It's All About Connection! NVC With Dr. B!

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There are a number of topics we discuss all in service to greater understanding around presence. 

Self Connection - this is modeled on the show

5-4-3-2-1 - a cool activity you can do to get yourself back to presence, especially in a heated moment

Having patience with presence and how it is similar to a meditation process.

How NVC is mostly about presence, so is it useful to use NVC language without presence?

Join us for this show to learn about all of this and more.

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Imagine having a place to go to practice, on the regular, your NVC skills and where you can get very specific feedback on your skill level.  TBM Empathy Gym is a membership based program where people can go to be in an NVC community, practice their NVC skills, and get performance-based feedback on their progress in learning and implementing NVC.  This episode goes into the details of The Empathy Gym and tells you how you can join from anywhere in the world.

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We've talked a lot, in past Episodes, about evaluative language and how it is tied to the trauma epidemic which tends to have a dominoes effect of one person (often unconsciously) triggering another.  If this is so, than where do appreciations come into play?  Is it in service to connection to tell someone they are great or they did a great job?  Dr. B and Heather unpack this topic a bit.  They talk about the NVC way of expressing appreciations and why it may be help to create greater emotional safety and clarity than the way we oftentimes provide "positive" feedback.

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Expressing is just as important as giving empathy in the NVC model, and yet it is the component that is sometimes overlooked.  In this Episode, we discuss why it's important to express and how to do so using Observation (O), Feelings (F), Needs (N), and Request (R).

We debated using this recording, because we got a "little silly and raw" - meaning we were concerned about effectiveness and acceptance.  However, we believe the topic is an important one and most of the examples and non examples, we think, can help listeners gain some clarity on this topic - at least, that is our hope.

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There tend to be some patterns that occur, especially when people just start learning NVC and then want to share it with others.  In this Episode, Dr. B and Heather address to questions and provide a bunch of tips and insights:

1.  What to do when you first learn NVC and want to share it with others?
2. How to give empathy to someone who is jackaling without agreeing or reaffirming their judgments?

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If giving empathy and expression in NVC is based in connecting around needs, what is one to do when the other person involved is not interested in contributing to your needs?  This is a very tough topic to explain and Dr. B shares a bit about her own process when this sort of thing happens in her life.  It tends to be helpful to do deep self-empathy and "meet"  your own needs but not in the way that most people would think.  Take some time to listen here to learn more.

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Kelly McGrath worked for 20+ years in the General Counsel's office at the Florida Department of Children and Families.  After learning NVC from Dr. Bigbie, she was inspired to take her work in a different direction and now has a private law firm with the focus on communication first.  

In this Episode, she shares a bit more about her own personal practices to support herself in her career and she also shares what it looks like to integrate NVC into the legal field.

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