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• This episode starts out with some lamenting and some empathy regarding the technical problems with the podcast's audio quality - which were pointed out by a listener.
• Dr. B. is a bit frustrated and perplexed about how to go forward and receives empathy from Heather - thus giving our audience an example and reminder of the NVC empathy process.
• NVC empathy combines presence, reflecting, and needs guesses.
• A listener's email is shared and broken down to show all the places where NVC process was  used to share about the technical difficulties.   This is done to provide a real-world example on how to write in NVC language. 

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• On self-connection..."... It's a good habit to get into. I recommend people start doing this when you start a meeting, when you're beginning a class, before you get out of your car in the morning to go to work, just pausing and getting connected with self because often we don't even know what the heck is going on inside there, so then we certainly can't speak from that place,"  (00:36.6)
• "Yeah, I guess I think of NVC is like a super power you can wield and sometimes you can misuse it..."(06:36:0)
• "I guess that's what I'm wondering. Is it more harmful to do it in a way that's not in alignment with the process or... I guess anything helps. "  (07:55:8)
• "It always comes back to connection, is it getting you connection, and if it's not, then that's a place to pause and self-connect and figure out and take a look at what you did or what you didn't do... It's a hard question. I think I'm hearing you ask me, which is, do people need to get it a 100% right, or should you point it out to people?  You're just wanting to know, Is it dangerous if people think that they have it and think that they're applying it and they're not actually applying it. And what do you do in those kinds of circumstances?"  (08:11:1)
• "Often, I have my greatest gains in the process and my greatest learning in the process has to do with when I screw up the process, I don't have the level of connection that I want."  (10:41:6)
• ",, one thing I would love to talk about, since you brought it up, is just to remind people what empathy is and what it's not."  (11:41:8)
• "but let's just do a couple of minutes of empathy just so people can be reminded of what it is in case you're out there in the world thinking I got this down. We wanna just make sure that you're really truly getting what we're talking about when we're saying NVC empathy, which is staying present, reflecting back what you're hearing someone say, taking needs guesses, and you can do this either out loud or you can do it silently."  (13:30:4)

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Mournings and Celebrations are a way of talking about things that have occurred while keeping our language judgment free.

NVC groups tend to use this kind of language during check in and check outs to help people talk about the NVC process while using the NVC process.  We go more into detail about what this means in this episode. 

Some folks really struggle with the concepts of Mourings and Celebrations, so we provide several examples throughout the recording.

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• Dr. B discusses why she thinks making this "simple" distinction, between thoughts and feelings,  in our communication can bring about more peace in our world.
• It's important to practice in neutral situations to form a habit that can show up in the midst of conflict and help the conflict end in greater connection.
• Stating thoughts as thoughts, as opposed to couching them in feelings, provides more accountability and clarity for all involved in the communication.

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In this Episode, you will learn about the various components of The Bigbie Method (TBM):

1. The Intro Course  - a foundational course to learn the basics of Nonviolent Communication
2. The Empathy Gym - a membership style gym where you workout your empathy and NVC muscles instead of biceps.  "Just sit and click" and let your NVC skills come to life in your daily life.
3. The TBM Certification process - for people interested in making this your life's work.  Not everyone will qualify to do this work in schools and organizations but TBM will need help in scaling up to the level necessary in this world.  The Intro Course and Empathy Gym are helpful enough in that they will make a difference in how you move in  your world.  But, some may be interested and asked to help further the mission of TBM to Operationalize Peace and join the TBM team of Certified Guides.

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In this Episode, we share the following information

1. What is The Bigbie Method?
2. How did The Bigbie Method come to be?
3. A little about the Community Connections Restorative Justice Program that was the "testing ground" for The Bigbie Method.
4. The various services provided by The Bigbie Method
5. Information on the upcoming Intro to NVC course offered by The Bigbie Method (learn.thebigbiemethod.com)

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Here are some of the questions answered on this episode.

1. What do you do when you have to have a difficult conversation with your child?  Heather and Dr. B roleplay a situation between mom and 9-year old.
2. Where do feelings guesses fit into the empathy process?
3. Does taking feelings guesses when in jackal talk help you or someone move more towards understanding their needs?

Listen in to find out!

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• "Would you say one of our greatest freedoms is in our ability to choose how we react to things? ."  (00:43.2)
• "How did you get involved and what kind of an impact or what changes have you seen since you've been using NVC? "  (05:28:7)
• "...if you're speaking in observational terms, then you have a common place to start the conversation, you're not getting caught up in judgments that start the conversation about on the wrong foot. So that's all true, but what we're talking about here is the other real huge benefit of being able to distinguish between observations and evaluations has to do with what kind of internal space, what kind of internal environment do you end up cultivating for yourself when you're operating in evaluation internally, and especially if you don't even realize you're doing it. It just adds a whole level of suffering that is not necessary, "  (08:15:7)
• "Which of your relationships has transformed the most?"  (09:42:1)
• "You know what I realized recently, someone was telling me about a conflict and I gave them the option of responding with empathy or giving advice, and they chose giving advice, and I find that more often than not, people who aren't  well-versed in NVC will always choose advice."  (11:04:5)
• "Do you think there is such a thing as perfectionism and NVC... Have you trained people? And people get really bogged down in the details of getting it right yet." (17:14:4)

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• "Jackaling is using the language of blame as opposed to Nonviolent Communication which is known as Giraffe language, the giraffe is the symbol of NVC."  (00:23.7)
• " Sometimes it's painful to be in jack mode, but I also want people to note that the jackal can be very productive... Can be actually very helpful. We should embrace our jackals."  (03:32:7)
• "Can you just stay with that? The pain of it [your jackal]. The frustration with it. Can you meet that need? So to speak, not meeting it, by having it be handled in that moment, having it have expressed outwardly towards it, when I'm saying, meet your own need, you're meeting it fully embracing, oh, that's what all this energy is inside."  (05:43:0)
• "I do think there is something to jackaling with awareness."  It can be productive.  (08:15:2)
• "Learn to love our jackals, love the jackal. Don't jackal to someone directly, jackal away, jackal fully have an awareness that you are jacking when you're jackaling."  (10:31:0)

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