Keeping It Young

Part 2

4. Insist on happy compliance

1. If your child is not happy when you correct them, discipline is needed
2. If your child will not comply when you speak to them, discipline is needed
3. If you cannot take them to an event because they won't behave, discipline is needed
   1. If this is an exception, then you are on the right path
   2. If this is the norm, then you are not

5. Speak softly, directly, specifically, and only once

1. When you have to reason with a toddler, you are teaching them to comply only if they want to do so
2. If you practice replacement parenting, they will not learn to have self-denial and self-control

Suggestions for Training Toddlers (Part 1)

Prepare for the long haul, but get started.

1. 1. This is a beginning and it will take adulthood before you are officially done
   2. It is always easier to correct a child while they are younger

Correct every selfish and willful act

1. 1. Do it every time - even if it is awkward and difficult
      1. In a church auditorium
      2. In a store
   2. Refuse the temptation to let it go
   3. Never assume a child will be better when they are older
      • They won't unless they are taught and corrected

Discipline predictably

1. 1. Use simple phrases
   2. Calmly and matter of factly follow through with consistency
   3. Interrupt everything for training

Five Ways to Damage Your Marriage

Review from Episode 233

1. Neglect it - again
2. Treat each other disrespectfully - again
3. Separate from each other as much as possible

This week...

4. Resist our God given responsibilities

• Husbands have to perfect love
• Wives have to master submission

5. Fail to kiss and make-out

1. This can be a challenge because life is so busy
2. Don't stop working at it
   1. Kiss goodbye
   2. Kiss hello
   3. Kiss goodnight
   4. Kiss for no reason
3. Making out takes some time
   1. Slow down and focus on each other
   2. Remind yourself of how wonderful you are together

Five Ways to Damage Your Marriage (Part 1)

1. Neglect it - again

• Neglect occurs over a process of time
• Neglect always diminishes value
• Failure to invest over a process of time erodes our marriages

2. Treat each other disrespectfully - again

• When we aren't kind
• When we are rude
• When we never express love

3. Separate from each other as much as possible

• Think me and not we
• If you are always heading in different directions, your marriage will suffer
• If you never take the time to talk, your marriage will suffer
• We have found that we have to schedule time each day . . .

Christian Womanhood

1. It involves cultivating selflessness
   1. She is warm
      1. Safe and trustworthy v. 11-12
      2. Good - agreeable, pleasant, better (root is joyful and delightful)
      3. Illustration "You're better than that"
      4. Don't allow issues to turn you into a hard, cold, sarcastic, eye-rolling wife)
      5. Financially - no need of spoil
      6. Personally - does good and not evil
         1. Be careful that the familiar does not become an irritation
      7. Deeply - "good and not evil"
         1. Can He share? When and how he wants to share?
      8. Romantically - intimately - no need of spoil, good and not evil
         1. Beware of hurts, bitterness, frustrations, struggles
            1. Talk them out, work it out, get help-out
         2. Don't fizzle; make it sizzle

1. She is wise
   1. Think - every time
   2. Be kind - every time
   3. Psalm 19:14
   4. Psalm 141:3
   5. Eph. 4:32

1. She wants him to win v. 23
   1. Follow him - treat him like the leader God made him to be Eph 5:22-24
   2. Promote him - with reverence and awe Eph 5:33
   3. Be counter cultural

Conclusion:

Pro 31:28-31

So many women seek validation, praise, honor, status

They want the priceless label, but sell themselves short

What does Biblical Womanhood Look Like?

Consider the word virtuous

1. It involves cultivating strength
   1. Virtuous is Strong in purity, chastity, and righteousness
   2. Modern dictionaries get it all wrong
      1. One strives to be virtuous to appear to be better than others
      2. Bible- it doesn't make you better but priceless
         1. Dictionaries:
            1. Collins - to do what is expected and feeling pleased with themselves, perhaps too pleased
            2. Cambridge - Thinks oneself morally better than others, only does good so he can feel virtuous
            3. Oxford - behaving in a very good or moral way, irreproachable, claiming to behave better or have a higher moral standard than others.
            4. Modern philosophies get it wrong:
               1. A strong woman follows her heart
                  1. The heart is deceitful and desperately wicked
               2. She shows her authentic self
                  1. In my flesh dwells no good thing
               3. She cultivates her own interests
                  1. Be kindly affectioned one to another . . . in honor preferring
               4. She is self-aware and continually growing into herself
                  1. For me to live is Christ and to die is gain
               5. She stands up for herself and and is not afraid to share her thoughts and ideas regardless of what others think
               6. She speaks her heart and mind
                  1. Whoso keeps his mouth and tongue keeps his soul from trouble Proverbs 21:23
2. Same word for going into battle
3. Root is to twist, writhe, twirl, dance
4. The Virtuous woman is strong
5. She is prepared for battle
6. She cha-cha-chas her way through her busy days
7. Cf. Ephesians 6
   1. She is strong 6:10
   2. She is ready for battle 6:11
   3. She is prepared for whatever comes her way 6:13

It involves cultivating a strong relationship with God v. 30

1. A woman who fears the Lord
2. Can't get enough of God
3. Is in awe of God
4. Will be praised

Dave and Bethlie's youngest child, Charity Young, joins them for this episode. As 15 year old young lady, how did God speak to Charity recently when she read through Proverbs 31?

Listen, and enjoy!

Proverbs 31:1-9

1. Verse 1 Taught = to chasten, discipline, instruct, admonish
2. Verse 3 Stay away from women because they destroy kings
   1. This is counsel which Solomon in later years chose to ignore
3. Verse 4-9 Stay away from alcohol
   1. Kings shouldn't drink the stuff
      1. They can cause you to forget the law
      2. they can cause you to pervert judgment
   2. Alcohol use should be reserved only for those who need it
      1. Someone who is dying
      2. Someone who is bitterly ill
   3. Keep away from it so you can be a wise leader

Part 3

We want our children to have good appetites.

Appetites for eternal things over earthly things

1. God's Word
2. God' Love
3. Diligence
4. Faithfulness
5. Character
6. Integrity
7. Family

We want our children to be successful adults

1. Prepared
2. All ready going that way before they get there
   1. Parenting is intended to teach our teens to parent themselves
   2. Know where you are taking your kids
   3. Give them opportunities to prove they are getting there

Part 2

The goals we should have according to the verse

We want our children to have good behavior.

This idea shows up especially in the early chapters

1. Listen to our commands
2. Heed our laws
3. Do right and pursue wisdom

Teach them to obey

1. Expectation
2. Communication
3. Follow-through
4. Correction (Proverbs 13:24, 19:18, 22:15, 23:13-14, 29:15,17)