Whether you’re responding to a life-altering mistake or a life-changing success, you need to keep this week’s Shawnism in mind: IT’S YOUR FAULT.

Sure, there are often outside factors or other people that contribute to our decisions and their consequences. But, as Shawn and today’s guest discuss, there’s always room for more accountability—and that’s the not-so-secret ingredient to positive change and personal growth.

Reality TV star and entrepreneur Jax Taylor (Vanderpump Rules) joins us this week and opens up about his journey from top of the world to rock bottom and back again. Jax doesn’t hold back from honestly reflecting on (and owning up to) his mistakes and behavior that led to his public fall from grace. But one thing that really makes Jax stand out is his commitment to the hard work and hard decisions that go into true and lasting growth.

Shawn and Jax talk about the value of the RIGHT advice from the RIGHT people—and how anyone from your closest loved ones to a podcaster or author you’ve never met can save you from setting yourself back on your personal journey or having to start from the beginning. They also discuss why it’s so vital (though never easy) to balance and prioritize so many different important areas of your life, despite societal pressure to focus on things like finances and success.

And, of course, throughout the conversation, they discuss how much control YOU have along the way—no matter what you’re responding to or what journey you’re on.