It’s the Brenda Martillo Show

Have you ever had a time in your life when you have a different point of view of the person you are talking to? Has it lead to misunderstandings or fights? Did you ever think that the experience you both described is the exact same thing but from different sides? You know that saying, “put yourself in their shoes”? Do you actually do it? It’s hard sometimes. Today I want to talk to you about it because sometimes it’s hard to do that. Listen along as I go into how it happened and continues to happen to me.

I have been going through some things professionally and personally, really going through it emotionally. I have had a moment to reflect and think back and what the takeaways are from this experience- not that it’s the first. We all go through disappointment or rejection, but how do you deal with? I hope there is a take away for you out of today’s episode. Take a seat and a grab a drink..

I’m back! So glad to be back with you guys. I have missed you. What happens when you plan? Life! Freaking life! Omg! So much has happened and here is my story of the last month. So grab your favorite drink, pull up a chair and listen in on this crazy story. Virtual hugs to all! No real ones because we all have cooties lol! Jk jk

Today we talk about expectations. For me, expectations have led to some of the biggest disappointments and they have been mostly on myself. Expectations I have had for myself and others have led to depression and anxiety. It’s been tough. Have you ever been let down by expectations? It sucks! Grab a chair and a drink and come hang out with me for a bit!

Have you ever wondered what the difference is between Hispanic and Latinx is? It’s really simple. Here I dive in to the major difference and give you some resources, who to look up to find more info. Sit back and enjoy this quick episode. Cheers!

I have been more anxious and worried and stressed since school started than I have been in a year. I didn’t realize that having the kids with me all that time and then having to get back into the swing of things would leave me feeling so sad and worried. I miss them! But you know what else started with school? My beef with my baby daddy. Omg! This guy leaves it all to me. I am sure you can relate or have recently been on the other end of a conversation with a friend who said the same thing. It’s so frustrating! Well, come on over and let’s vent together! Cheers!

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Hey girl hey! We have have burdens and we don’t want to share them because we think our friends have enough but it’s good to share because then it’s less heavy. I have had to look within, deeply, to realize that I need my sister circle just as much as I need professional help too. I’m not ashamed to admit that I have sought a counselor or a therapist when I felt like I couldn’t deal with my burden any longer. Life is hard and sometimes we need an outsider to give us a new look into our situation. I hope this episode gives you courage to seek your friends or professional help when you need it. And we all need it sometimes. Sending all my love! Enjoy!

Hey guys! I know it’s been a while. Life has happened.. it has gotten in the way but I’m happy to be back. Today, my friend and I continue our conversation about her divorce journey. You don’t have to be married a long time or at all to relate to our convo today. Pull up a chair and have your favorite drink in your hand and enjoy. Sending you all my love! (Maybe we will do a part 3- what’s life post divorce like?)

What do you do when your powerhouse couple friends announce they are getting a divorce? My good girlfriend, Robyn, walks us through what she went through, how she gave permission to her tribe to talk openly about our own marriages and how hard it is to do this day in and day out. She is a strong woman and I am proud to have her be part of my inner circle. ***Full disclosure- this isn’t a piece where you will agree with everything we say and if you do, cheers! If not, it’s ok.**

So I was reading this article about how men get more out of being married then women. Basically, they go into marriage when they are ready and not when they feel like they have to and women do it because we go into it thinking we found our prince charming. Said Prince Charming is sitting on the recliner with his hands in his pants and watching tv, all while we are running around cleaning up or dealing with the kids in some capacity. Do we set ourselves up? We might. Pull up a chair and listen in.