Hey friends, let me be honest with you - as a man speaking for many men, oral sex is a big deal to us. We love it. It's incredibly pleasurable. But here's what makes today's episode so powerful: I'm sharing a conversation from a wife's perspective about how she finds giving oral sex deeply pleasurable and meaningful.

Now, the beautiful thing about oral sex is that it's inherently intimate. You're giving your complete attention and focus to your spouse. There's something vulnerable and connecting about the very act itself. So learning how to genuinely enjoy it - not just on the receiving end, but actually on the giving end - can be an incredible gift to your marriage.

I'm excited to bring this topic to you today because this is actually a conversation I recorded a few years ago that's been sitting in the archives. I don't think many of you have heard it, and honestly, the underlying principle is too powerful not to share again.

Here's the thing - this isn't just about technique tips for better oral sex, though we'll cover some of that. It's so much deeper. It's about a complete attitude shift and reframe that can transform this part of your intimate life together.

If you're ready to think differently about giving and receiving in the bedroom, you won't want to miss this conversation.

Resources & Events:

• Men’s & Women’s Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2

• Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27

• Free Masterclass

• Join the Private Facebook Group

What’s the difference between having sex and truly making love?

In this episode, we’re talking about how to bring your whole self—your body, mind, heart, and soul—into your intimate moments with your spouse.

You’ll hear powerful stories of real couples who felt disconnected in their sex lives, even with consistent physical intimacy. Together, we’ll explore what it means to move from mechanical, eyes-closed sex to something deeper and richer: emotional presence, vulnerability, and connection.

If you’ve ever felt alone after sex… if your body is there but your heart feels miles away… this episode is for you. You’ll learn what “eyes open sex” looks like in real life, why we sometimes hide from true intimacy, and how small, intentional shifts can lead to transformational closeness in your marriage.

Whether you're looking to reignite connection or take your intimacy to the next level, this episode is packed with practical tools, encouragement, and hope.

Resources & Events:

• Men’s & Women’s Intimacy Coaching Cohorts – starting Sept 2

• Virtual Intimacy Getaway – Sept 26–27

• Free Masterclass

• Join the Private Facebook Group

If you’re a woman who’s never had an orgasm, struggles to orgasm consistently, or wonders if what you’ve experienced really counts—this episode is for you.

I want you to know this: you are not broken, and there is absolutely hope. In this episode, I share seven key truths about female orgasm, why it matters, and how you can move forward—physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

We’ll talk about:

• Why orgasm is a skill you can learn (you’re not defective!)

• The importance of creating the right environment

• How psychological, relational, or spiritual blocks might be getting in the way

• Why self-exploration and vibrators are powerful, shame-free tools

• What supportive husbands can do to truly help (and what not to do)

I’ve worked with many women who felt hopeless and stuck, and I’ve seen time and time again that healing, pleasure, and confidence are possible. You don’t have to figure this out on your own.

You have permission to want this. You have permission to grow. And you are so worth the effort.

🎉 Exciting news!

👉 Our next round of Women's and Men's Only Small Coaching Groups kicks off September 2. 👉 Our brand-new Virtual Intimacy Getaway is happening September 26–27. 👉 You can also watch my free masterclass to learn how hundreds of couples are overcoming their barriers and finding joy in their sexual relationship.

Head to GetYourMarriageOn.com for all these and more.

Other Related Resources

252: Cunnlingus Mastery: 12 Tips Every Husband Should Know Before Going Down on His Wife

239: Sharing the Mental Load for Great Sex, with Dr. Morgan Cutlip

121: How I Learned to Orgasm: A Sextimony with Ashley

What does white rice have to do with pornography? I know that sounds like a strange question, but stick with me here because this analogy completely changed how I understand what pornography does to our relationships.

I'll also share a more compassionate, Christ-centered approach to overcoming pornography habits that doesn't rely on shame or willpower alone.

Here's what we'll cover together:

• The surprising history of rice and what happens when you strip away the "bran" - and how this perfectly illustrates what pornography does to sexuality • Why shame, hiding, and secrecy actually prevent us from growing and healing • How to embrace your full sexual nature alongside your spouse instead of in isolation • A more nuanced view on sexual imagery, arousal, and discernment that might surprise you

If you've been struggling with pornography or if it's affected your marriage, this episode will offer you hope and a more loving way forward. Because here's what I've learned: building a marriage that's deeply nourishing - body, heart, and soul - requires us to understand the difference between empty calories and real intimacy.

Let's dive in.

👉 Let us know what you think of this episode in our Free Facebook Group. And don't forget to download the Intimately Us app for more tips, and check out the Get Your Marriage On program for personalized help.

Did you know that two-thirds of heterosexual couples in the United States use lubricant during sex? That number might not surprise you when you consider all the benefits of using quality lube for enhanced pleasure and intimacy.

While there are many different kinds to choose from, in this episode I'm excited to introduce you to a new and innovative lubricant that I've been personally using and loving - and I want to share it with you!

I'm bringing on Justin and Natalie, the inventors of Evree, for what I'm calling a "quickie episode." This is just for fun because I genuinely believe in their product and want you to learn about it too. Check it out at https://evreesensation.com/ and use code INTIMATELY for 10% off!

You might discover a thing or two about quality lubricant and intimate massage cream that can take your marriage to new heights of pleasure and connection! Whether you're new to using lube or looking to upgrade your current routine, this conversation will give you practical insights into choosing products that truly enhance intimacy in your marriage.

If you're looking for other ways to enhance intimacy in your marriage, check out the Intimately Us app for fun bedroom games or our FREE CLASS if you're trying to figure out how to overcome differences in desire.

Oral sex is one of the most powerful ways to bring your wife pleasure—and deepen your intimacy. In this episode, we share 12 practical, respectful, and fun tips to help husbands confidently and lovingly master cunnilingus. You'll learn what works, what to avoid, and how to create unforgettable, connected experiences in the bedroom.

Whether you're new to this or want to up your game, this episode is for you.

👉 Let us know what you think of this episode in our Free Facebook Group. And don't forget to download the Intimately Us app for more tips, and check out the Get Your Marriage On program for personalized help.

We’re diving into a topic that’s often overlooked—but full of potential for deeper connection and pleasure: the frenulum orgasm.

In this episode, we'll cover the following:

• The anatomy and sensitivity of the frenulum

• How this kind of orgasm compares to the female clitoral orgasm

• Positions and techniques to try together

• Why it helps build patience, mindfulness, and emotional closeness

• And how to make this a fun, low-pressure experience that builds trust

Whether this is totally new to you or you're just curious, this episode offers a gentle, practical guide to trying something new with your spouse that just might unlock a whole new level of intimacy.

✨ Plus: If you're struggling with mismatched sex drives or want help growing your sexual connection, check out our free class!

Let’s face it—if you're married, disagreements are inevitable. And sometimes, those disagreements feel like gridlock. That’s when it seems like there’s no win-win—only one of you can get what you want, and the other has to give in. It can feel like it’s either his way or her way, with no middle ground in sight.

In this episode, you'll discover 10 practical steps for having meaningful conversations about the tough stuff—so you can move forward together and build a deeper, more connected relationship.

And if one of the challenges you're facing is a mismatch in sex drives, be sure to check out our FREE class. You’ll walk away with real solutions you can start using today—no therapy required.

 Have you ever wondered why your spouse dodges your attempts at affection or how quickly he or she shuts down any of your affection attempts? Or how a simple kiss gets treated like you're asking for something much bigger? Well, in this episode I'm going to explain exactly why one partner who craves affection has a partner that avoids it.

And by the end, you'll know this simple mindset shift that can transform your relationship from a frustrating game of chase into one of genuine connection and intimacy. 

A quick note: 

I want to try something a little different this summer. We are still publishing episodes every Friday, but once in a while I might drop an extra episode in the middle of the week and sometimes they will be a little shorter. (We'll call them quickie episodes! How fitting, right?!) They're intended to be short, easy, and fun to listen to and teach a principle that you can apply right away in your own intimate relationship to make it better. And this episode you're listening to is one of our quickie episodes. I hope you enjoy it!

Check out Intimately Us or the Get Your Marriage On Program to help transform your relationship!

Male sexuality is just as complex and rich as female sexuality.

I was recently invited to talk about what I wish women knew and understood about male sexuality on Tanya Hale's podcast, she's given me permission to share that with you here on my podcast.

So on this episode, we debunk a lot myths we have around understanding male sexuality and paint a more optimistic and uplifting view of what male sexuality is and the blessing it can be to a marriage.

We explore how men express love through sex, why emotional connection and sexual desire are so intertwined for them, and how reframing men's sexuality can help us show up more equally in intimate relationships

(Don't miss out on part 2 where  we talk about how sometimes validation drives sexual desire, obligation sex, penis vulnerability, and what it means to create a truly equal and safe sexual space in marriage. )

Next steps . . . 

Check out the Intimately Us app , our Free Masterclass, or our FREE facebook group.

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