Ever wondered if someone’s avoidant or actually narcissistic? 

In this episode, I break down what sets avoidant attachment apart from narcissism, why they often get confused (especially in anxious-avoidant dynamics), and how understanding the difference can help you stop blaming yourself, start seeing patterns clearly, and move toward healthier relationships.

Whether you’re trying to make sense of someone else’s behavior or reflecting on your own, this episode brings nuance, compassion, and clarity to a tricky but important topic.

What I cover in this episode:

• Why avoidant behaviour can look like narcissism
  
  
  
• What avoidant attachment actually is (and where it comes from)
  
  
  
• The clinical traits of narcissism and how it develops
  
  
  
• Key differences between avoidant and narcissistic patterns
  
  
  
• Can someone be both?
  
  
  
• How trauma plays a role in both
  
  
  
• Why social media often gets this wrong
  
  
  
• Questions to ask yourself if you’re unsure what you’re dealing with
  
  
  

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Episode referenced in the show:

Ep 18 The Anxious avoidant trap in relationships

Disclaimer:

Everything shared on this podcast is for information and support only. It’s not therapy, and it’s not a substitute for working with a qualified mental health professional. While I hope these episodes are helpful, they’re not a replacement for personalised care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a therapist or support service in your area. 

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