It’s easy to blame the “big” culprits for our lack of desire or intimate pleasure - things like crazy schedules, hormones, a partner who is being an a-hole. But what about the little things? The way that you are behaving that is unconsciously depleting you and cutting you off from your body?

This week we talk about the yes’s that are having a direct negative impact on your body, your desire and your intimacy. Not the all over, full body “hell yes!” but the habitual ways we say yes to others and expectations. Understanding the way we unintentionally hide our ’true’ self in the name of showing up the way we are expected to. How we start saying yes to avoid conflict and get approval - aka people pleasing.

In this episode we dive into the world of people pleasing, but in a way that will allow for more compassion AND motivate change. I want all women to feel incredible in their bodies and sex lives and having acute awareness around our socialization to please is the key to that.

• What people pleasing REALLY is and the ways you might not even know you are doing it.
• How distinguish people pleasing from helping and being in service.
• The top 5 ways your saying yes will harm your overall pleasure and why its so important to understand
• The first step in changing your behavior FOR your own good

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For high achieving women, especially leaders, pleasure and rest tends to be seen as irrelevant to the important work and impact they are creating in the world. On this week’s episode, former client and leadership coach, Emily Feairs shares why we’ve got it all backwards.

Emily is The Feminist Leadership Coach. She has spent years as a leader in politics and knows from experience how overwhelm and perfectionism can get in the way of the most determined woman. She shares her own knowledge from years studying the brain with her lived experience leaning into more pleasure to show women how focusing on being pleased is key to being the badass you want to be in the world.

This conversation challenges the norms we’ve been taught and will demonstrate exactly why pleasure is vital to our success.

• How your ability to lead ties to your ability to receive pleasure
• Why ‘pleasure’ can feel so ‘ick’ for high achieving women and what you can do to move past it
• The importance of understanding how the patriarchy has kept women from pleasure and the impact of dissolving this thinking can have on your personal and professional life

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Mismatched desire is one of the main sources of frustrations and tension in sexual relationships. However most of us might label the different levels of desire as ‘mismatched’ when in fact that isn’t what is going on - which is exactly what we talked about in last week’s episode 152.

But what do you do if you have determined that it is in fact mismatched desire you are experiencing? Well tune in this week to find out. Sometimes it seems as though there is nowhere to go, but but there is actually a lot both partner’s can do to alleviate the tension and get back to pleasurable play.

• What mismatched desire is an isn’t.
• Why emotional responsibility is essential.
• How to determine non-negotiable and where to go from there.

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Mismatched desire is one of the main sources of frustrations and tension in sexual relationships. Mismatched desire is the term used when one person may want more than the other. This is the most common thing I clients will bring to me, however with further investigation most women will realize that there isn’t actually a problem with mismatched desire at all.

This week I want you to understand what mismatched desire is and isn’t, because how we handle this and move forward looks very different in either case. Learning more about yourself and about your partner will help both of you have much more satisfying sexual experiences - which is of course my aim! Listen on and find out if you truly are experiencing mismatched desire or perhaps the way desire is presenting itself is outside what media depicts.

• The importance of labels and why calling it sex ‘drive’ can be problematic
• Sexual urges vs sexual desires
• The misrepresentation of desire in the media and how that can impact your relationship
• Why a difference in how desire is experienced is more commonly the issue NOT mismatched desire

• S.O.U.L. Centered Communication w/ Maggie Reyes Episode #114: https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/114-s-o-u-l-centered-communication-w-maggie-reyes%2F
   
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Lets do something different in 2023, let’s embark on the actual PRACTICE of pleasure. Without the shame, without the guilt, with out the feeling that we are doing something selfish.

When pleasure is your AIM, when it becomes the goal everything in your life changes. In this episode learn why practicing more pleasure this next year is a worthy endeavor and how it can impact all the other goals you may have in your life. 2023 is your year, to feel good, to create at a higher level, to become truly turned on. 

• Why the pursuit of pleasure is not only a worthy endeavor, but a necessary one.
• How your conditioning keeps your from pursuing pleasure and the mindset needed to set your self up for success
• The impact that practicing pleasure will have on your other goals
• Actionable steps to take to make sure your life is infused with pleasure

• Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressed
   
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I talk to loads of women every single week about increasing our desire - that wanting, that longing. You want to WANT it more and  I get it, it can be jarring going a time in your relationship when looking forward to intimacy with your partner seemed effortless to wondering how the hell you were going to get yourself in the mood. And despite the fact that we talk about other ways to create that desire, you may feel like it is a game of mental gymnastics to get there.

In this episode we take a look at ‘natural desire’ and our longing to create more of that. Plus don’t forget that the holiday special with sexy gift guide is available now for free - your way to make your holidays more pleasure! Join for free at https://www.daniellesavory.com/tow-holiday

• What does natural desire even mean and why its important we have a working definition of it.
• The impact of hormones on your desire and what can be even more influential in you wanting it.
• How putting sex in a special category of motivation harms our ability to experience the desire we are wanting
• The best way to create more desire and how to make this easier as time goes on.

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• Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressed
• Interested in having me as your personal coach? Are you a 6/7 figure earner with a lot on your plate, but still want to see your busy life infused with more joy and pleasure?! Then consider a 1:1 coaching to utilize your time and have your whole body feeling alive. Apply and let’s have a conversation about what pleasure coaching could do for you. Prized raise in 2023 so take advantage now of the current openings.  https://www.daniellesavory.com/coaching

Let’s make this the most pleasurable holiday - filled with gifts that will actually LIGHT you up. Have you ever wanted to buy something for the holidays to add to your pleasure, your intimacy or feeling more turned on? Then look no further! Whether you want some fun and creative experience ideas or a few toys from your own ‘naughty’ list this episode will cover it all.

I have also included a shopping guide with links to ideas of some of the gifts mentioned on the podcast in the Turned on Woman Holiday Plan - This is my free gift for you -  5 day emails series that will give you exact tools and strategies to keep leaning into your turned on woman self, daily fun challenges and now your juicy gift list! Join for free at https://www.daniellesavory.com/tow-holiday and let's get you all holiday spiced up.

• Ways to invest in your pleasure and passion this holiday season.
• Some toys you might never of heard from that you can check out.
• How to turn on YOUR mind with resources and education
• Ways to make your bedroom a pleasure sanctuary
• Creative gift ideas that won’t cost you a thing to give!

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• Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressed
• Interested in having me as your personal coach? Are you a 6/7 figure earner with a lot on your plate, but still want to see your busy life infused with more joy and pleasure?! Then consider a 1:1 coaching to utilize your time and have your whole body feeling alive. Apply and let’s have a conversation about what pleasure coaching could do for you. Prized raise in 2023 so take advantage now of the current openings.  https://www.daniellesavory.com/coaching

Look we don’t need to kid ourselves that the holidays are NOT a busy time of the year. The month of December brings on different things that will fill up your calendar - traditions, social gatherings, volunteering, baking, gift buying etc.  Prioritizing pleasure is tricky in REGULAR time, let alone during the holidays - especially because we are socialized to put everyone else’s needs and feeling FIRST. Listen, I promise no one wins when you put your pleasure on hold - not you, not your family, not your partner. And during the holidays when the obligations and requests from others are running high it is important to get intentional about how you WANT to experience the holidays. The holidays are magical and fun and an incredible time of year - let’s make sure that is YOUR experience this year.

Here are my 5 tips for the most ecstatically enjoyable holidays. PLUS make sure you sign up for the FREE 5 day Turned on Woman Holiday Plan - your 5 day emails series that will give you exact tools and strategies to keep leaning into your turned on woman self. Join for free at https://www.daniellesavory.com/tow-holiday

• Why it is important to decide what we WANT our holiday to look like ahead of time
• Where we have energy and time leakage
• Why guilt has no space in you declining requests and bowing out of invitations
• What self-loving boundaries look like and why they are even MORE important during the holidays
• E.L.F. and other tools you will receive in the free Turned On Woman Holiday Plan

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• REVIEW It’s My Pleasure NOW and be entered to win 2 life changing coaching session with Danielle, the course Undressed or a $100 gift card for some pleasure enhancers. Plus every review that is submitted in the month of November will generate $10 donation to Iranian American Women Foundation helping raise the visibility of women’s rights being threatened in Iran. Find out all the details about how to submit your review for eligibility for the donation and drawing HERE. (https://summerlovin.my.canva.site/giveaway)
• Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressed
• Interested in having me as your personal coach? Are you a 6/7 figure earner with a lot on your plate, but still want to see your busy life infused with more joy and pleasure?! Then consider a 1:1 coaching to utilize your time and have your whole body feeling alive. Apply and let’s have a conversation about what pleasure coaching could do for you. Prized raise in 2023 so take advantage now of the current openings.  https://www.daniellesavory.com/coaching

Being too tired is one of the main reasons that I hear women dismissing an invitation for intimacy or putting off pleasure for another day - when they think they might have more energy. And I get it, I too have experience lots of tired nights when sex is the last thing my mind says I want. But in this episode I want to offer you a very radical perspective . . .  what if being tired is the exact reason we need to be having MORE sex? What if it is actually the antidote to having more energy?

Well my friends, this isn’t just a theory - when we look at how orgasms and sensual pleasure support the body and the brain you will quickly see how orgasmic pleasure might be the ‘caffeine’ boost we all need, but even more nourishing because it helps create actual rest and ease in the body. Pls when you learn how to put pleasure at the top of your list, instead of the bottom, the way you show up will have the added bonus of giving you more energy to begin with.

• The impact of coaching 1:1 with me and how you can get two free sessions.
• How our mindset about sex will make it seem like an added effort instead and how to change that
• The importance of understanding what is draining energy in your life
• How pursuing sensual pleasure will have you showing up in a way that revitalizes your whole being
• The impact that orgasms can have on a more restful sleep

• REVIEW It’s My Pleasure NOW and be entered to win 2 life changing coaching session with Danielle, the course Undressed or a $100 gift card for some pleasure enhancers. Plus every review that is submitted in the month of November will generate $10 donation to Iranian American Women Foundation helping raise the visibility of women’s rights being threatened in Iran. Find out all the details about how to submit your review for eligibility for the donation and drawing HERE. (https://summerlovin.my.canva.site/giveaway)
• Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressed
• Interested in having me as your personal coach? Are you a 6/7 figure earner with a lot on your plate, but still want to see your busy life infused with more joy and pleasure?! Then consider a 1:1 coaching to utilize your time and have your whole body feeling alive. Apply and let’s have a conversation about what pleasure coaching could do for you. Prized raise in 2023 so take advantage now of the current openings.  https://www.daniellesavory.com/coaching

I was being interviewed awhile back by the producer for Red Table Talk (a story for another time) and she asked, “so what do you think is the main reason women aren’t having much sex or it isn’t that good” and without hesitation I answered . . . Because we are tired. And this was in March 1, 2020 - before the pandemic hit - before we had experienced the level of fatigue most of us our experiencing now.

But despite the fact that we have every reason in the world to BE tired, it doesn’t mean our desire and sexual should suffer because of it. In this two part podcast on tiredness and fatigue we explore a simple mindset shift and speaking tip to help you begin to break out of the cycle of fatigue.

• How our mindset about fatigue and tiredness impact our physical sensation of it
• The importance of breaking out of the habitual beliefs around tiredness
• How to use our approach to fatigue to gain more energy

• REVIEW It’s My Pleasure and help spread the word for more women to feel freedom in their body. Every review that is submitted in the month of November will generate $10 donation to Iranian American Women Foundation helping raise the visibility of women’s rights being threatened in Iran,  Plus be entered for a drawing for some very pleasurable prizes. I SO appreciate each and everyone of you listening and taking the time, let’s work together to spread the word. Find out all the details about how to submit your review for eligibility for the donation and drawing HERE. (https://summerlovin.my.canva.site/giveaway)
• Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressed
• Interested in having me as your personal coach? Are you a 6/7 figure earner with a lot on your plate, but still want to see your busy life infused with more joy and pleasure?! Then consider a coaching intensive to utilize your time and have your whole body feeling alive. Apply  and let’s have a conversation about what pleasure coaching could do for you. https://www.daniellesavory.com/coaching

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• It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!
• Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting [email protected]!