Discover how debunking common myths can breathe new life into your marriage. Join me, John Thurman, as we tackle the widespread misconception that thriving relationships hinge on shared interests. It's not about forcing hobbies but about meaningful engagement with your partner. We also shed light on the idea that a peaceful relationship is inherently superior, revealing how well-managed arguments can actually foster growth and communication. Lastly, find out why venting every emotion unchecked might not be as healthy as it seems; instead, learn ways to express feelings constructively.

This episode promises a fresh perspective on building resilient and fulfilling relationships with candid insights and practical advice. By reevaluating these myths, couples can embrace each other's unique qualities, navigate disagreements positively, and foster genuine companionship. Personal anecdotes and actionable tips provide listeners with strategies to enhance their relationship dynamics and strengthen their bond. Tune in for an enlightening conversation that encourages understanding and growth in your partnership.

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This episode debunks three critical marriage myths: that great relationships don’t require sexual intimacy, that a marriage can’t survive a flawed partner, and that there’s a singular right way to navigate a relationship. The conversation emphasizes acknowledging intimacy, embracing imperfections, and creating personalized paths to strengthen marriages. 
• Discusses the significance of sexual intimacy in relationships 
• Emphasizes the importance of accepting each other's flaws and vulnerabilities 
• Debunks the myth of a 'one right way' to handle relationships 
• Encourages creativity in developing unique relational practices 
• Suggests practical actions to strengthen intimacy and connection

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Unlock the secrets to fighting fairly in your marriage and learn how to communicate effectively with your partner. Join me, John Thurman, as I share ten proven tips to help you and your spouse handle conflicts constructively. Drawing from over five decades of marriage and insights from Dr. John Gottman's research, we tackle the common pitfalls in relationships where conflicts are recurrent and often unsolvable. Learn how to keep disputes private, prioritize solvable issues, and protect your children from emotional harm while building a more resilient and loving partnership.

Ever wonder why specific phrases can escalate an argument faster than a wildfire? Discover why words like "you never" or "you always" are best left unsaid and how staying on point can transform your disagreements into productive conversations. With actionable strategies, we'll explore how active listening and maintaining respect can bridge the gap between misunderstanding and connection. Plus, find out why taking a break during heated moments isn't just okay—it's necessary for conflict resolution. Equip yourself with the tools to differentiate between solvable and unsolvable issues, ensuring your energy is directed towards building a stronger, more resilient relationship.

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We explore practical strategies to enhance intimacy in marriage, discussing the importance of trust, communication, and connection. Couples can reignite their passion and strengthen their bond with ten actionable tips.

• Understanding the reality of no-sex marriages
• The essential role of communication in intimacy
• Importance of giving full attention
• Acknowledging and encouraging positive attributes
• Being assertive without being critical
• Avoiding the critique trap in conversations
• Listening to understand rather than judge
• Practicing active listening techniques
• Skipping the blame game and taking mutual responsibility
• Managing conflict effectively
• Seeking help when needed and knowing when to pause

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Can you imagine what your marriage would look like if you stopped believing in relationship myths that only hold you back? Join me, John Thurman, as we unravel some of the most pervasive misconceptions that could be affecting your relationship dynamics. In this episode, I debunk three common myths about marriage, including the idea that genuinely understanding your spouse is a one-time achievement and that perfect romance is a constant in significant relationships. We'll explore how cultural narratives, generational influences, and social media shape these myths while sharing how embracing differences can fortify your partnership. You'll gain practical insights and timeless biblical wisdom to nurture a more genuine and resilient connection with your partner.

With the guidance of principles from 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, we delve into patience, kindness, and resilience — essential ingredients for enduring love. Reflect on these attributes as we discuss how they can transform your approach to conflicts and everyday challenges in your relationship. By acknowledging and moving past these myths, you can find joy and gratitude in each day shared with your spouse. Don’t forget to visit my website, johnthurman.net, for additional resources and insights. Check out my blog, linked in the show notes, for a more in-depth discussion on the topics covered in this episode.

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stopWhat Makes Resolutions Work?
Have you ever noticed how easy it is to make resolutions but how tough it can be to keep them? According to one survey, 23% of people will quit their resolution by the end of the first week, and 43% will quit by the end of January. Why does this happen? One reason is that people fail to connect their goals to a more profound sense of purpose. By linking your resolutions to our faith, we are more likely to make them happen. When you and I view our resolutions through the lens of faith, we can focus on what matters. Goals rooted in our spiritual values tend to resonate more deeply. For example, if you desire to improve your health, consider how a healthier lifestyle will enhance your relationships with family members. 

Setting Faith-Based Resolutions

• Spiritual Goals
• Health and Wellness Goals
• Financial Goals
• Personal Growth
• Strengthening Relationships

Building Resilience with Your Goals

• Stay Flexible
• Seek Support
• Embrace Setbacks
• Practice Gratitude

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Do you ever struggle with your faith? I have, and after you read How to Forge a Resilient Faith, you will have additional tools in your faith toolbox.

Here are the Six Principles of a Resilient Faith:

1. The First Principle of How to Forge a Resilient Faith is to Demonstrate Active Optimism or a Vibrant Faith.
2. The Second Principle of How to Forge a Resilient Faith is Taking Decisive Action
3. The Third Principle of How to Forge a Resilient Faith is to be Guided by God’s Word
4. The Fourth Principle of How to Forge a Resilient Faith is Tenacity
5. The Fifth Principle of How to Forge a Resilient Faith is Personal Responsibility
6. The Sixth Principle of How to Forge a Resilient Faith is to Understand the Importance of Interpersonal Support

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One of the questions I ask many clients is, “What is your purpose or mission in life?”

The inquiry usually leads to a pause, and they often say, “I’ve never been asked that question before.” If they have a church background, they say something like, “To love and serve God” or “To get married and raise a family.” But for the most part, they lack a personal mission statement or a clearly defined purpose. They usually need more focus, and a specific point to aim for.

Focus is essential to living an intentional life because it allows us to be mindful of our actions and make decisions that serve our highest purpose. When we focus on doing what is necessary for growth, transformation, and success, we can create a more meaningful existence for ourselves.

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1.  Watch out for anger.
2. Get closer to your partner.
3.  Be creative in finding ways to support your partner and grow your relationship.
4. Integrate fun, special days into your routine.
5. For Guys only - get off the couch and engage with your wife.

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Here are the 4 Tips - Be sure to check out the entire article to learn the right way to encourage your kids.

Tip# 1 - Model Resilience

Tip# 2 - Raise a Problem Solver

Tip# 4 - Praise Your Child Purposefully and Intentionally

Tip# 4-  Set the Pace, be the Example because these life skills are more caught than taught.

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