Do you constantly have to force yourself to make changes? Only to do it for a week and then revert back to your old ways? Then you find yourself feeling hopeless and you start to believe all the doubts. Weeks go by and then you manage to force yourself to try again.

BUT,

You repeat it all over again... (This is exhausting!)

To truly change your story, you must do it from the inside out. Until you uncover the part of you that is keeping you where you are, nothing will change. That means doing shadow work!

Shadow work? To simply make the unconscious conscious. In other words, your subconscious mind is running the show and to do shadow work means to rewire it so it works in your favor rather than simply acting as a survival mechanism.

The truth is, where you are is serving a part of you. It keeps you safe and in your comfort zone. When you force yourself, it will only be a matter of time before you end up back where you started.

To truly make the change permanent you have to communicate with the part of you that is still stuck in the past. The part of you that is still protecting you from your past hurt/wounds AKA trauma.

Whether that's money or love. You either do the work or repeat the past over and over again then you will :D

Tune into this episode to find out how you can do that!

Muneeb has big plans and runs a successful business in crypto, but one of his greatest challenges was his confidence. His confidence in who he wants to become. That is when he reached out to me and joined QL (Quantum Leap). Not only did Muneeb change his life and the way he shows up on a daily basis, but he also signed up for QLB (Quantum Leap Boss). Where I help students show up for their business and step into leadership. Tune in to the full episode to know more about Muneeb's experience working with me.

We can easily portray a version of ourselves that we deem as acceptable, especially as someone who is in the public eye. However, as a coach, this has led me to feel inauthentic about the work I have been putting out for you guys. Time for that to change! This is just the beginning, and it always is Alhamdulillah.

When it came to money, I grew up with my dad saying he had to kill himself to make it. Blood, sweat, and tears! That was my mindset when it came to money! Was it conscious? NO. So how could I be in love with what I do, when I was subconsciously wired to associate money with pain and suffering? I was on a path of destruction. This is where it changes!

I used to look out the window, wishing I could just be normal again.

You might see me for where I am, but how did this all start?

I was at the lowest point of my life! Homebound because of my social anxiety and my face was covered in spots - cystic acne.

I hated my reflection! Even getting a glimpse of my face in the mirror was a constant reminder and question of what went wrong with my life!

I was at a stage where all the anxiety I suppressed throughout my childhood was surfacing. It destroyed me!

The worst part was, seeing people look at me and wonder what happened. Which eventually led me to not even want to leave my own bedroom to face my family.

It was tough! But it was the catalyst.

I made a promise to myself, that if Allah can help me change my life around, I will help others do the same.

Now 5 years later here I am. Alhamdulillah!

Dreams do come true.

So if I can do it, so can you!

To build my confidence, I started with lying down in the middle of the streets to dancing on it.

I had to do it step by step!

Building the ability of tension I could handle one step at a time.

When you imagine where it is that you wish to be, it can feel overwhelming thinking about how you can get there.

You have to start small!

Just like going to the gym. To be able to push 100kg, you have to start with an empty bar. Each week you add 2.5kg to the bar and within 10 months you will have 100kg on the bar.

This is the same principle that applies to building a business or being in a relationship. You start small and build your way up.

This is something we focus on in week 2 ‘Playing with Tension’ in my program Quantum Leap. If you do wish to sign up, send me a message or click the link in my bio.

Tune into my latest episode to hear more about my experience on how I went from being homebound by social anxiety to dancing in the middle of the streets with the playing with tension method.

Wanting change and creating change are two different realities.

When we first discover that change is possible, we desire what that will look like for us, but most of us get stuck here.

We just continue to consume information rather than actually implement it.

Going from wanting to having it is a whole challenge itself.

Ask yourself the question, 👉🏾 Who would I be if it was already here? 👉🏾 What would my life look like on a day-to-day basis? 👉🏾 How would I think and feel?

This step allows you to see what you have to embody and what you have to let go of.

This is how you manifest!

The ego will do whatever it can to keep you where you are, even if where you are isn’t where you wish to be.

In layman's terms, under pressure, your thoughts will convince you that you’re not ready or capable of making those changes. Simply to keep you safe and comfortable.

The problem is we identify with our thoughts. BUT, you are not your thoughts! Rather the one who is listening.

I know it’s confusing, you’re probably thinking about it right now 😆

Allow me to simplify, your subconscious mind is like a hard drive that can be programmed through repetition. Its main purpose is to keep you safe and alive. Therefore, anything that threatens your comfort zone is automatically rejected.

That is why many of us find ourselves sabotaging our efforts for change.

When you combine this wisdom with shadow work, as you’ve seen in my previous episode, you will feel unstoppable!

We make so many plans yet we find ourselves sabotaging any momentum we have built. Not just once, but again and again and again. This feels like absolute sh*t! Leaving you to the conclusion that you are just destined to fail.

This is far from the truth.

The self that is sabotaging is an aspect of you that perceives your goal as a threat. A threat to your current identity and way of life.

You have to do shadow work to find out which part of you sabotaging what you want. This allows you to see the fear and understand what it is really going on within you, rather than just labeling and judging yourself as “lazy”.

Let me give you an example of money.

You wish to create financial freedom in your life. You know exactly what you need to do to create that yet, you find yourself paralysed when it comes to taking those steps.

There is a part of you that perceives financial freedom as a threat. Why? Money = power and power is dangerous.

As a child you may have witnessed your father who was the money man - he always had the last say. Your mother was constantly left in silence and feeling powerless. So you promised to never be like him.

Now 20 years later, your relationship with money is nonexistent. No matter how many books you read on it or how many videos you watch, you can’t seem to change your reality.

So what is happening here?

To be loved and accepted by your mother, a part of you is self-sabotaging any efforts you make towards financial freedom to make sure you don’t become the man you promised to never be like.

So a part of you fears that if you do become financially free, you will also lose your mum. I know, it’s mad!

So next time you catch yourself saying ‘I’m just lazy’, think again.

Tune into this episode to find out how you can heal this.

That feeling, that no matter what you do, you always end up in the same place.

It feels defeating when you want to make changes to your life so you make a plan and when it comes to taking action you feel paralyzed by your emotions.

So you power through it and then a week later sabotage all that you have done.

Frustrated and mad at yourself that you are just meant for failure.

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will control your life and you will call it fate.” - Carl Jung.

When we actively sabotage all our efforts to make changes in our life we can easily feel like it’s just not meant to be.

That we are simply not meant to have what it is that we desire.

But what’s really happening is..

There is a part of your subconscious mind that perceives your goal as a threat. Whether it’s finding love or creating financial freedom.

This is painful to even comprehend. Why would I not want it when that’s all I think about? Consciously yes, but unconsciously that outcome is dangerous. Therefore, a part of you will self-sabotage the process.

Shadow work is about finding that part of you and understanding why that outcome is perceived as a threat.

This process is the missing piece of all of our lives! But be warned, it’s the most challenging and painful journey one can endure. BUT the most life-changing!