<h1>Healing from School Trauma: A Family-Centred Approach</h1>
In this episode, we dive deep into the impact of school trauma on children, particularly those with a PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) profile. This episode answers a key question: what are the next steps in the healing journey, when living a low-demand, school-free life?
Join us as we unpack the concept of trauma, how it manifests in children, and why post-traumatic stress is a rational and orderly response to distress. We challenge the idea of pathologizing children's trauma responses and emphasize the importance of providing long-term, consistent trust, safety, and space.
Key points covered include:
-The origins of trauma in children, even before school begins.
-How society's demands for productivity and compliance create barriers for PDA children.
-The importance of holding space for children during recovery, honouring their individual needs, and understanding what low demand or no demand looks like for each family.
-Why recovery from trauma can take as long or longer than the time spent in survival mode.
-The impact of hypervigilance on PDA children during recovery and the importance of creating an environment that supports rest and connection.
The episode also touches on the importance of parallel living, finding connection through simple activities like screen time, and how parents must prioritize their own healing as an essential part of supporting their children.
Key Takeaways: 
-Trauma can begin long before school starts, rooted in the expectations society places on children and families.
-Post-traumatic stress is a logical response to trauma, not a disorder, but a way the body and mind protect themselves.
-Recovery from trauma is a delicate, long-term process that requires individualized approaches.
-Families need to prioritize their own healing in order to help their children heal.
-Connection can look different in neurodivergent families and might involve non-traditional forms of bonding, such as parallel living.
Who is this episode for? 
This episode is for parents, caregivers, and professionals working with neurodivergent children, particularly those dealing with school-related trauma. It provides insights into the realities of trauma recovery, low-demand living, and how to navigate the complex needs of children with PDA.
Connect with Us:
Website: <a href="http://www.kristyforbes.com.au">www.kristyforbes.com.au </a>
Instagram: _kristyforbes
Facebook: intunepathways
Thank You:
A special thank you to our community member who generously shared their story and question about supporting their child through PTSD recovery. Your experience will resonate with many families on a similar journey. You are a phenomenal parent doing all the right things.

Healing from School Trauma: A Family-Centred Approach In this episode, we dive deep into the impact of school trauma on children, particularly those with a PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) profile. This episode answers a key question: what are the next steps in the healing journey, when living a low-demand, school-free life? Join us as we unpack the concept of trauma, how it manifests in children, and why post-traumatic stress is a rational and orderly response to distress. We challenge the idea of pathologizing children's trauma responses and emphasize the importance of providing long-term, consistent trust, safety, and space. Key points covered include: -The origins of trauma in children, even before school begins. -How society's demands for productivity and compliance create barriers for PDA children. -The importance of holding space for children during recovery, honouring their individual needs, and understanding what low demand or no demand looks like for each family. -Why recovery from trauma can take as long or longer than the time spent in survival mode. -The impact of hypervigilance on PDA children during recovery and the importance of creating an environment that supports rest and connection. The episode also touches on the importance of parallel living, finding connection through simple activities like screen time, and how parents must prioritize their own healing as an essential part of supporting their children. Key Takeaways: -Trauma can begin long before school starts, rooted in the expectations society places on children and families. -Post-traumatic stress is a logical response to trauma, not a disorder, but a way the body and mind protect themselves. -Recovery from trauma is a delicate, long-term process that requires individualized approaches. -Families need to prioritize their own healing in order to help their children heal. -Connection can look different in neurodivergent families and might involve non-traditional forms of bonding, such as parallel living. Who is this episode for? This episode is for parents, caregivers, and professionals working with neurodivergent children, particularly those dealing with school-related trauma. It provides insights into the realities of trauma recovery, low-demand living, and how to navigate the complex needs of children with PDA. Connect with Us: Website: www.kristyforbes.com.au Instagram: _kristyforbes Facebook: intunepathways Thank You: A special thank you to our community member who generously shared their story and question about supporting their child through PTSD recovery. Your experience will resonate with many families on a similar journey. You are a phenomenal parent doing all the right things.

Healing from School Trauma: A Family-Centred Approach
In this episode, we dive deep into the impact of school trauma on children, particularly those with a PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) profile. This episode answers a key question: what are the next steps in the healing journey, when living a low-demand, school-free life?
Join us as we unpack the concept of trauma, how it manifests in children, and why post-traumatic stress is a rational and orderly response to distress. We challenge the idea of pathologizing children's trauma responses and emphasize the importance of providing long-term, consistent trust, safety, and space.
Key points covered include:
-The origins of trauma in children, even before school begins.
-How society's demands for productivity and compliance create barriers for PDA children.
-The importance of holding space for children during recovery, honouring their individual needs, and understanding what low demand or no demand looks like for each family.
-Why recovery from trauma can take as long or longer than the time spent in survival mode.
-The impact of hypervigilance on PDA children during recovery and the importance of creating an environment that supports rest and connection.
The episode also touches on the importance of parallel living, finding connection through simple activities like screen time, and how parents must prioritize their own healing as an essential part of supporting their children.
Key Takeaways: 
-Trauma can begin long before school starts, rooted in the expectations society places on children and families.
-Post-traumatic stress is a logical response to trauma, not a disorder, but a way the body and mind protect themselves.
-Recovery from trauma is a delicate, long-term process that requires individualized approaches.
-Families need to prioritize their own healing in order to help their children heal.
-Connection can look different in neurodivergent families and might involve non-traditional forms of bonding, such as parallel living.
Who is this episode for?&nbsp;
This episode is for parents, caregivers, and professionals working with neurodivergent children, particularly those dealing with school-related trauma. It provides insights into the realities of trauma recovery, low-demand living, and how to navigate the complex needs of children with PDA.
Connect with Us:
Website: <a href="http://www.kristyforbes.com.au" rel="noopener noreferrer">www.kristyforbes.com.au </a>
Instagram: _kristyforbes
Facebook: intunepathways
Thank You:
A special thank you to our community member who generously shared their story and question about supporting their child through PTSD recovery. Your experience will resonate with many families on a similar journey. You are a phenomenal parent doing all the right things.

Recovering our children from school related trauma

Join Kristy Forbes and Kieran Rose again as they discuss misconceptions about autistic communication;  that while it differs from neuronormative communication, that doesn't mean it's any less valid or effective. They touch on hyperlexia, synaesthesia, difficulties around social situations and how the autistic radar is alive and kicking.
You can find Kieran Rose and learn more about his work at the links below: 
<a href="https://theautisticadvocate.com/">The Autistic Advocate Website</a>
<a href="https://twitter.com/kieranrose7/">Kieran on Twitter</a>
<a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPdoD7sz2r6Qe3CsD97CSCw/">Kieran on YouTube</a>
<a href="https://www.facebook.com/theautisticadvocate/">Kieran on Facebook</a>
Check out inTune Pathways at:
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Join Kristy Forbes and Kieran Rose again as they discuss misconceptions about autistic communication; that while it differs from neuronormative communication, that doesn't mean it's any less valid or effective. They touch on hyperlexia, synaesthesia, difficulties around social situations and how the autistic radar is alive and kicking. You can find Kieran Rose and learn more about his work at the links below: The Autistic Advocate Website Kieran on Twitter Kieran on YouTube Kieran on Facebook Check out inTune Pathways at: inTune Pathways Website inTune Pathways Facebook inTune Pathways YouTube inTune Pathways Instagram inTune Pathways Tiktok

Join Kristy Forbes and Kieran Rose again as they discuss misconceptions about autistic communication;&nbsp; that while it differs from neuronormative communication, that doesn't mean it's any less valid or effective. They touch on hyperlexia, synaesthesia, difficulties around social situations and how the autistic radar is alive and kicking.
You can find Kieran Rose and learn more about his work at the links below:&nbsp;
<a href="https://theautisticadvocate.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer">The Autistic Advocate Website</a>
<a href="https://twitter.com/kieranrose7/" rel="noopener noreferrer">Kieran on Twitter</a>
<a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPdoD7sz2r6Qe3CsD97CSCw/" rel="noopener noreferrer">Kieran on YouTube</a>
<a href="https://www.facebook.com/theautisticadvocate/" rel="noopener noreferrer">Kieran on Facebook</a>
Check out inTune Pathways at:
<a href="https://www.kristyforbes.com.au/" rel="noopener noreferrer">i</a><a href="https://www.kristyforbes.com.au/" rel="noopener noreferrer">nTune Pathways Website</a>
<a href="https://www.facebook.com/inTunePathways/" rel="noopener noreferrer">i</a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/inTunePathways/" rel="noopener noreferrer">nTune Pathways Facebook</a>
<a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCG5GFzSkpre7gFFHzkB7hJw" rel="noopener noreferrer">inTune Pathways YouTube</a>
<a href="https://www.instagram.com/_intunepathways/" rel="noopener noreferrer">inTune Pathways Instagram</a>
<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@_kristyforbes/" rel="noopener noreferrer">inTune Pathways Tiktok</a>

Understanding Autistic communication as culture

Join <a href="http://www.kristyforbes.com.au">Kristy Forbes</a> and <a href="http://www.theautisticadvocate.com">Kieran Rose</a> as they discuss behaviours often assumed to be associated with being autistic: where they come from, how they’re understood or misunderstood and how we can better accommodate and understand behaviour as an externalised expression of an internalised experience, and not dysfunctional or non functional neuronormative behaviour.
 
You can find Kieran Rose and learn more about his work at the links below:
<a href="https://theautisticadvocate.com/">The Autistic Advocate Website</a>
<a href="https://twitter.com/KieranRose7?s=20&t=bS3teL128WwNR2u32D_40w">Kieran on Twitter</a>
<a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPdoD7sz2r6Qe3CsD97CSCw">Kieran on YouTube</a>
<a href="https://www.facebook.com/theautisticadvocate">Kieran on Facebook</a>
 
Looking to learn more about autistic behaviour? You can check out the inTune Pathways resources <a href="https://www.kristyforbes.com.au/store">here</a>, join the waitlist for our 12 week program for families raising autistic children <a href="https://www.kristyforbes.com.au/intunefamilies">here</a>, or access our <a href="https://www.kristyforbes.com.au/blog">blog</a> or <a href="https://www.youtube.com/c/KristyForbes/featured">YouTube Channel</a>.

Join Kristy Forbes and Kieran Rose as they discuss behaviours often assumed to be associated with being autistic: where they come from, how they’re understood or misunderstood and how we can better accommodate and understand behaviour as an externalised expression of an internalised experience, and not dysfunctional or non functional neuronormative behaviour. You can find Kieran Rose and learn more about his work at the links below: The Autistic Advocate Website Kieran on Twitter Kieran on YouTube Kieran on Facebook Looking to learn more about autistic behaviour? You can check out the inTune Pathways resources here, join the waitlist for our 12 week program for families raising autistic children here, or access our blog or YouTube Channel.

Join <a href="http://www.kristyforbes.com.au" rel="noopener noreferrer">Kristy Forbes</a> and <a href="http://www.theautisticadvocate.com" rel="noopener noreferrer">Kieran Rose</a> as they discuss behaviours often assumed to be associated with being autistic: where they come from, how they’re understood or misunderstood and how we can better accommodate and understand behaviour as an externalised expression of an internalised experience, and not dysfunctional or non functional neuronormative behaviour.
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You can find Kieran Rose and learn more about his work at the links below:
<a href="https://theautisticadvocate.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer">The Autistic Advocate Website</a>
<a href="https://twitter.com/KieranRose7?s=20&amp;t=bS3teL128WwNR2u32D_40w" rel="noopener noreferrer">Kieran on Twitter</a>
<a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPdoD7sz2r6Qe3CsD97CSCw" rel="noopener noreferrer">Kieran on YouTube</a>
<a href="https://www.facebook.com/theautisticadvocate" rel="noopener noreferrer">Kieran on Facebook</a>
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Looking to learn more about autistic behaviour? You can check out the inTune Pathways resources <a href="https://www.kristyforbes.com.au/store" rel="noopener noreferrer">here</a>, join the waitlist for our 12 week program for families raising autistic children <a href="https://www.kristyforbes.com.au/intunefamilies" rel="noopener noreferrer">here</a>, or access our <a href="https://www.kristyforbes.com.au/blog" rel="noopener noreferrer">blog</a>&nbsp;or <a href="https://www.youtube.com/c/KristyForbes/featured" rel="noopener noreferrer">YouTube Channel</a>.

Exploring autistic behaviour with Kieran Rose

As the host of a unique and impactful podcast, Kristy Forbes combines her professional experience as an educator with a special interest in Pathological Demand Avoidance with a personal touch. She brings an authentic voice to the dialogue on neurodivergence, drawing from her own experiences as an autistic adult, a parent to neurodivergent children, and a professional in the field.

KF's mission (and dreaming) invites families and carers to imagine transcending conventional approaches in supporting their children and loved ones; invites professionals to dismantle traditional power imbalances & social hierarchies rooted in privilege and to disengage from power imbalances and engage in meaningful, community-level presence and deep listening. Most importantly, Kristy offers a reframe; an alternate perspective of what it truly means to be neurodivergent and how we both formulate and cultivate a positive sense of autistic identity and culture within a neuronormative society.

Her passion stems from a commitment and drive to decolonise and dismantle the ways in which we hear one another and begin to rewrite what the textbooks say we are, as neurodivergent people and communities.

With radical acceptance.

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Parenting

Kids & Family

As the host of a unique and impactful podcast, Kristy Forbes combines her professional experience as an educator with a special interest in Pathological Demand Avoidance with a personal touch. She brings an authentic voice to the dialogue on neurodivergence, drawing from her own experiences as an autistic adult, a parent to neurodivergent children, and a professional in the field. KF's mission (and dreaming) invites families and carers to imagine transcending conventional approaches in supporting their children and loved ones; invites professionals to dismantle traditional power imbalances & social hierarchies rooted in privilege and to disengage from power imbalances and engage in meaningful, community-level presence and deep listening. Most importantly, Kristy offers a reframe; an alternate perspective of what it truly means to be neurodivergent and how we both formulate and cultivate a positive sense of autistic identity and culture within a neuronormative society. Her passion stems from a commitment and drive to decolonise and dismantle the ways in which we hear one another and begin to rewrite what the textbooks say we are, as neurodivergent people and communities. With radical acceptance.

As the host of a unique and impactful podcast, Kristy Forbes combines her professional experience as an educator with a special interest in Pathological Demand Avoidance with a personal touch. She brings an authentic voice to the dialogue on neurodivergence, drawing from her own experiences as an autistic adult, a parent to neurodivergent children, and a professional in the field.

KF's mission (and dreaming) invites families and carers to imagine transcending conventional approaches in supporting their children and loved ones; invites professionals to dismantle traditional power imbalances &amp; social hierarchies rooted in privilege and to disengage from power imbalances and engage in meaningful, community-level presence and deep listening. Most importantly, Kristy offers a reframe; an alternate perspective of what it truly means to be neurodivergent and how we both formulate and cultivate a positive sense of autistic identity and culture within a neuronormative society.

Her passion stems from a commitment and drive to decolonise and dismantle the ways in which we hear one another and begin to rewrite what the textbooks say we are, as neurodivergent people and communities.

With radical acceptance.

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