Someone asked me this week, “How is it that you are working so hard and yet having so much fun?” Well, the secret is I am a big kid, and every day I spend absolutely as much time as possible utterly captivated by wonder and playing as hard as I can.
A wise person once said, “The end of childhood is when things cease to astonish us. When the world seems familiar, when one has got used to existence, one has become an adult.” So clearly, I have not reached that point, and I hope I never will. My truest most genuine self is a child, consumed with insatiable wonder and fascinated with virtually everything and everyone he encounters.
Of course there was a time when I wasn’t my truest most genuine self. There was a time I was far more insecure and sought the approval of very grown up, very old, reverent and respectable people. Lucky for me I never got their approval. But because I wanted it so bad there was a time when my own sense of spirituality had become too abstract, too esoteric, too locked down, and not at all genuine.
Now I know if you’ve become too holy, too wise and too mature to play, you’re headed in the wrong direction. Wonder and play are the fountain of youth, and the doors to the kingdom of heaven can only be opened by a child.
So at some point I’d had enough and finally realized I had to be the real me, no matter what, whether it meant I was a sinner or a saint, a hero or a heretic, I had to put on my own face and be ok with being just genuinely Dean.
The great thinker and civil rights activist Howard Thurman once said, “There is something in every one of you that waits and listens for the sound of the genuine in yourself. It is the only true guide you will ever have. And if you cannot hear it, you will all of your life spend your days on the ends of strings that somebody else pulls.”
I listened for the sound of the genuine in me and discovered that deep inside, my truest most genuine self is a kid on a trampoline. And even though I began my life in someone else’s story, my only real ambition now in life is to finish it in my own.
And my story is a children’s book. I’ve read Dostoyevsky. I prefer Dr.Suess, because it was Dr. Seuss who said, “Adults are obsolete children.” Jim Henson said, “The most sophisticated people I know - inside they are all children.” R.C. Ferguson said, “A man is getting old when he walks around a puddle instead of through it.” George Bernard Shaw said, “We don't stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.” And C.S. Lewis said, “Some day you will be old enough to start reading fairy tales again.”
For me, a child will always hold rank over a theologian. Because as they say, you will always find more happiness growing down than growing up.
So here’s me, heading out the door to go play, encouraging you to find your genuine self too. The genuine you is the truest guide you’ll ever have. And who knows, maybe you find a kid on a trampoline.
And maybe, instead of telling that kid what to do, maybe today is the day you let that kid teach you how to build yourself a beautiful life.