Since we’re home, and have time to work on ourselves, we’ve been taking a deeper dive into the people Jen has had FaceTime dates with, as well as the other profiles floating around the dating apps. We’re noticing a lot of guys recently got out of relationships and right onto the apps so in an effort to work out our own baggage we’ve got author, speaker and performer Zara Barrie in to discuss how her book Girl, Stop Passing Out in Your Makeup: The Bad Girl's Guide to Getting Your Sh*t Together to discuss the inspiration for her book, why passing out in your makeup has nothing to do with washing your face, how to recognize when it’s time to get your life back in order, why rebounds actually teach you a lot, how to view breakups as breakthroughs, whether Zara thinks COVID is causing a break up epidemic, why a case of the “fuck-its” can help you find the power of heartbreak, what it means to be codependent and how to shift an imbalance if you are headed in that direction, whether we should wait to have sex and why it’s different if you’re a women, what the lesbian U-Haul theory is and how not to avoid moving into a relationship too fast, the slow burn vs. the rapid-fire romance, and how to know when it’s time to cut the cord.

Lez Be Friends with Zara:

@zarabarrie

https://www.zarabarrie.com/

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Sooo in LA they just opened the bars, and closed them again due to COVID cases going up, and on top of that they closed the beaches for the holiday weekend. If you can’t go to a bar, and you can’t go to the beach, and the rest of the time you’re wearing a mask so no one can see you - how on earth are singles supposed to meet someone? Serena Fucking Kerrigan joins us to discuss how to become a confidence queen, whether we should fake it ‘til we make it, why we should ignore the people who label confidence as intimidating, how Serena’s Let’s Fucking Date Instagram Live show came to be and why it’s easier than the distractions real life dating throws at you, how her dates are vetted and her village (audience, followers, and friends) helps her out with the process, why Serena is an advocate for virtual dates FIRST before dating IRL, how the pandemic has actually created a new sense of intimacy, whether she thinks virtual dating will still be a thing after the pandemic is behind us, which dating apps she likes and why, how to send an opening message with confidence, the path Serena is on to becoming the Oprah of her field, how you can get in touch and be coached by Serena, and why the most important relationship is ultimately with yourself!

Date with Serena:

@serenakerrigan @letsfuckingdate

https://www.serenakerrigan.com/

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Surprise, we’ve got a VERY special, and provocative episode! With old views on various human rights issues being challenged more and more each day, we’re doing our part to keep up, learn, and support our fellow humans by offering as much love as possible. We’re excited and full of PRIDE to have an expert in today to guide us on all things LGBTQ+. We have speaker and author of A Gay Man’s Guide To Life, Britt East, in to discuss the release of his book and the past experiences that inspired him to write it, how homophobia can be considered sexual abuse, why we should all be ruling each other in rather than ruling eachother out, how hiding who you are can affect milestones like first crushes, first kisses and other crucial developmental stages in a gay person’s life, how gay dating became transactional, and why that can develop a crippling fear of intimacy, the social injustices within the gay community you didn’t know existed, what racism looks like with in the gay community and why it’s more stark than you think, how sexual preference labels can be hurtful and helpful at the same time, what gender roles look like for gay men, why the future is pansexual, how we can help the gay youth of today, and why the formula for finding love is to first figure out who you are and then to follow the energy. Love is love!

Get Britt’s Guide:

IG: @britteast

Web: https://www.britteast.com/

Books: https://www.britteast.com/books

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Things are starting to open up across cities so we’re wondering how that will affect dating! Do we still need to go virtual, or are we back to meeting people IRL? We need help knowing what’s what so we can work on finding love before the next lockdown. Thankfully we have Rance Nix and Thi Lam, hosts of the popular Instagram show Love Is Quarantine, in to discuss what inspired them to begin matchmaking, how they matched the couples and whether any of them are still together, what they learned about partnering during a pandemic and how that can work as we get back to real life, tips for how to approach women in 2020, why it’s a sensitive subject and what a guy needs to remember when asking a woman out, why Rance and Thi are single and how they feel about entering into a relationship these days, what advice they were given to figure out if the person you are dating is “the one,” the behind the scenes surprising facts about dating from the male’s perspective, how they think you can spot “red flags” and how to remain patient every. step. of. the. way.

Find Love in Quarantine:

@loveisquarantine @realestatewithrance @thiqlam

https://www.loveisquarantine.com/

Keep it Complicated with Jen and Lauren:

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It’s been a rough year with so much uncertainty. We have no idea what’s going to happen from day to day, and although we’re starting to get used to being flexible and living in the present, we can’t help but wonder what’s in store for the future! Soul guide, astrologer, writer and intuitive Tara Jade Nichols joins us to shed light on what each planet represents and what retrograde actually means, why the 5 planets that are currently meeting for the first time in 733 years significantly impacts all of us, why it’s important to have a personal birth chart reading before embarking in a relationship, how the planets on your birth chart hold different meanings depending on where they are located, why dating someone new during a retrograde is a maj no-no and when would be better for finding the L word, how utilizing your planets make things work for you, how synastry charts can help you understand the more positive and challenging energies are between you and your significant other, which element will tell you the qualities that would work best for you in a committed relationship, how astrocartography will help you determine where on the globe you will meet your person, and what the age of Aquarius really means!

Look toward the stars with Tara:

@tarajadestar

www.tarajadenichols.com

Keep it Complicated with Jen and Lauren:

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We have no words to describe the pain the world is in right now but we truly believe that a change is on the brink and we are all going to come out stronger and better in the future. It’s Complicated likes to spread the light where we can and today we are shining it on Moms, who we know are some of the strongest humans on the planet. Here to help us with that task is our guest, mom of 4 girls, host of Moms Matter and creator of Los Angeles Mom Magazine, Shirin Yadegar! We discuss how parenting can sometimes make you feel lonely and how her site helps you feel like you are a part of a community, why you shouldn’t let your older children parent your younger children, how putting your partner first not only keeps love alive but provides a great example for your kids, why age is just a number when it comes to parenting multiple children, how keeping to separate rooms will help make the family closer during the pandemic, why setting boundaries is an important part of providing unconditional love, how to greet you partner when they come home from a long work day, Shirin’s personal approach to supporting the Black Lives Matter movement via her website, how to post content during heavy times and why being authentic is always best, why Shirin only promotes products she’s tried and believes in, and how to shop for Father’s day during COVID.

Join the Mom Community with Shirin:

@lamommagazine

http://www.lamommagazine.com/

Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen:

Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow

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The world around us is more complicated than ever before, but thankfully Lauren is back from her month of maternity leave so at least one thing is back to normal. Jen and Lauren bring you up to date on how they’re both coping with everything that is going on, and all things BABY! Lauren gives her thoughts on old wives tales, what it’s like to parent a newborn amidst a pandemic and protests, how she feels about alcohol now that the baby is here and why Jen is onboard, the moment she realized she was going into labor and walks us through every detail of her experience, what a contraction really feels like, how she landed on the baby’s name and his current nicknames, the main baby items you need at the hospital and right when you get home, how having her own baby is different from when she was nannying, what breastfeeding is like and the various ways biology takes over, how to know if you’re ready for sex, working out and other normal activities, and how bringing a newborn into the world has affected her relationship!

Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen:

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We're all trying to adjust to this new way of life, how it affects love and the search for it. We have Michele Russo, the author of “Suddenly Single: Modern Tales Of Fairy Fails” and host of “Diming Out” and “Sunday Scaries,” in to discuss why she thinks people are still single, if the pandemic has a greater effect on singles or couples, what a fairy fail is and why we need to be able to laugh at ourselves, why we fail so many times before finding the one, if the city you live in has an affect on the type of fairly fails you might experience, how our fails are the most beneficial lessons, why the struggle with dating can cause exhaustion, Michele's most epic and embarrassing fairy fails, what the “Tiffany” analogy is and why it will remind you of your worth, how Michele came up with the idea for the “Sunday Scaries” and why she connects the fear of dating with the paranormal, and how to get ready to hit the dating scene once the world goes back normal.

Take a Dime Out with Michele

@thedimeseries

Guest Website -https://www.thedimeseries.com/

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Most of us haven’t had much, or any human contact in a while, so NOT doing sex may be a byproduct of the pandemic. We think isolation has changed the dating game for good, so we’re wondering if there really is something to be said for waiting to do the deed even after the safer at home ban is lifted. This is why we are bursting with excited to have best selling author of Why Waiting Works, founder of City Fam and speaker of The Truth About Sex Tour, Rob Kowalski on the show! We discuss why this reformed bad boy thinks waiting to have sex can bring you more fulfilling relationships (don’t worry, kissing is allowed), the scientific reasons why you feel closer to someone after sex and how this can be dangerous if it isn’t timed right, the differences between what men need versus women, when to tell the person you are interested in that you want to hold off on sex and how to approach the subject, why the “I need to take a test drive” response to having sex right away is an excuse for people who don't want to put in the work and communicate, how to audit your relationships to see if true love is present or not, ways to tell the difference between lust and love (hint it’s not exactly what you think), whether Rob thinks that relationships made during quarantine will last and if there will be a rise in sexual activity after the safe at home ban is lifted, how we can channel the energy we have been using on the wrong people towards finding the best versions of ourselves, why socializing with the right people can help you become the best version of yourself, and how to stay connected during hard times!!

Why You Should Wait with Rob

@robbkowalski

Guest Website - https://robbkowalski.com/

Author @whywaitingworks / free book https://whywaitingworks.net/

Founder @thecityfam

Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen:

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We are just trying to survive but without toilet paper, nail salons and the lack of human connection, the struggle has never been more real. We are especially happy to have creator of The Break Up Survival Kit Noelle Cordeaux in to discuss alternative and non-monogamous relationships, how she discovered this type of relationship was right for her and ways to determine what works best for you, why negotiation, ethics and communication are crucial to any relationship, even when it comes to creating your dating profile, why Disney and Hallmark might be partially responsible for society pegging monogamy as the “social norm,” what the smorgasbord graph looks like and why Noelle texts it to people who she might have an interest in, the science behind neurobiology and how this affects all different types of love, why the COVID 19 mayhem is more likely to help people pair bond, the difference between feelings and facts, how coaching can help push you out of your comfort zone and why we all need a little extra help right now, what a breakup survival kit is and why we need one, and which relationship types are the hardest to get out of!

Survive with Noelle

@jrnicoaching

https://www.noellecordeaux.com/

Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen:

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