It's Scary To Remarry

Summer Walker has found love. How did her and boyfriend Larry celebrate their love? They both have matching face tattoos! Was that the best way to express their love towards each other? Was this an emotional decision? Are you making a long-term decision based on temporary emotions? 

As a man do you suffer from The Superman Complex? Many men do, but they don't have the words to describe it. In this first episode of 40's Unfiltered, Shon & Jason discuss the origins and how they struggled with The Superman Complex and how it affected their relationships and marriage

Tami Roman explained to the cast of The Real why she is willing to allow her husband Reggie Youngblood to father a child with another woman

“I feel like I’m at a point where my career is starting to do and reward me for all of the time and my efforts that I’ve been in this business and a baby for me right now would just be the thing to do,” she said.

Roman explained that she happily would participate in raising the child.

She also said it’s really about him being able to have his legacy here because he’s an only child.

As long as they have an understanding and agreement, I see nothing wrong with it BUT

Question: What do each of you want in a relationship?

The only way this situation would work is if the woman he decides to have a child with doesn’t mind not having her child full time. He will take the child to spend time with Tami as well

Also, men having a baby mama and not having their children under one roof adds difficulty not only financially but it makes another child from a broken home. Not that it can’t work but it’s definitely more feasible to be married to the person that you have children with

So, Tami if you are watching this video, just giving you something to think about

Now, before you get in a relationship with someone, don’t be afraid to ask the tough questions.

Consider, are you malleable or rigid when it comes to certain things in a relationship?

A lot of times we do things out of order so it makes the relationship more difficult. We have sex first, she gets pregnant and we haven’t considered asking the tough questions

Do you want children? If not, what preventive measures are we taking? Birth control? Vasectomy?

If you want kids, how many?

What about finances? Are you the spender or saver? Are you both flexible in this area or are you rigid?

In laws are another one. Does his/family like you? Do you all get along? Is there something he/she done something in the past that the in laws know about and keep bringing it up?

How often are we willing to have sex? The national average is once a week. So anything after that is a plus! Talk about it because anything that isn’t discussed cannot be set in stone because there was never a mutual agreement

Do you feel like a failure after divorce? Are men being judged in the church for divorce? What about when men date after divorce? Will the pastor remarry someone who attend their church? With special guest Al Gleason, The Curator  of Nonsense. You can find Al Gleason on YouTube under The Curator of Nonsense.

Sometimes sharing your story and being transparent on social media can have it’s downfalls. I decided to create a video on a comment aimed at me about marrying my Wife six months after meeting on Instagram. 

Why do we make our next relationship pay for an ex mistakes?  You never dealt with the hurt. You turned into a serial dater. You believe the fastest way to get over someone is to be with someone else

Are relationships in a state of emergency? 🚨  YouTuber @Chasing Yonci stopped by to help get relationships out of it’s current state  

 -she’s a YouTuber, voiceover artist, event host, public speaker. She’s all about self love, abundant life, and relationships.  

-she’s the author of the ebooks: Take Back Control: Get your life together in 30 days, & Why Women love assholes. And the book First Date 101: A man’s guide to dating a man   

Questions: 

-What was Yonci like as a little girl growing up and before marriage?  

 -Do you feel relationships are in a state of emergency? How did we get here?  -Is dating hard in 2021? If so, why?   

-You interviewed Jay Barnett. How did that happen?  

 -You talked about quitting your job and going full time entrepreneur. What was that feeling like and what advice would you give someone who would want to become a full time entrepreneur.  

 -You did a video on why dating is getting harder. Specifically dating “officially” but nothing really changes. Talk more about that  

-In a Tweet you said: The gender war will end when both sides start to take accountability for their own personal actions. Address the men first, then the ladies  

-You were married 12 years and went through a divorce. You said you dealt with anxiety & depression.  How did you get through it? What advice would you give to someone going through a divorce now?   

-Let’s talk about the video you did. The truth about sex part 2. You took a different perspective on body count. You talked about dating people in your circle, how the people you choose are within proximity of you.   You stated in the video “Fast forward you find the man of your dreams but there’s a high probability of running into people you slept with. Now your in fear of running into these people and to have the tough conversation with your significant other” Let’s talk about it more in detail

Should a woman go back to her maiden name after Divorce?

Kevin Hart ex wife Torrei Hart been defending herself on why she’s keeping the last name. She says:

"'Cause it's mine, first of all," she declared, “Second of all, 'cause Kevin never asked for it back — he don't want [me] to give it back, he's not trippin'."

And third of all: my kids don't want me to change my name."

I’m not mad at you Torrei

Why do women typically take on their husbands last name?

The husband was to be her covering, to take care of

Kristina Otterstrom, Attorney

How to Change Your Name During a Divorce

If you're getting divorced and you know you want to go back to using the name you had before your marriage, it's best to handle the name change during your divorce proceedings.

In most states, you can include your request for a name change in the divorce paperwork. If you wait to submit a name change request until after the divorce is final, though, you might have to file a separate petition and pay an additional filing fee.

However, I will say it’s a lot of work trying to get your name changed on:

Bank accounts, email addresses, school documents, certifications etc…

Some women don’t change their last name for the children.

Ultimately, do what’s best for you. This video isn’t to persuade.

However, here’s something to think about: if you are divorced from your husband, why keep his last name? Wouldn’t you want a fresh start? Do away with anything that has to do with him so you can have your full identity?

Do you talk bad about your child's mama? Daddy? If they were good enough to sleep with you, why talk bad about the other parent? I read a post that said "If your baby daddy ain't nothing, what qualifications did he meet to get it in the first place?" 

-I used to wonder why people talked bad about their baby mama/daddy 

-I promised myself to never talk bad about my ex wife because I married her and slept with her  

-What does that say about you? You slept with him/her. You got them pregnant This applies to men and women. Y'all sleep with people way too fast and don't even know him/her. Dudes be like "I strap up" but after having intercourse a couple of times, the condom comes off. At least know the status of your "situationship" are you both monogamous? Are y'all sleeping with other people?  

-If you both don't know y'all status and just hanging and banging both of you are at risk for STI's and possibly pregnancy

What is a woman of substance? She is more than meets the eye. She possesses virtues that makes others around her notice that she is not shallow. She is interesting to get to know. She possesses a depth of personality and character. Why men not choosing women of substance? A woman of that caliber isn't common, so he must have his stuff together to match her energy. 

The goal of men is to have sex with women. In today's culture men have become lazy because they can get sex from anywhere. In this sexual liberation age, men do not have to work hard anymore, so they continually chase after the easy women.  A woman of substance is usually desired by older men maybe 35 years of age (or older). When men hear a term like woman of substance, his default setting in his mind is she is boring. But that is far from the truth! Substance: Substantial or solid character or quality. Consistency and something that has separate or independent existence.