K-Town Rumble

Is there ever a good time to introduce your boyfriend/girlfriend to your parents? In this week’s question, Janet and Brian talk about when the “best” time is to introduce your significant other. They share a bit about how they’ve handled the situation in the past and things might get a little personal as they share stories about who they’ve dated in the past.

  You’re also going to hear some of the back and forth about Asian parents and juggling the expectations that come from living with multiple cultures. In general, how do you approach this situation without having your parents freak out? Honestly, it might not be possible.   Hear it in this week’s Twenty Minute Tuesday episode!   Reddit Topic Link: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/iixa16/whens_the_best_time_to_tell_asian_parents_you/   Check out the K-Town Rumble Website: https://www.ktownrumble.com/   Follow us on social media: https://www.instagram.com/ktownrumble/ https://www.instagram.com/therealjanetlee/ https://www.instagram.com/thisisbrianlee/

Happy 6 year anniversary!

  Janet and Brian go head to head comparing their 5 reasons why they think that their relationship works for their wedding anniversary. They make a little game where they both write down the 5 top reasons why they believe their relationship works and then compare those reasons on the show without telling each other what those reasons are before the cameras start rolling. They take time to break down some of their experience and whether they agree with each other or not.   In this episode, you’re going to hear about communication, conflict resolution, values that line up, and maybe some stories that might not line up.   Tune in to hear more in this entertaining episode where you get to hear it from them!   Check out the K-Town Rumble Website: https://www.ktownrumble.com/   Follow us on social media: https://www.instagram.com/ktownrumble/ https://www.instagram.com/therealjanetlee/ https://www.instagram.com/thisisbrianlee/

In this week's episode of TMT Janet and Brian Answer a question surrounding the topic of passive-aggressive parents. many of us who grew up with people that come from a country where expressing your opinions, sharing your thoughts, or even showing emotions could be perceived as negative. In this situation, the OP talks about how they've developed some mental health-related issues including anxiety and some other toxic behaviors and they learn from their parents.

  Janet and Brian do their best to share from their experience where what seems to be passive-aggressive Asian parents comes from as well as what somebody could do about it when they are dealing with similar struggles as a result of how they were raised.   Tune in to hear more about some of the ideas that they have to share.   Reddit Topic Link: https://www.reddit.com/r/AsianParentStories/comments/ifs586/are_your_parents_extremely_passive_aggressive/   Check out the K-Town Rumble Website: https://www.ktownrumble.com/   Follow us on social media: https://www.instagram.com/ktownrumble/ https://www.instagram.com/therealjanetlee/ https://www.instagram.com/thisisbrianlee/

For those of you that have Korean parents, have you ever noticed that your parents never really seem to apologize? Brian has a realization that he doesn’t ever really remember his parents ever apologizing. Janet shares some pretty interesting insights when it comes to Korean culture as to why this could be.

  From an American standpoint, children are taught the action of apologizing without emphasis on reconciliation, whereas Koreans are not really taught the idea of forgiveness. Of course, this is speaking in general, but it brings up some pretty interesting realizations when it comes to trying to understand why it is that previous generations didn’t seem to emphasize learning this.   Having this understanding may help piece together some of the confusing differences that many of us have experienced during our multicultural upbringings. Tune in to this week's episode "vs Apologizing" to hear more.   Check out the K-Town Rumble Website: https://www.ktownrumble.com/   Follow us on social media: https://www.instagram.com/ktownrumble/ https://www.instagram.com/therealjanetlee/ https://www.instagram.com/thisisbrianlee/

Janet and Brian address the question “has anyone else noticed that the US has a lot of resentment and spitefulness?“ They share their ideas around the amount of conflict that occurs between different subgroups (or categories or whatever you wanna call them) of people.

  Some of the ideas that they talk about are centered around the idea that when there are differences there are more opportunities for conflict. America in comparison to many other countries is very young and is still working to establish its identity. It’s not so unlike many of us who come from multicultural backgrounds trying to reconcile opposing ideas from our eastern and western influences. They also take some time touching on the major influence that media plays on the perception of the general public.   In the end, you’ll see that this type of conflict is not isolated to Americans. They expand the conversation to discuss what this type of conflict actually looks like in Korea as well. Tune in to this week's episode of TMT to hear more.   Reddit Topic Link: https://www.reddit.com/r/asianamerican/comments/i5zhy0/has_anyone_else_noticed_that_the_us_has_a_lot_of/   Check out the K-Town Rumble Website: https://www.ktownrumble.com/   Follow us on social media: https://www.instagram.com/ktownrumble/ https://www.instagram.com/therealjanetlee/ https://www.instagram.com/thisisbrianlee/

Janet and Brian are both very much into food. This is in a foodie-type way as well as from a health-conscious perspective. They talk about the changes in their eating habits since the beginning of lockdown and social distancing. They discuss the “quarantine 15”, stress eating, Asian (cultural) relationship with food, dieting, (not) meal prepping, and how it all relates to health.

  They also get into how physical appearance is a significant driver in Korea in terms of the “dieting” that often trends alongside how celebrities are portrayed in media and how it relates to the standards of beauty. Sharing their experience with many of the diets they have tried (including whole-food plant-based vegan), like so many, they’ve come to the conclusion that having a balanced diet means different things for different people.   Expect some tips as well as to how they make eating some of the major staples of Korean food as easy and accessible as possible. When it comes down to it, making it easy to do the things you want to do gives you more opportunities to do the things you want to do including eating healthy. Janet shares how she negotiated her way to a Korean side dish subscription.   Check out the K-Town Rumble Website: https://www.ktownrumble.com/   Follow us on social media: https://www.instagram.com/ktownrumble/ https://www.instagram.com/therealjanetlee/ https://www.instagram.com/thisisbrianlee/

In this week's TMT episode, Janet and Brian go deep into talking about ideas around forgiveness when it comes to dealing with immigrant parents. In this story, a 30+ year old posted about being raised by neglectful and abusive parents, who then, as an adult, distanced themselves for 7 years only to return to find that nothing has changed.

Many Asian-Americans see how they “should have been raised,” under a westernized lens of what a loving and supportive family looks like. Janet and Brian go on to explain what this looks like in their individual experiences, While also explaining that even for them there are still past events that they continue to struggle with. It makes it easier to forgive when you are able to empathize with the people who need to be forgiven.

Forgiving people can be especially difficult when the people that you need to forgive don't even realize that they have done anything wrong, but there is a secret to this. The secret is that forgiveness is not something that you give two other people it's something that you give to yourself.

  Reddit Topic Link: https://www.reddit.com/r/AsianParentStories/comments/i5v8xz/as_a_30_year_old_adult_im_realizing_that_maybe/   Check out the K-Town Rumble Website: https://www.ktownrumble.com/   Follow us on social media: https://www.instagram.com/ktownrumble/ https://www.instagram.com/therealjanetlee/ https://www.instagram.com/thisisbrianlee/

For a while, it felt like everything had changed due to the COVID-19 pandemic. After about half a year of social distancing, Janet and Brian share how they have adjusted to a new way of living along with the rest of the world. They share how they’ve adjusted to this “new normal”. In this episode, you’re going to hear about:

  - Working from home - Conflict at home because of being around each other all the time - Changes in the way that we all communicate - How they eat - How they exercise now - Stopping drinking   + Random stories about all of the above   Tune into this week’s episode, “vs The New Normal (Life During the COVID-19 Pandemic)”   Check out the K-Town Rumble Website: https://www.ktownrumble.com/   Follow us on social media: https://www.instagram.com/ktownrumble/ https://www.instagram.com/therealjanetlee/ https://www.instagram.com/thisisbrianlee/

Janet and Brian answer the question of whether or not they've also experienced feeling "left out" when it comes to relating to their heritage. In this episode, Brian goes in-depth to answer this question as it relates very closely to the experiences that he has had growing up in a community with limited exposure to Asian culture.

  Going into details about how to relate back with heritage as well as the crucial role it plays in forming a well-rounded identity by giving context to where multi-cultural people can find a place in the world. It's certainly not an easy lesson to be learned, but it is possible to get there with less struggle.   Tune in as your hosts share some ideas surrounding the ability to relate with people in our community because not all of us had the fortune of growing up in environments that allowed us to easily do so.   Check out the K-Town Rumble Website: https://www.ktownrumble.com/   Follow us on social media: https://www.instagram.com/ktownrumble/ https://www.instagram.com/therealjanetlee/ https://www.instagram.com/thisisbrianlee/

Janet and Brian discuss through an interesting class taught by Dr. Sam Richards about the "Ways of 'Being' in the World". Two students, one of the Western influence and the other of the Eastern influence, are asked similar questions about how it is that they felt about their grades and themselves in other areas of their lives. The differences are quite stark when you point them out.

In general, those, of the East Asian cultural influence have a tendency to underestimate their abilities while those influenced by the Western world tend to overestimate their abilities. Sound familiar? Ever feel a bit strange when being asked to talk about your accomplishments? Well, there's a reason for that.

There are few other items such as our focus towards our strengths and weaknesses, what characteristics of a good reputation look like, and what type of areas lead to a successful life.

Hear Janet and Brian weigh-in on the accuracy of the concepts that are shared in this class. In this week's episode, "vs Eastern vs Western Culture (Ways of 'Being' in the World)".

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