It's All Up From Here!

Do you lie to yourself or other people? Even small misrepresentations can impact our lives day to day. Today we delve deep into the "stories" we tell ourselves and others. We also talk about how we each have our own "truth" and how difficult that can be in relationships.

How clear are your boundaries when dealing with other people? Shona and Pia talk about boundary issues they have both faced in their personal lives, over the last month, which caught them by surprise. They then share what it looks like to have clear boundaries in an intimate relationship. Lots of great information in this one!

Do you think you're creative? Pia would say that everyone is, and shares how to get in touch with your own creativity. Shona discusses her life long creative journey and how it used to involve her linen cupboard. Yep, that's right, her linen cupboard! Listen in as the girls take a light hearted look at how you can be more creative every day.

In this episode Shona and Pia talk about intimate relationships and how we can rethink or redefine them. Do they need to look the way that they have traditionally? Shona shares her thoughts since her marriage breakdown and also talks about her first foray into online dating, which has been an adventure to say the least!

By special listener request, Shona and Pia do a deep dive into finding your life purpose. If you believe you have a life purpose, and whether or not you think you've found it, listen in as the girls share what they have learnt. They talk about how to find it and how you are never too old, what can stop us from discovering it, plus a whole host of practical tips as well.

You will learn how...

01:34 Shona struggled for many years to find her life purpose.

02:50 How life purpose has two levels?

04:07 To find your life purpose you need to follow this one thing.

08:30 Some beliefs around life purpose.

10:15 What can stop us from finding our purpose?

15:08 Being good at something doesn't necessarily make it your purpose.

16:42 A useful way of seeing your life purpose.

22:33 Shona shares how she always felt jealous of others who seemed to be born knowing their life purpose.

26:49 Some practical tips to help you find your life purpose.

33:00 Look out for signs and synchronicities on your path.

43:52 Words of encouragement if you are trying to find your life purpose.

Why is it so important that we have self belief? How is it different from self acceptance? Why do we need it to achieve the life we have always wanted? These are some of the questions Pia and Shona talk through in this episode. Listen in to learn why self belief is such an important tool in our lives.

In this episode you will learn...

01:13 What is self belief?

05:44 The book that helped Shona with her self belief.

06:18 Shona shares the dream she has run from her entire life.

9:47 A sign to look out for that your self belief is growing.

11:48 Pia's self belief - where it comes from.

13:33 External validation - we can't rely on that.

16:32 How to shift from focussing on needing others approval (external validation) to relying on our own?

24:46 Why people don't go down the path of following their dream.

35:10 Self belief as an enhancing energy.

41:37 The difference between self belief and ego.

There has been a lot of talk recently about people with narcissistic tendencies and this behaviour is absolutely on the rise. Shona and Pia discuss their experiences with narcissistic people they have been in relationship with. After listening you will be able to pick out narcissistic behaviours and understand what's happening in these relationships.

Today you will discover....

02:13 What do we mean by "healing with connection'?

03:53 What is a narcissist?

06:25 Narcissists are attracted to empaths.

10:45 How a relationship with a narcissist impacts our intuition?

12:17 How an empath approaches relationships?

14:45 How a narcissist loves?

16:36 What to look for to learn to protect yourself from a narcissist.

18:42 What Shona learnt dealing with narcissists?

21:33 What Pia sees her mentoring clients have in common?

22:40 What happens when we try to make a relationship with a narcissist work?

24:42 How a narcissist keeps you in relationship.

26:47 What is "narcissistic love bombing" and "narcissistic supply"?

Do you ever feel lonely? Or maybe you're scared to be alone? It's ok if this happens to you. Listen as both girls share when they have felt lonely, what was happening and how they worked through it to become comfortable with and even enjoy their time alone.

In this episode you will discover...

00:43 How loneliness is so prevalent today for many people.

01:20 Shona's experiences with feeling lonely, she goes deep and very personal.

03:41 What's going on when we feel lonely?

04:55 Shona shares when she first remembers experiencing loneliness.

08:26 What's happening when we feel lonely in our intimate relationships?

20:10 Could you travel on your own?

23:27 How spending time alone can be good for us and also a bit scary.

29:29 We are never truly on our own.

30:32 Pia's loneliness trauma.

35:14 What to do if you're feeling lonely.

36:27 How to nurture yourself

Welcome to Season 4 of It's All Up From Here! Join us for a brief chat about how the podcast is growing and changing and where we are headed this season. Thanks for being here x

Season 3 has been a biggie and so we share how it unfolded and how a theme emerged just by talking about things close to our hearts.