It's My Pleasure

Orgasms! Of course you want them! I want them and I want them ALL for you. But when we focus on orgasms, not only can it create problems, but it will diminish your overall capacity for mind-blowing pleasure.

So what should you focus on instead? Listen in on this episode to learn of why it is SO important to not lead getting orgasms drive the show.

• Why orgasm focused sex is problematic
• What we lost when we try to get the orgasms
• Where you want your focus TO be so that you can have the most memorable and mind-blwoing sexual experience
• And a very relevant tangent about a craft store

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Blowjobs - love them or hate them, this episode is for you.

The blowjob is one of those sexual acts that is seeped in assumptions, stigmatization and ‘shoulds'. Sure they are ‘for’ your partner and it can be so fun to see him turned on, but I want you to know there is so much MORE to them.

In this episode I will be sharing with you an entirely new way to look at blow jobs — one that will have you excited to practice your technique and make blowjobs a more regular occurrence.

• What society taught you about fellatio and how to spot where it is holding you back
• Why the blowjob can bring you in closer relationship with your sexuality
• The prerequisites for being turned on by giving a BJ

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Puff, puff, pleasure! Ha! In this episode, we speak with Dr. Adie Rae, a leading neuroscientist researcher in the field of cannabis, discussing the effects of cannabis on female sexual pleasure. Dr Adie shares their knowledge and insights on the topic, discussing the ways in which cannabis can enhance women's sexual experiences.

• Dr. Adie explains the science behind how cannabis affects female sexual pleasure, including how it can enhance sensitivity and increase relaxation and other ways it directly helps you experience more pleasure
• We get into the different strains and methods of consumption that are best suited for enhancing sexual experiences.
• In this conversation Dr. Adie also addresses potential risks associated with cannabis use and fears you might have if you have never used it before.
• Dr. Adie offers tips and advice for individuals who are interested in incorporating cannabis into their sex life, including dosage recommendations, communication with partners, and safe usage practices. She emphasizes the importance of individual experimentation and finding what works best for each person's unique body and preferences.

• Dr. Adie Ray on IG @dr.adie https://www.instagram.com/dr.adie/
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In this episode, we explore how visualization can be used to enhance your sex life and increase your desire. This is a tool that I use regularly in my own personal life and is vital in helping my clients get the results they are wanting as well. I will share 5 specific techniques for using visualization to improve your sexual experiences and tips and techniques to make visualization easier.

• The science behind the mind-body connection and how visualization can impact sexual function and satisfaction.
• Why visualization can be particularly helpful for individuals who struggle with low desire, performance anxiety, or other sexual challenges.
• The 5 specific visualization techniques that I recommend for enhancing your sex life, including [insert techniques].
• Tips for getting started with visualization and incorporating it into your sexual routine.

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Do you ever struggle with scheduling sex because you’re afraid that when the time comes you might not like feel like it and you don’t want to get your partner’s hopes up? Or you hold yourself back from a midday makeout sesh or big french kiss because you know it’’ be met with a knowing grin and “Oh I see what’s going on” suggestion - and to be honest you just don’t know if you want to? Or maybe you have with all good intention been into it and then along the way you simply aren’t feeling it anymore, but it is easier to go along than stop things.

Then you have to listen to this episode. Subconscious fears about not wanting to disappoint your partner, give the wrong idea or lock yourself into something you aren’t so sure about are keeping you from feeling more desire.

And the solution is simply. Listen in to find out what it is.

• Why giving yourself permission to change your mind is VITAL to feeling more turned on
• The emotional responsibility women take on, especially when it comes to sex
• How you are unintentionally being dishonest and what you need to do to become a trustworthy lover again

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Hello my fellow neurodivergent lovers! This episode is FOR you. Today we talk about how high sensitivity and ADHD tendencies can keep you from loving the sex you are having and dampening your desire and exactly what to do about it.

This episode originally showed up on The Black Sheep Playground podcast with Meg Kierstead and I loved the interview so much I wanted to share it here as well. Because to be honest it isn’t talked about a lot. How to regulate more - yes, how to get organized and stay on task - yes but sex and pleasure? Not so much.

In this episode I will give you specific tools, that I have used to work with my own neurodivergent brain, in order to relish in all the pleasure your body is wired for. Enjoy!

• How to make your environment pleasure friendly
• Creating a physical anchor to give your busy brain something to return to
• Why schedule sex is once again a fabulous thing to do, even if you are super resistant!
• Using pleasure for a barometer and more!

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• Black Sheep Playground Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-black-sheep-playground/id1631943092

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Have you ever asked yourself the question what the difference between caring or caretaking is? And why am I even asking this question? Because if you are anything like me, or my clients, playing mother to your lover is for sure NOT a turn on. So when does genuine caring and doing something from love for another cross into the realm of being their caretaker? That is exactly what we will be discussing on this episode

• How caring plays a vital role in our intimate relationships
• The identifying factors between caring and caretaking
• How sex shows up in our ‘caretaking roles'
• Choosing on purpose what and how you’ll do particular tasks so that you can continuously foster that passion

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There is a lot of talk about the mental load and physical load of running a house that a woman in a heterosexual relationship typically experiences. And thank goodness - we NEED to be talking about this.

However, I do see some of this narrative getting turned into a laundry list of “dos” for our partner and often in the vein of “Maybe I would be more in the mood if I had more help”.

And I want to address why this subtle shift can be problematic to the connection you are actually wanting.

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• How we unintentionally create a transactional relationship and how exactly this causes less emotional intimacy
• What we get wrong about emotional intimacy and who is really in charge of creating it
• The generational belief that we unconsciously are believing at some level that makes it harder to experience pleasure

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Understanding sexual pleasure and desire can feel complex - there can be so many factors that impact your mood, your openness to receive and your experience of pleasure.

That being said, in order to increase your sexual satisfaction it really comes down to three essential things. You can keep your mind focus on these THREE things over and over again because you’ll always find little nuances to work with that will help you elevate your sensual experience.

Tangled is the group coaching program that starts in a couple of weeks and this is the framework we work from.

• The top three things that will elevate your sexual experience over and over again.
• Why it’s important to understand the nuances of each focus - what it means and what it doesn’t mean.
• The skills to develop that will help you do each of these three things well

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“Babe. Listening to this woman was like I was listening to myself. I want to sign up for this program. I want what she has!” That’s the exact thing one of my clients said to her husband after listening to an interview about a year ago on “It’s My Pleasure”. Now she is coming on to share with all of you how this work, in her words, “has completely changed my LIFE.”

It is easy to think that truly LOVING your sex life and being orgasmically fulfilled is just for “other women” and not for you. My client Faith was nervous that the same might be true for her. Having had a conservative upbringing and being dedicated to her own religious beliefs, Faith was worried that it might not be in the works for her to love her sex life, but she knew she wanted things to change.

Listen in on this compelling story full of raw honestly, transformation and truly seeing a ripple impact of what is possible when becoming a turned on woman.

It is so important that we not only conceptually understand what is possible, but listen to others share their stories in their own words.

You’re going to love this discussion!

• The most simply and PROFOUND belief that will set more pleasure in motion
• How a conservative/religious upbringing impacted her marital intimacy and what it looks like now
• The power of thinking “what if?” when you want to go all in on this growth
• Why Faith consciously chose NOT to join an exclusively Christian sex coaching program and how that decision ended up being wildly beneficial in a # of ways

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• Connect with Faith: further.org

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