I have come to believe that one of the goals of a healthy human life—if not the chief goal—is to become one’s own true friend. It sounds strange but I cannot think of anything more beneficial for you and I and those whom our lives touch than for us to learn to like ourselves and learn to enjoy our own company.Human beings have a difficult road to navigate because we actually need not one but two sources of value to feel complete. We need to value ourselves and be valued by others. It’s that second one that always distracts us from working on the first. No matter how much we wish it wasn’t true, some of our value needs to come from outside us. We are social creatures. It’s part of being a mammal. We don’t hatch fully capable of caring for ourselves. We are born utterly helpless and incapable, and if someone else doesn’t choose to value us enough to care for us, we will die. That is the truth, and that truth stays with us. There is always a voice in each of us whispering, “If no one loves me, I will die.”The problem then comes when we spend too much of our time seeking or even dreaming of the love of others. Our fixation with celebrities is just one example. Why are famous people important to us? Is it not our own dreams of what it must be like to be so recognized, so seen, so acknowledged and loved? What must it be like to have fans? Why has social media become so important? Is it not something to do with getting clicks and likes and followers? The idea that you too can be an influencer! There’s an entire generation among us now who think it’s more important to post about a moment than to simply live the moment. If a tree falls in the woods and no one posted it, did it happen?The answer is simple. Yes, it did. But if you only witnessed it through the lens on your phone then you missed it. Take it from someone who is kinda sorta in the media business. Someone who regularly gets told that I don’t post enough and it’s holding back my brand. Put the phone down. Stop worrying about how important your moments are to others and start learning how to make them important to you. Because self worth is still the foundational worth. If your value doesn’t begin with you then everything and anything else that gets poured into you falls right out the bottom like pouring light into a black hole. Yes, there are other people required for a full sense of value, but your own self worth still has to be the majority shareholder in the company. You have to retain a controlling interest in you.So, just a reminder and an encouragement. As important as being loved by others will always be, self-worth is still the foundational worth. It is still the most overlooked form of love and yet it is still the foundation of your meaning, your ability to truly love others, and may even be the foundation for why others love you. One thing is certain, learning to love yourself is the foundation for building yourself a beautiful life.