Joyfully Married After

In this episode, we discuss the reasons you want to fix your sexless marriage and the way to avoid a sexless marriage.
We talk about the reasons you are in a sexless marriage. And How to fix it.

A sexless marriage could be due to a number of causes, including:

Low sex drive
Lack of emotional connection
Poor communication
Medical problems like medications that cause low libido and side effects.
Disability
Mental health conditions
Children
Age-related factors like hormones ebb and flow with different stages of life.
Unresolved anger

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When it time to seek therapy in your relationship?

Your words are so powerful

God created the earth with words.

You create your world with your words.
Create your marriage with your words.
Create your finances with your words.

Your spouse needs to hear your edify and lift them.

They don't need your direction.

Don't you want to be JOYFULLY Married?

What are the goals in your marriage?

"The goal is to be happily married not just married."

Why get married if you aren't going to married because we all know that you don't have to be married. You need to make a distinct choice to be JOYFULLY married.

In this Episode we Discuss how to have a happy Marriage.

1.  Invest in your marriage just like your business/career with a weekly meeting with an Agenda- Treat this like you would a valuable client. Make sure you don’t miss it.
No interruptions. In a quiet place. Ask the question. Where can I improve?

2 .Create the Vision of Your Union.

1. Who do you see yourself as the significant other?
   1. Think like premier Romantic
   2. Cater directly to their love language in a big way on a regular basis
2. Look for others to emulate
3. Be with others that have marriage you want or others that want the same for their marriage (community)

ALWAYS HAVE SOMETHING GREAT TO LOOK FORWARD TO

1. Are you excited about the future
2. Give yourself something to be excited about.
3. Is there an annual trip you take.

1. Is this something you like to do together that you can do on a regular basis?
2. Make rules - If I am gone this many days, we do a quick weekend away. Never miss date night, pillow talk on Sunday nights etc. There are so many!! Coffee Day. Get in your 10!

It’s possible to have a great marriage and a great career or business. Yes you can have it all. Envision it, claim it.Use Do Overs - I know i messed up last time.. Only 1 or 2  year

Do you buy more career books than marriage books? Stop saying you're doing it to put food on the table. Put each other first. For 30 days.

14- nights away just the two of you in another town

4- If gone more than 4 days then take days off during the week.

6- no phone after 6pm

Why do people say that marriage is becoming extinct?

1. FEAR -people are afraid of hurt, rejection being vulnerable. FOMO. Something or someone better is around the corner. It’s all fear and you bring it to yourself…

2. Bad teaching- Who are you listening to? Online influences, gurus, family members? You reading your word? Your pastor? Following people with fruit on the tree? Modeling marriage/family success? Seeking positive input and wise counsel? Men bashing women and women bashing men and that’s what you’re listening too.

3. Communication and unrealistic expectations  - Expectations of a perfect mate from an imperfect you. Work on yourself; make improvements there. Attract what you are/what you want and watch this. What you need. Your spouse is also there to help you and also highlight where you need improvement. But we run from that and it becomes a problem vs you're doing some work in that area.

Because the POWER couple, is real.

We are going to break 4 Myths with statistics.

1. Black Women Don’t Marry - 

2.Educated Black Women Have It Harder

3. Rich Black Men Marry Out

4. Black Men Don’t Earn as Much as Black Women

Do Black people get married? That question has been asked in one form or another in a series of news reports about the Black marriage “crisis.” On the surface, such stories seem to be concerned about Black women in search of love, but these media reports have fueled stereotypes about Black people. By suggesting that too few Black men are available to wed, news stories on Black marriage have done little more than predict doom and gloom for Black women who hope to marry.

In reality, Black marriage isn’t reserved for the likes of Barack and Michelle Obama. Analysis of census data and other figures has debunked much of the misinformation the media has reported about the Black marriage rate.

Invest in your marriage just like your business/career

WEEKLY MEETING
Weekly meeting with an Agenda- Treat this like you would a valuable client.
Don’t miss
No interruptions
In a quiet place
Ask to scale 1-10
Where can i improve

What is going on in the business, the Vision of the business
Out of town this week?
Anything giving extra pressure this week
What is going on with the house, family, kids
What important activities are coming up
What important appointment are coming up

CREATE THE VISION OF YOUR UNION
Who do you see yourself as the significant other?
Think like premier Romantic
Cater directly to their love language in a big way on a regular basis
Look for others to emulate
Be with others that have marriage you want or others that want the same for their marriage (community)

ALWAYS HAVE SOMETHING GREAT TO LOOK FORWARD TO
Are you excited about the future
Give yourself something to be excited about.
Is there an annual trip you take?
Is this something you like to do together that you can do on a regular basis?
Make rules - If I am gone this many days, we do a quick weekend away. Never miss date night, pillow talk on Sunday nights etc. There are so many!! Coffee Day. Get in your 10!

It’s possible to have a great marriage and a great career or business. Yes you can have it all. Envision it, claim it.

In this episode we interviewed Lamar Tyler of Black Married with Kids and TSP.

Using his motto "The Gatekeepers Are Gone," Lamar has leveraged social media to build a movement of online brands that support, uplift, and encourage the black community with over 600 thousand social media fans and over 51 thousand customers in all 50 states and 43 countries across the globe. 

Among the recognition received for his work, Lamar, along with wife Ronnie was named one of Ebony Magazine's Power 100, a list of the top 100 movers and shakers in the black community, finalists for Black Enterprise's Family Business of the Year, finalists for Infusionsoft’s Small Business ICON award and recipients of the ClickFunnels 2 Comma Club Award.

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Lamar reveals what he wish he knew before starting the entrepreneurial journey in this first JMA interview! 

Learn what couples should do when trying to move from corporate jobs to entrepreneurship, resources you should tap into and the biggest myth about moving from your Corporate job to Entrepreneurship.

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Is it possible to love someone but not feel emotionally close? 

1. There is often a gap between the love we feel in our heart and the emotional intimacy we experience with someone. 
2. The connection we desire may seem so close, so we keep trying, but it remains elusive.
3. You can love someone but don't experience the trust and safety that are necessary for the relationship to thrive. 
4. But this emotional safety is an essential foundation for an intimate relationship.

The Ingredients of Emotional Safety

There are many possible ways to protect ourselves when we don’t feel safe. We shut ourselves down.

Building a trusting, non-defensive relationship requires that we give to another what we ourselves desire. Love asks for reciprocal sharing—extending ourselves toward another’s world in a way that lets them feel emotionally safe with us. 

Being Ourselves and Being Truthful

One of the blessings of building safety in a relationship is that we feel free to be ourselves.

 If we’ve been hurt in the past, we may have vowed to never to be so trusting and open again! 

Life is richer when we find a partner that comes from being ourselves 

Emotional safety also requires telling the truth and keeping agreements. 

Of course, no one is perfect, It is inevitable that trust will be broken, even in the best of relationships. 

There may be times when we don’t feel emotionally safe due to our own unhealed wounds from past relationships, whether in our family of origin or past partnerships.