Interstates & Heartbreak

This week Ryanne Gatti rejoins me to dissect the subject of many a group chat - the situationship. What is it? (A mess.) What are the red flags to watch out for? ("Looking for something casual" on Bumble.) How do you tell if you're already in one? (If you have to ask, you probably are). We give real answers to all of these questions and share our advice on how to get out of your entanglement and into a committed relationship.

For more deep podcast discussions from two girls who are legit qualified to give life advice : Dope Shit My Therapist Says on Apple Podcasts or Spotify

And for Instagrammable bites of therapy : @dopeshttherapypod

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : [email protected]

For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

This week, Nia Ruth shares how dating in NY impacted her opinions on marriage and finding the one, and how her now-husband eventually lifted her skepticism. We discuss why he initially friendzoned himself, and how a Bachelor-style outing elevated things to the next level years after their initial meeting.

For a view into Nia's enviable Instagram : @niaruthwine

For custom wine recs from Napa, Paso Robles…and maaaybe Temecula : niaruth.com

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : [email protected]

For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

I'm back for a solo episode to kick off Q4, and to advocate for why October undeniably marks the universal start of cuffing season. For those looking to get cuffed, I dive into why I think Hinge is the superior dating app, and tips for avoiding cringy pitfalls like bad prompts and paying to give out roses.

See the full list of Hinge prompts here

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : [email protected]

For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

Erica Troyer shares unfiltered insights into the modern day swingers community and what REALLY happens in sex clubs -  like the etiquette around approaching another couple for sex, and why should you avoid going on single guys’ night. She chronicles her most recent relationship within the lifestyle, from the introductory dick pic, to marriage and shared commitment to a girlfriend, and an eventual divorce that started a custody battle over a $1000+ sex toy. 

For a behind-the-scenes view at the lifestyle from Erica's perspective : @erica_adams2917

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : [email protected]

For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

Roland Toney, brother-in-law of former guest David Zeff, shares his perspective on dating apps as an elder millennial who's never used them. We analyze the dating app economics that favor fuckboy behaviors and undermine efforts to find a long-term partner, like A/B profile testing (evaluating which pictures/prompts have the highest success rate), level of investment (commitment to people you meet on an app vs. IRL), and paradox of choice (endless profiles to swipe through).

To discuss DATING with Roland : @ro_tone

To discuss DATA with Roland : Roland Toney III on LinkedIn

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : [email protected]

For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

Katelyn Zeff, sister to my friend and former guest David Zeff, chronicles her journey of dating in NY in search of a meaningful connection. We discuss how how to remain confident and positive in the face of the ghosting, unsolicited sexts, and recurring threesome propositions that plague hot girl (AND boy) summer.

To shoot your shot with Katelyn: @kzeffy

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : [email protected]

For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

Join me and Azaria Menezes for a discussion about porn that won't leave you wanting to immediately clear your search history. We discuss the evolution of our relationship with porn, from our first encounters to the role it's played in shaping our sexuality to-date. Topics range from OnlyFans' empowerment of its creators, to porn's impact on labiaplasties and anal bleaching.

To get more intimate with Azaria : azariamenezes.com

And to hear more of Azaria's juicy takes on sex : Getting Intimate on Apple Podcasts

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : [email protected]

For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

David Zeff opens up about dating after divorce in arguably the most vulnerable Interstates & Heartbreak episode to-date. He outlines the journey of his last relationship- from first Tinder swipe, to "I do," to eventually parting ways. We're left pondering questions around closure, and David's romantic future.

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : [email protected]

For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

Mexico City local Mariana Villanueva shares international dating tales spanning her home country, Australia, Europe, Asia, and beyond. She unapologetically expresses her gripes with dating Mexican men, and the regional pros and cons of the men she's encountered during her travels. The episode concludes with a spontaneous three-week Nicaragua trip with a Tinder match, which evolved into a real life telenovela and a lesson on transparent communication.

To learn how to flirt in Spanish from Mariana : Mariana at iTalki

To book a tour of Mexico City with your own modern day Carmen Sandiego : @toursamigosmx

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : [email protected]

For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

Erotic blueprint coach Monica Jayne returns to deep dive into owning your sexual experience and breaking free from societal expectations. We dive into how media depictions of sex impact expectations around penis size, dirty talk, mischaracterized sexual "disorders," and beyond. We wrap with tangible advice around broaching challenges ranging from gauging your partners' interest in introducing a third, to navigating conflicting stances on porn.

To explore embarking with your own sexual journey with Monica Jayne: @iammonicajayne

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : [email protected]

For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope