of the communication techniques that are especially valued in the poly community, from being open minded, honest, critical, and unassuming. In this way, she allows us insight into what it’s like to be in the sex positive poly community, and how these relations play out to negotiate feelings, needs, and good sex.

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On the first ever episode of intellectual erection, I interview Toronto based webcam model Vixen Vu about her experiences with pornography, web cam modelling, sex, kink, bdsm, and relationships.

Vixen Vu talks about what it’s like to play with herself on camera, how she got into the industry, what her kinks and fetishes are, and where all this sex originated from in her life. She also discusses what it’s like to be polyamorous, the liberating and enjoyable aspects of her romantic relationships, and some of the difficulties she’s encountered in the poly community.

Overall, we get a good insiders perspective of what it’s like to live the sexy life of an amateur porn star and cam girl, and what things look like behind the scenes, which may surprise some listeners.

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E-mail: [email protected]

Twitter: @TheRealVixenVu

Public Snapchat: @TheRealVixenVu

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Instagram: @VixenWithClaws

MyFreeCams: www.mfc.im/VixenVu

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Reddit: www.reddit.com/r/TheRealVixenVu

Youtube Channel: VixenVu

Blog: www.vixenwithclaws.com

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