John Thurman's Resilient Solutions Shortcast

One of the questions I ask many clients is, “What is your purpose or mission in life?”The inquiry usually leads to a pause, and they often say, “I’ve never been asked that question before.” If they have a church background, they say something like, “To love and serve God” or “To get married and raise a family.” But for the most part, they lack a personal mission statement or a clearly defined purpose. They usually need more focus, and a specific point to aim for.Focus is essential to living a...

Watch out for anger.Get closer to your partner. Be creative in finding ways to support your partner and grow your relationship.Integrate fun, special days into your routine.For Guys only - get off the couch and engage with your wife.By the way, be sure to download my 21 Ways to Improve Your Marriage ebook.Here is a link to the entire article.

Here are the 4 Tips - Be sure to check out the entire article to learn the right way to encourage your kids.Tip# 1 - Model ResilienceTip# 2 - Raise a Problem SolverTip# 4 - Praise Your Child Purposefully and IntentionallyTip# 4- Set the Pace, be the Example because these life skills are more caught than taught.

In the last episode, I discussed 4 points:1. We need to help our children become treasure hunters and not trash collectors.2. We want to teach and model optimism to our kids, and show them how being made in God's image can make a positive difference in the world.3. You and I want to encourage our kids to do their best and to achieve what they can while helping others.4. We want to remind them that failure is not final, only an opportunity to learn and do better.In part two, of this episode, I...

Point # 1There are two basic types of people in the world—those who edify and build up and those who detract and tear down. Choose to be the former. One of our goals as caring adults is to teach our kids that the best way to develop a happy, intentional, successful life is through their achievements and contributions toward the betterment of others. Point # 2We have to teach our kids to be optimists and believe that as individuals created in the image of God, they have the creative power...

A recent Pew Research study has shown that 76% of parents are concerned about their children’s mental health, particularly depression, and anxiety. This is a worrying figure, as it indicates that many parents are unaware of the signs and symptoms of depression in their children. Parents need to understand how to recognize if their child is depressed or suicidal so that they can get the help they need.In mid-February, numerous news outlets reported an alarming number of teens are feeling depre...

ResistanceResistance is essentially stress inoculation. It refers to the ability of an individual, group, organization, or even an entire population to resist manifestations of clinical distress, impairment, or dysfunction associated with critical incidents, terrorism, and even mass disasters. Resistance is a form of psychological/behavioral immunity to distress and dysfunction.ResilienceThe second is resilience. According to Dr. George Bonanno, resilience is a naturally-occurring tool most p...

Every one of us has been injured by life. How to Deal with Old Wounds: A Biblical Perspective is the first of a three-part series to give you some tools to help you become more resilient as you work through life’s challenges with the Lord’s help.Four Reasons Men Don’t Deal with WoundsThere are several reasons but in this article, I will focus on four common reasons that men struggle with their wounds.First, culture has trained us to believe that real men don’t cry.Second, masculinity is under...

There are three final stages in How to Grow as a Man of Faith Pt 2: the Lover Stage, the King Stage, and the Sage Stage.The Lover StageThe lover needs the warrior to act decisively and restrain his passions.The lover stage (the 20s to 30s) is the awakening of the heart. This could manifest as a love of poetry, nature, music…and eventually romance.This is the stage in which men learn how to love themselves by loving others. It can also deepen your awareness of how you are created in God’s imag...

How to Grow as a Man of Faith Pt # 1: The first three stages.When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things. 1 Corinthians 13:11 NLTTo grow as a man of faith, you must understand the stages of masculine development. This is the first part of a series that will show you a map as you continue your journey.A man of faith is someone with a sense of purpose. He knows he has a life mission and understands what it means to be a m...