In this episode, I'm getting specific with actionable tactics while answering questions about the following:

• how to grow closer together emotionally
• overcoming body image concerns as it relates to sex.
• why women fake orgasms
• enhancing sexual intimacy with sex toys
• what the research says about pornography use and its impact on couples 
• exploring role play in relationships,
• and most importantly, keeping the erotic energy alive and long-term marriage relationships. 

I was a guest on a podcast titled From Mrs to Ms with Andrea. This was a fun, unscripted conversation and with her permission, I'm sharing a portion of that conversation with you today.

We need your input!

In a few weeks, I'll be doing another question and answer episode specifically on the topic of sexual fantasies as it relates to Christian couples and long-term marriages. And if you have a question you'd like me to prepare for that episode, please reach out to me on Instagram via direct message or send me an email ([email protected]).

I'd love to answer it on an upcoming episode.

As always, if you and your spouse are looking to take intimacy in your marriage to the next level, check out my Get Your Marriage on Program, or contact me or my team about private coaching opportunities. I'm here for you to help you and your marriage grow stronger and closer and have a lot more fun together intimately.

Lastly June 9th (that's 6/9 on a calendar) is a special day! It's the birthday of the Intimately Us app. It also International Love Making Day, and we want to celebrate with you with a fun challenge June 1-9!

Download the Intimately Us app for all the info. We're going to have a challenge starting on June 1st, leading up to the ninth. And we have a lot of special prizes and lots of fun for you and your spouse. 

Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

This episode is all about priming your mind and relationship for great sex. 

Years ago, Dr. Morgan Cutlip, who is my guest on this episode today, made her first appearance on my podcast, (and if you want to listen to it, it's episode number 50). What she taught me then about the mental load made a deep impression on me.

The mental load as it's often called, is this invisible, never ending to-do list, that is usually carried more by the wives than husbands in marriages, even if both spouses are working. It is the ever present mental load of things that are still works in progress that occupy the back of our mind.

Not surprisingly, the mental load issue carries its effects into the intimate relationship, and this is what we get to explore today in depth on today's episode with Dr. Morgan Cutlip.

I read her recently published book called A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load For More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex. We especially get to explore the great sex portion of her book in this episode. :-)

I hope you enjoy this episode with Dr. Morgan Cutlip!

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Our team has put together a great resource to help you tackle the mental load in your relationship! And it's on sale for the month of May. Check it out!

As always, if you're looking for help to take your marriage to the next level, check out our Get Your Marriage Program. Let us help you be the next success story!

Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

 I read an excellent book a few years ago. It's for parents talking to their kids about sex. There was a chapter towards the end of the book titled Honeymoon Horror Stories, which really caught my eye and changed the way I think about the importance of getting and teaching our next generation a solid sex education as part of their research for the book.

The authors collected many true stories of Christian couples about their struggles with their first experiences with sex and other sexual struggles earlier in their marriage. As I read these sad stories, I realized many of these heartbreaking experiences could have been avoided or minimized if we just had a better sexual education or work to dispel the role that shame has, especially in discussing sexual concerns with one spouse.

Newlywed or not, perhaps you have a quote unquote horror story of your own from your past, or one that you're working through right now. So today I wanna help you get through to your next level in your marriage by discussing a few solid principles regarding healthy sexuality. If you know someone that's soon to be married also, this would be an excellent resource to share with the soon to be bride and groom as well.

My guest today prefers to remain anonymous, so I've changed her name and removed any identifying details, but she was amazing. She interviewed me for a special project she's doing for her church to help educate and strengthen the next generation of soon to be married couples. Isn't that noble? So she graciously allowed me to use portions of our interview for this podcast episode.

By the way, later on in the episode, we're gonna refer to the five phases of a sexual relationship, which might seem out of context if you're due to this podcast. So I recommend you go listen to podcast episode number 224, which we released just a couple months ago where we discussed this principle in depth.

It's a good episode to listen to and review also. Alright, let's talk about some fun and juicy topics about healthy married sex education.

Women's bodies and brains undergo large changes during puberty, childbirth and menopause. Just like how sexuality hasn't been talked about much in previous generations, at least not in a positive light, menopause also hasn't been a free topic of conversation. 

It might be a bit funny that a dude is doing an episode about menopause, but I'm really curious about this amazing natural process that women undergo. And I'm not the only one. We often have questions in our private Facebook group. I admit, with a little bit of humor, that most of the comments are from husbands desperate for answers, wondering where their wives libido went after she experienced menopause symptoms.

We'll address this question among many others in this episode as I talk with my friend and fellow marriage and sex coach, Alisa DiLorenzo. She and her husband Tony, are the hosts of the incredible One Extraordinary Marriage Show and the author of several books.

Coming up . . . 

Our wonderful small group men's and women's coaching programs start May 6th! Spots are limited to just 10 people per group, so sign up now to ensure your spot! Trust us, this program is intimacy changing!

Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

Today I want to talk to those who are in a marriage where sex pretty good but maybe a little monotonous at times. Maybe it feels like it's the same old, same old. You wanna kind of spice it up, but then there's other factors involved, including feeling tired. Perhaps it feels like maybe sex is good enough, but you'd really like get to the next great level.

This is also an episode for those where you feel like you're really not into it, but you do sex anyway because you know it's good for your marriage or because your spouse wants it. And also for those who like sex, but they kind of sense their spouse is mostly just going through the motions for you.

This episode is all about developing our eroticism (and no it's not a dirty word!). 

If you'd like some more guidance in developing your eroticism, book a call with me or check out our program!

Referenced in the episode:

Podcast episode with Francie Winslow: "Why Christians Should Be Having the Best Sex" (Episode 178)

Podcast episode with Danielle Savory: "Blowjobs Aren't Just For Husbands" (Episode 137)

 Ever play the game "Two Truths and a Lie"? (A person makes three statements, and you guess which two are factual and which one is false.) Well, we get to play that game today on our episode with my guests Sheila Wray Gregoire and her husband Keith (return guests to the Get Your Marriage On Podcast).

The Gregoires completed extensive research, surveying thousands of Christian couples, and recently published their findings in a new book called The Marriage You Want. I've read this book and I think it's really well done, so I invited the Gregoires onto the podcast to share it with you. We talk about a lot of topics: sexual intimacy (of course), finances, sharing the mental load, and more.

I hope you walk away from this episode with a few new insights and fresh ideas to improve intimacy and connection in your own marriage. And if you'd like a little extra help, myself and my team would love to meet with you and coach with you in our Get Your Marriage On Program.

And as always, don't forget to check out the Intimately Us app.

Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

 Have you ever received really bad marriage advice? 

Today I have the privilege of interviewing Kendra Nielson, a fellow marriage coach and therapist.

Together we address common pieces of marriage advice that often miss the mark, such as "Never go to bed angry," or "Always put your spouse first," and "Your spouse should be your best friend." And of course we reinterpret these peices of advice for healthier marriage relationships. Understanding this is crucial in order to have a healthy sexual relationship as well.

We just wrapped up our in-person couples retreat last weekend, and it was incredible! Seventeen couples from all over the United States and Canada joined us for four days of deep learning and connection. It was a great experience and I look forward to doing it again next year. So be sure to get on our waiting list. I hope you can be there too and have this experience with your spouse.  

Do you have a desire gap in your marriage? If you do, you're in good company. Just about every couple does. I'm going live on April 10th for a free webinar all about how to address the sexual desire gap in your marriage in a constructive, healthy way that makes your connection stronger instead of dividing you in your marriage.

Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

I love helping couples through Get Your Marriage On to help them through challenges, to overcome issues in intimacy, and to walk away with feeling like they have a brand new lease on their marriage and realizing how much joy and fun that a good sexual relationship can bring.

And one such couple is who I have on my podcast today: Jennifer and Jeff (names have been changed). They've been very generous and vulnerable to share their experience with their marriage journey with you.

Some things to listen for:

• Oftentimes the challenges we face in marriage are because we don't want to look at the truth of something.
• We often try to manage people--sometimes it's through beating a person down or sometimes we feel like we're doing it out of love, but either way is self-serving.
• How to develop better emotional connection (even if you've been married a long time)

I hope this episode inspires you to look a little bit deeper within your heart and to build a stronger emotional and intimate connection with your spouse. This is a special episode and I'm grateful you get to hear it.

News and Resources

Free Live training on April 10th 

March Madness Fun

Intimately Us App

Free Masterclass: How to Fix Mismatched Sex Drives in Your Marriage (Without Therapy or Pressure) - Get a jumpstart in overcoming desire obstacles

Get Your Marriage On Program - The perfect solution for couples to get the education from the retreat but on your own timeline. Besides education, you get the benefit of one-on-one coaching, group coaching, and a community to support you in your journey. 

Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

 Just about every couple deals with libido differences from time to time. It seems though, as couples approach middle age and begin to face the second half of their life, the differences in sexual desire, which may have been a back burner issue in the marriage up until that time, seem to become front and center.

It's the elephant in the room that the couple can no longer ignore. I am absolutely passionate about what I wanna share with you in today's episode. This is very important work that I've witnessed transform hundreds of couples sex lives for the better.

The sad truth is too many couples go through life with a subpar sex life. There's just too much poverty in the bedrooms and it's painful. Yet there are so many tools and resources available that if couples can just reach out and implement them and grab them. They can be so much better off than they are. Now I'm sharing a recording of a portion of a live training I did recently for today's episode.

I'm doing another updated live training on April 10th on the same topic, and you're invited to join me live.

Resources

March Madness

Episode with Keith and Lindsay

Couples Retreat

Everyone struggles with feelings of self-worth and self-acceptance from time to time. Our bodies are sacred; as the Bible says, we're created in God's image. Yet the enemy of our souls does what he can to discredit and devalue our worth, often by casting shade about our own body image.

Today you get to meet Hope Orr, a skilled boudoir photographer and owner of Elevated Boudoir, as we talk about her journey, experiences, and the profound impact boudoir photography has had on herself and her clients. I had the privilege of meeting Hope over six years ago through a business connection, and I'm so excited that you get to meet her today.

Hope has a grace about her and you can tell she's a very caring individual.  In this episode, you'll hear Hope share her personal battle with body image and toxic perfectionism, and how a spontaneous boudoir session changed her perspective on herself. She discusses the transformative power of boudoir photography, the importance of trust, and shares three principles that can help anyone embrace a positive self-image. The heart of this episode is about the deep personal and emotional journey and broader impact of embracing one's true self.

News and Resources

We're hiring! If you think you'd be a good fit for our brand as a brand ambassador and social media marketer, we've extended our deadline. Please check out the details and apply here!

Last minute Couples Retreat spot can be yours for $500 off! We just had a last minute cancellation, and the generous couple has offered their deposit for another worthy couple to attend. Use code "payitforward" at checkout! Check out these testimonials on youtube! 

Join the March Madness Fun!

Intimately Us App

Free Masterclass: How to Fix Mismatched Sex Drives in Your Marriage (Without Therapy or Pressure) - Get a jumpstart in overcoming desire obstacles

Get Your Marriage On Program - The perfect solution for couples to get the education from the retreat but on your own timeline. Besides education, you get the benefit of one-on-one coaching, group coaching, and a community to support you in your journey. 

Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.