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Welcome back to It’s About DAMN Time!

This week, we’re diving into a topic that doesn’t get enough love: sexual confidence. It’s not just about what happens in the bedroom—it’s about how embracing your sexual self can empower you in every area of life.

I’m joined by the amazing Jazmyne Thomas, a Sex + Relationship Therapist and Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who’s here to break it all down for us.

Jazmyne takes us on a journey into what sexual confidence really means, how it’s built, and why it’s the ultimate self-improvement tool.

From overcoming body image struggles to exploring new things in a safe, judgment-free way, this episode is packed with actionable advice to help you level up your confidence inside and outside the bedroom.

• What Is Sexual Confidence? Jazmyne explains how sexual confidence is a skill that, like any other, gets stronger with practice and self-awareness.
• Building the Foundations: Why awareness, education, and communication are essential for sexual growth.
• Body Positivity & Self-Love: How to embrace your body as it is and stop letting insecurities hold you back from pleasure.
• Exploration Without Fear: Tips for safely trying new things and stepping out of your comfort zone.
• The Ripple Effect: How boosting sexual confidence positively impacts other areas of your life, from your relationships to your career.

• Jazmyne’s “Reps Rule”: Why practice is the key to mastering confidence in the bedroom.
• The truth about body image: “Confidence is the sexiest thing you can bring to the table.”
• How to overcome internal and external pressures that can stifle your growth.
• Jazmyne’s take on the pleasure gap and why prioritizing your own pleasure matters.
• The surprising link between mindset and sexual satisfaction.

Whether you’re someone who struggles with trying new things in the bedroom or you’re looking for ways to embrace your body and desires, this episode has something for you. Jazmyne’s expertise and down-to-earth advice will leave you feeling inspired to take ownership of your sexuality and show up confidently in all areas of your life.

1. Embrace Self-Awareness: Reflect on areas where you feel confident and where you might want to grow.
2. Get Educated: Take time to learn about your body and explore your desires without judgment.
3. Communicate Openly: Talk with your partner about your needs, preferences, and curiosities.
4. Celebrate Your Wins: Build confidence by remembering how far you’ve come and the skills you’ve mastered.

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Have you ever felt like you're stuck in the same cycle—same relationships, same habits, same excuses—just circling but never landing?

In this episode, I’m talking about holding patterns: those moments in life when we know we need change, but we keep delaying it.

Inspired by a real-life conversation with a friend, this episode unpacks:

✨ Why we stay in situations that no longer serve us

✨ How comfort and fear keep us stuck

✨ The importance of making a choice—land the plane or take off

Whether it’s a toxic relationship, a draining friendship, or a personal habit that keeps you stagnant, it’s time to evaluate what’s holding you back. You deserve relationships and environments that pour into you.

🔹 Are you stuck in a holding pattern?

🔹 What’s stopping you from making a move?

Let’s talk about it. Hit play and let’s figure out how to move forward, together.

🛫 #LetGoToGrow #PersonalGrowth #SelfImprovement #ItsAboutDAMNTime

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It’s been a minute, but I’m back.

In this episode of It’s About DAMN Time, I’m giving you a life update—raw, real, and unfiltered.

The last few months have been tough: job loss, financial struggles, and battling my own mental health. But through it all, I’ve learned some hard lessons about resilience, the power of community, and the importance of asking for help—even when it’s uncomfortable.

✅ Why I stepped away from podcasting for a few months

✅ The struggle of losing a job and navigating an uncertain future

✅ Learning to accept help (even when pride gets in the way)

✅ How stress, anxiety, and depression can make you revert to unhealthy coping mechanisms

✅ The role of routine in getting back on track

✅ Lessons I’ve learned about adapting to change and moving forward

If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or like you’re carrying the weight of the world alone, this one’s for you. I get real about what it means to survive, to struggle, and to find a way forward—one step at a time. Because sometimes, the biggest act of strength is simply asking for help.

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Hey y’all, it’s the final episode of the year, and we’re closing out 2024 with a deep dive into resilience—what it means, how it shaped me this year, and why it’s the word I’m carrying into 2025.

This year wasn’t a cakewalk. I faced job loss, strained relationships, personal setbacks, and a whole lot of uncertainty. But through it all, one lesson kept showing up: resilience. In this episode, I’m sharing my raw reflections on how life’s challenges tested me and, more importantly, how they helped me grow.

From learning to recharge like a drained battery to fighting for myself in ways I never have before, this year taught me that resilience isn’t just about bouncing back—it’s about rising stronger, even when it feels like the world is on your shoulders.

Here’s what we’ll talk about:

• Resilience redefined: Why I didn’t see myself as resilient before and what changed.
• Lessons from the trenches: How I handled major setbacks, including a tough summer and financial stress.
• The gift of resilience: Why I believe resilience is something we’re given, not just something we build.
• Small wins that matter: From taking 30-minute walks to creative bursts that reignited my drive, I share the little steps that helped me stay afloat.

This episode isn’t just about my story—it’s about all of us who faced challenges in 2024 but kept pushing forward. Whether it was personal struggles, professional hurdles, or the heaviness of the world around us, we’re still standing.

Let’s step into 2025 with a renewed sense of strength and purpose. You’re not alone in this journey, and together, we’re building something stronger.

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If this episode resonated with you, don’t forget to rate, review, and share it with someone who could use a dose of resilience and inspiration.

Let’s connect: Drop your reflections on this year’s challenges and victories in the comments or DMs. I’d love to hear your story.

Until next year—keep standing tall. 💪

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Welcome back, DAMN FAM, to It’s About DAMN Time!

This week, I'm diving deep into a topic that hits home for a lot of us—overthinking. If you’re anything like me, you've probably spent nights replaying conversations, analyzing your every move, or holding yourself back from making big decisions because of that internal critic.

Well, let’s talk about how overthinking is more than just a mental loop; it’s straight-up self-sabotage.

In this episode, I get real about my struggles with overthinking and how it’s impacted my growth, my creativity, and my confidence. You’ll hear my story of battling the urge to second-guess myself, the weight of overanalyzing what I post on social media, and the stress that comes with questioning if I'm “enough” for the dreams I'm chasing.

Here’s what I cover in today’s episode:

• What Overthinking Looks Like for Me: I share what it’s like to be the “king of overthinking,” from creating content to showing my true self.
• Overthinking and Social Media: How fear of judgment kept me from being authentic online, and why I realized showing “Pure Jarratt” matters more than perfect posts.
• The Impact of Overthinking on Self-Worth: How I began to recognize that my harshest critic was the one in the mirror.
• How Overthinking Becomes Self-Sabotage: I break down how we can unintentionally block our own progress by holding onto the “what ifs” and “maybes.”
• Why You Shouldn’t Police Yourself: We talk about why life’s too short to constantly question every move, especially when the biggest regrets often come from things we didn’t do, not the ones we did.
• This Week’s DAMN Challenge: I’m challenging you (and myself) to find just one thing you've been overthinking and take action on it, without second-guessing!

If you’ve ever felt trapped in your own mind or found yourself doubting every decision, this episode is for you.

Let's stop letting overthinking keep us from the lives we deserve. Let's reclaim our confidence and move past the endless self-questioning.

Keywords: Overthinking, self-sabotage, confidence, mental health, personal development, social media, self-worth, authenticity, regrets, personal growth, self-acceptance, mental loop, inner critic, authenticity on social media, overcoming self-doubt.

Ready to join the challenge? Hit me up on social media @itsaboutdamntimepod on IG and let me know how you’re stepping out of the overthinking cycle. Let’s work on this together and stop letting our minds be the reason we hold back from what we truly want.

Listen, share, and let’s grow together!

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In this week's episode of It’s About DAMN Time, I'm digging deep into the realities of facing life's challenges head-on.

It’s been a week of raw emotion—from career uncertainties to reliving the loss of my dad two years ago, and navigating the stress of the recent election results.

I’ve felt every bit of anxiety, fear, and doubt that so many of us experience during tough times. But instead of backing down, I’m choosing to fight for the life I want, and I’m here to encourage you to do the same.

Join me as I reflect on how to handle adversity and find resilience through it all. We’re talking about practical steps, like moving past the frustration, taking care of our mental health, and setting real goals that bring us closer to a better future.

I dive into the importance of showing up every day, even when motivation is hard to find.

This episode is a reminder that we can choose to fight for the lives we want, no matter what obstacles are in our way.

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This week’s episode dives into an essential but often unspoken topic:

How to share your sexual desires and fantasies with your partner—without the shame or awkwardness.

Just in time for the final days of National Kink Month, I’m sitting down with Safiya Darling, a Black Sex Educator and BDSM/Kink Specialist, who’s here to break it all down.

Safiya shares her expert insights into what kink is, common misconceptions, and why so many people struggle with opening up about their fantasies.

We talk about everything from the basics of kink to building the confidence to express your true desires. Safiya’s practical advice covers everything from setting boundaries to making sure you and your partner are on the same page with a “yes, no, maybe” list.

Whether you’re curious about body worship, sensual play, or even a little role play, this episode is packed with guidance on communicating openly and honestly to bring your relationship to a deeper level.

• What Is Kink? Understanding kink as an umbrella term and how it differs from traditional sexual practices.
• Breaking Down Misconceptions: Why society’s views (hello, patriarchy!) make people feel embarrassed about their desires.
• The Difference Between Fetish and Kink: Safiya explains how fetishes are needs, while kinks are “wants.”
• Soft vs. Hardcore Kinks: Examples of gentle ways to explore kink, from body worship to sensual massage.
• Communication 101: How to start the conversation with a “yes, no, maybe” list and what to consider when discussing boundaries.
• Cultural Influences on Sexuality: Why discussing kink is especially tough in Black communities and how to overcome these barriers.
• Role-Playing and Sensual Intention: Adding intention to everyday acts can bring a kinky edge that deepens intimacy.
• Creating a Safe Space: Setting up a non-judgmental, open environment to encourage honest conversation.

• “Most of us are probably more kinky than we think we are.” – Safiya Darling
• “It’s about taking your power back and exploring what makes you feel good without shame.”
• “Education before participation.” – Safiya’s golden rule for kink and BDSM exploration.

If you've ever felt too shy, awkward, or uncertain about discussing your desires, this episode will give you the confidence to have those conversations.

With Safiya’s compassionate guidance, you’ll learn how to create a comfortable space to express your needs and explore new ways to connect with your partner.

Safiya’s approach balances history, empowerment, and practical advice to help you and your partner bring your relationship to the next level.

• Understanding the Basics: Kink doesn’t have to be hardcore—it’s about finding what excites you, in or out of the bedroom.
• Safe Communication: Why it’s essential to establish a safe, open space with your partner and the importance of mutual respect.
• Exploring Soft Kinks: Ways to introduce sensual, non-intimidating practices into your relationship.
• Permission to Be You: Give yourself the green light to explore your desires without fear of judgment or embarrassment.

• The Kinktionary – Safiya’s recommended resource for learning kink terms.
• Yes, No, Maybe List – A guide for exploring and discussing boundaries with your partner.
• Books for Kink Exploration:
• When Someone You Love Is Kinky by Dossie Easton, The Big Book of Submission by Rachel Kramer Bussel & Tongue Tied by Stella Harris.

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In this insightful episode of It’s About DAMN Time, host I dive deep into the importance of living authentically and how embracing vulnerability can strengthen your connections.

Reflecting on personal experiences from this past weekend's Afros & Audio podcast conference, I share how networking, emotional expression, and being truly seen by others can enhance personal growth and create meaningful relationships.

I emphasize the power of authenticity in fostering connections and the mental and emotional benefits of allowing yourself to be vulnerable. By leaning into emotional honesty, you can not only connect more deeply with others but also accelerate your own journey of self-discovery.

Additionally, I provide a sneak peek into his upcoming series focused on sexual health and personal development, promising to explore even more ways to live in your truth and grow holistically.

All of this and so much more...It's About DAMN Time!

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Welcome back to another episode of It’s About DAMN Time!

This week, I’m diving deep with Shanna Stevenson, who is entering a new chapter in her life at 40. We talk about everything from the emotional journey of going through a divorce to what it means to truly find yourself after years of putting everyone else first.

This episode is all about transformation, self-discovery, and the importance of mental health.

Shanna opens up about her own personal experience with marriage, counseling, and ultimately, her decision to end the relationship and start fresh.

She shares what it was like to search for a bilingual therapist and the cultural complexities that played a role in her marriage.

We also get into how COVID-19 reshaped her perspective on life, her struggles with balancing motherhood, and how counseling became a game-changer in understanding relationship dynamics.

We talk a lot about what it means to embrace your femininity, reclaim your independence, and be unapologetically authentic after a life-changing event like divorce.

Shanna’s story is one of resilience and rebirth, and whether you’re approaching 40, navigating a divorce, or simply looking to reconnect with your true self, there’s something in this conversation for you.

Tune in for an episode that’s packed with heartfelt advice, inspiring stories, and practical tips for navigating life’s toughest transitions.

Whether you’re in the middle of your own life shift or supporting someone who is, this episode will resonate.

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In this episode of It’s About Damn Time, I sit down with Marquita Henderson, who recently celebrated her first anniversary of going vegan, to explore her journey of self-discovery through a plant-based lifestyle.

We dive into how switching to a vegan diet has not only transformed her relationship with food but also improved her overall health and well-being.

We talk about the health implications of our family histories and how that pushed Marquita to rethink her diet. For her, going vegan was more than just changing what was on her plate—it was about taking control of her health, prioritizing self-care, and reconnecting with food in a more meaningful way.

Marquita shares some real talk about the obstacles she faced when going vegan, especially living in a small town where finding plant-based options isn't always easy.

Spoiler: Meal prep and time management were key!

We also get into the emotional side of the transition: how she navigated possible pushback from family and friends and what it means to stay committed to a lifestyle change, even when it’s tough.

Plus, we discuss the pros and cons of going vegan—everything from health benefits to the surprising challenges that many don’t consider.

Whether you’re curious about adopting a plant-based diet or just looking for some inspiration on how to make meaningful changes in your own life, this episode is packed with insight, practical tips, and a whole lot of heart.

• The health benefits of switching to a vegan lifestyle and how it impacted Marquita’s life
• Overcoming challenges like family dynamics and small-town living while staying vegan
• The importance of meal prep, time management, and staying consistent
• Why Marquita believes veganism is more than just a diet change—it’s a shift toward self-care and prioritizing health
• Practical advice for anyone considering a similar transition
• The emotional and physical rewards of sticking to a plant-based lifestyle

If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like to walk a different road by going vegan, you don’t want to miss this conversation!

• How Marquita’s family health history inspired her lifestyle change
• The power of meal prep and time management for staying on track with a plant-based diet
• The pros and cons of going vegan, from real-world experience
• How committing to your health can lead to self-discovery and long-term benefits

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